post MI mental health

[ShamuCatlover]

Hi again,

Almost 5 weeks since my husband’s MI and 2 stents & his mental health is taking a hit. I’m sure this is normal, and I’ve told him this many times. He’s had a trauma and realised he’s not immortal. The wait for his next treatment was expected to have been done by now, but he’s on a waiting list, so doesn’t have a date yet. This is what is hitting him the most, the “not knowing” when his next stents will be done. He feels like his life’s on hold and is struggling with this. Our son gets married in a few weeks, but he’s now worried that he’ll not be well enough to travel, as we’ll have at least a 4 hour drive to get to the venue.

Any advice as to how I can help him would be appreciated, thank you.

[Afibflipper]

Very sorry for the current status-financially, would it be possible to ask if a private consultation could move things along (I don’t know if it would, just a thought)

Could a bit of counselling help with relaxation techniques. Maybe travel be done in short bursts over maybe 2-3 days with a few rest stops to walk around at the stops, sleep over maybe?! To hire a wheelchair so he’s not over exerted - (obviously this is subject to finances, doctors approvals etc)

Then if it really can’t be changed, maybe photographer or someone else set up a live video link between venue & home (not like being there in person but maybe next best thing.) Good luck

[ShamuCatlover in reply to Afibflipper]

thank you for your response. He’s had counselling before so may be possible to do more, but there is a waiting list for that too.

We’re travelling to the wedding the day before, with rest stops on the way there & back, plus We’ve booked 2 overnight stays too. He’s determined to go so having a link is a no go. 🙂

[Afibflipper in reply to ShamuCatlover]

I know waiting lists are terrible for everything - private counselling is available - if you use Apps then Headspace is pretty good & 10 days free I think. Finding something relaxing - don’t laugh but the intricate mindfullness adult colouring books where you concentrate to stay within the narrow lines - even 10 minutes of concentration on diverting the mind from worry can help.

See if the venue your using to stay at - ask if they’d make consideration to check in early on arrival then he can get a good sleep or at least a nap might help fatigue the following day.

I really hope everything goes well xx