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Dealing with stressful event

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Had my most stressful day yesterday, due to work matters, it's set my chest pain off again and made me very tearful i feel I've undone all the good work thats taken 2.5 months to achieve and time I've spent trying to relax and take each day in my stride..

Any tips on coping please😕xx

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BeKind28- profile image
BeKind28-

Hello :-)

You have not undone all the hard work you have been doing you had a little set back one that you can learn from and should feel proud you know what has caused it and you can now look at ways to cope in these situations which others that have had the same experience hopefully will come along and give you their advice :-)

Habits of getting stressed and trying to cope takes some doing so be proud how far you have come

Yesterday was an off day and today is a new day focus on the here and now and you will get back on track :-) x

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Quaddie in reply to BeKind28-

Thank you I was worrying that sobbing on and off would bring on another event thank you for your kind words and you're right...

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BeKind28- in reply to Quaddie

:-) x

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TAVIshock in reply to BeKind28-

V sorrry to hear of your distress. However the last thing you should do is to abandon the mental adjustments that have brought you benefits in the past. Heart pains are a source of worry and an additional signal of stress. Please try to get beyond theis as you have, successfully, done in the past

warm good wiashes

Tavishock

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BeKind28- in reply to TAVIshock

:-) x

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Quaddie in reply to TAVIshock

Thank you.

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Happyrosie

as BeKind says.

Recovery isn’t a straight line upwards. You’ve already come so far and you can pat yourself on the back (if you can reach!) that you have done so.

You are aware of the help that breathing exercises can bring I expect already. Sit back and do something now!

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Quaddie in reply to Happyrosie

Thank you... yes I did a lot of deep breathing previously because I was tending to hyperventilate, I'll start it again ....

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MilkfairyHeart Star

Perhaps see this as a blip. BeKind has already given you some great advice.

After over 11 years of living with vasospastic angina, I can still sometimes have problems keeping calm especially when I have to go to A&E and be admitted to hospital.

Emotional, mental and physical stress along with the cold are the main triggers for my angina.

Recognising you are feeling stressed means hopefully you can learn stratergies that can help you in the future.

I have in my coping tool box the following:

Breathing and relaxation techniques,

Yoga nidra and alternate nostril breathing.

Visualisation and self hypnosis.

Mindfulness Meditation.

Yoga and Tai chi.

Listen to calming music.

I found this free app helpful too. It has lots of stratergies to help.

insighttimer.com/en-gb

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Quaddie in reply to Milkfairy

Thank you for your kind words and suggestions I think that stress is definitely my trigger too my chest feels tighter, I'll have a look at more ways to incorporate relaxation as that's the thing i lack doing. Also I'll look at website you sent too.

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Traveldreams

so difficult to try and keep on an even keel and I honestly don’t think that the cold weather helps the anxious feeling with heart issues.

Take care x

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fishonabike

in addition to what others have said here, i would add: cry when you need to, find somewhere safe to scream & shout when you need to, kick the sofa, tear up the rubbish or curl up on the couch and cuddle a pillow, blanket or person when you get home ...... and laugh whenever you can

don't bottle up emotions, let them out, find a way to express them - we all have times when things get out of our control, but you are doing the right thing: you see you had a problem, you deal with iy as best you can at the time, then when you feel ok you look back and see what you could have done differently - that's how we learn and move on.... snakes and ladders: learn to recognise the snakes and find ways to step around them, sometimes a short slide down leads to a longer ladder up🙂

if things are tough at work is there a human resources department or a union rep who could listen and help you find ways of changing the situation?

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Quaddie in reply to fishonabike

Such wise words I think I am angry at myself for letting myself get so stressed in life which led to the MI and TSS event in the first place. Thank you.

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fishonabike in reply to Quaddie

i hope that you learn not to be angry with yourself, it does not help, as i found to my cost

you can only do your best with the tools and skills you have at the time

i don't know if you have joined the facebook Takotsubo Support Group but many of us find the support of others, who have been through the same condition, really helpful - lots more wise words there and tips on elaxation and managing stress

i used to kick the sofa a lot!

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Quaddie in reply to fishonabike

Thank you😊

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Choccie55

Perhaps look into mindfulness and meditation as it has helped me deal with my anxiety. Check out your local NHS Talking Therapies as often you can self refer.

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Quaddie in reply to Choccie55

Thanks I will do. I must make time for myself relaxation thats what I find hard. NHS talking therapies look good too.

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Jetcat

Stick at it quaddie. Nothing in life ever runs to absolute clock work remember.! These things are sent to test us.👍

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Smitty1956

Hi, Quaddie,

Stress and anxiety are absolutely awful! I have anxiety disorder and, sometimes, panic attacks. I have read some articles that look at connections between stress and heart disease.

I think that BeKind28 really offered some sage advice on your setback. You have made some strides in dealing with your anxiety! All is not lost with having one bad day that got away from you.

Over the last year, or so, I have been trying to get more control over my anxiety. The truth is that anxiety disorder can never be “cured,” but we can learn techniques/strategies to help us cope better with it. I am currently reading a book called Rewire Your Anxious Brain. The author, who is a Ph.D. in neuroscience, outlines the pathways that lead to anxious thoughts and associated behaviors so that we can understand the mechanics of how we become stressed/anxious. Plus, the book details strategies for dealing with each pathway. I am just starting the book.

I have a little toolbox of strategies/techniques that I use to try to control my anxiety, but I am very much a work in progress. Most recently, I have tried the tapping technique. It involves using your fingers to tap on certain pressure points on your face/body. I used that technique when I last visited my cardiologist in November. I was very stressed out during that visit.

While I am driving, I like to pop a strong peppermint candy into my mouth. The strong flavor and scent force my mind away from triggering thoughts/worries, and make me focus on the present moment.

People on this forum have provided some positive suggestions/ thoughts with you that I hope you will try. Mainly, I will give this advice: “Don’t let the hard days win.” You had a bad day/episode—you learned something from it—get up tomorrow and start over again.

Best wishes to you! ❤️

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Quaddie in reply to Smitty1956

Thank you 😊

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