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[Zed1063]

hi.

Does anyone else cry then feel

Unwell. I feel so emotional I have diazepam but not taken any as worry about taking them then get to think I’m going to make myself I’ll again as I’m crying!

[Bingofox007]

I absolutely sob uncontrollably at times when I’m unwell. Also when I’m well sometimes. Bless ya. I think it can be quite normal snd almost part of a grieving process for loss of health, part frustration at feeling unwell and just generally feeling rotten. Currently having an RA flare up caused by high blood sugars, bowels, bones, you name it all inflamed and hurt. I’m a blubbering wreck. Even seeing people cry on TV sets me off at the moment. You’re not alone. Take care 🦊x

[Dogloverxthree]

Hi zed yes I cry constantly,

[Zed1063 in reply to Dogloverxthree]

I worry so much about my heart when I cry but then say it is natural to have tears. I hope you feel better soon x

[Captain_Birdseye]

I get quite teary when I'm anxious, it's part and parcel of some peoples make up - but it's normal and healthy to cry... a lot better than letting it bottle up!

[LaceyLady]

I’ve had SO much happening to me for past 4 years, yes often. Can’t get answers and treatment I require. Yes a lot

[Dogloverxthree in reply to LaceyLady]

What’s T2D just read your bio? So bored just going through old posts for something to do !!!!!

[LaceyLady in reply to Dogloverxthree]

Type 2 Diabetes or ‘Dire betes’ as I can describe it

[Dogloverxthree]

Sorry my last post was so short it zoomed off accidentally. I am suffering as you do but my doctor refused to give me diazepam take one they will just calm you down my old doctor prescribed just for a short term years ago, I only took one when needed not on a regular basis they were just like a comfort blanket in my bag in fact they went out of date and I had to get rid of them, but this doctor refuses saying I might become addicted to them I suggested she look at my notes to see how unlikely this is, but all she wants is to pump me with anti depressants which you can become dependant on. Do you live alone or have you got someone to talk to when your at your lowest there’s so many people on here you can write to who are all sailing around in this boat including old ladies like me!!!!

[Zed1063 in reply to Dogloverxthree]

Hi

My doctor has given me some but I get scared to take them as not sure I can with having a HA a few months ago. I live alone and are alone in this world, I know that sounds sad but that is how it is! I don't want to take antidepressants as they only mask the issues. I am just so down and sad, that is all I can say I understand others must feel as I do but when you lay crying over the night and have no one it is a scarry place to be in! I then say that if I was not here it really would not matter!

[wischo in reply to Zed1063]

I have heart issues and take a valium as required especially if I feel sad and depressed. they certainly do me no harm and really help as opposed to antidepressants that to be fair made me completely out of it ,drowsy and no emotions at all. Just be careful as they can become habit forming but otherwise to me are a great help for anxiety and depression. And crying for no good reason is a sign of anxiety or depression which I feel a lot of heart patients suffer from. Best of luck either way.

[Hidden]

Dealing with any health issues is an emotional journey at times - my husband isn’t someone who shows emotions but the past 3 years with his heart health he has cried more than he ever has in his life. It’s not a daily or weekly thing , he describes it as “ every so often it creeps up and bites you on the backside “ a good cry is ok, it’s good to let go , especially when you feel ill but if you feel like you need more support seek out a counsellor , your GP can refer you and chat with your GP re worries around taking antidepressants

Good luck

[Tootsie37]

I'm very emotional and cry for no reason I can be cooking the tea and tears just flow even just righting now my eyes are all teary.... it's certainly an emotional journey we are all on .... your not on your own ♥️😘

[Hidden]

We cry because we are grieving for what we once had or knew. I cry, I think I cry every day. I cry because iam in a situation that has shocked me. What is hard for me is to try and stop worrying. You feel alone your thoughts race. Your peers don't understand. We are struggling through unprecedented times. And to be ill in all this turmoil is even harder. It can drag you down and I don't know the answer as iam still trying to find it.

[Zed1063 in reply to Hidden]

Hi it is so true what you write I cry and cry. I sit in my bed during the night hours alone thinking no knowing of where to go. I have a business I want to close owing to all the stress then that makes me cry even more! I then have funny feelings and wonder if this is it!

[Hidden in reply to Zed1063]

I cry alot. Just feel alone. It is hard I don't know the answer really. You try to push through it but it is just so difficult. Being an engineer I am trying to fix myself but I carnt. I possibly read up too much about my congenital condition and it can cause me to become scared and more worried. But I just want to feel my old self? See I don't know what to do I have to live with this body so how do I explain it to a doctor or nurse what I can and carnt do to improve my physical and mental feelings? I carnt have an operation as it would cause other issues. But they say the old heart is stable. So I take the tablets, great my blood pressure has come down nicely from 170/104 to 100/70 but I just feel more tired and lethargic. That then compounds the mental worry as you just don't feel normal, well normal for me. But me trying to fix myself I then think would I be better to have higher blood pressure? And live with the consequences? See for some reason my cretanine levels went up. Now this then shows that the kidneys are sluggish. But kidney function can be effected if blood flow is low so is that because of low blood pressure. Or was it just dehydration? Which effects the blood. But can the medication have an effect.? And so journey keeps unfolding. Or is all these negative feelings just the mind playing tricks. But who has the answer's? The answer's lay within but it is a constant battle you have with yourself.

[Zed1063 in reply to Hidden]

It is so me!

I struggle all the time and become so low with it, I am on my own and think that makes it worse in a funny way as when I get up in the night I have no one to speak to or get a hug from, nothing just emptiness and it is doing me in!

[Helly75]

This is me all the time , my situation just won't stay stable so symptoms & new things keep happening. If things were stable I'd stand a chance of acceptance & being able to adapt but that's not reality at the moment. Be kind to yourself ,listen to your body & let your feelings out ,you aren't alone with this xxxx

[Qualipop]

I wish I could but don't seem able to except when my dog died unexpectedly. I've lived with extremely bad chronic pain for 30 years, now worse since heart attack. I have no quality of life, now can't even go to a local shop without bad pain. Many times it's so bad I feel a good cry would let out some of the emotion but I just seem numb.I often feel if I burst into tears my GP would realise just how bad I feel but it never happens. I just feel numb.

[Hidden]

I could cry but not quite at that stage ,get really tired of Dr s blaming and questioning each other and my progress is minimum, even today doubled my blood pressure pills but said it will take 3 weeks to feel better ,hate my life being in limbo find it hard sometimes to feel life is worth it

[Zed1063]

Oh please it is so very hard and there is little support out there for us folk! Doctors think we are a commodity, nothing more! It is so very hard I feel so poorly all the time and I get sick of putting up with it! I cry all the time

[Smitty1956 in reply to Zed1063]

Hi, Zed1063,

I am so sorry that you are feeling so poorly right now. Feeling bad can be overwhelming.

I am not a mental health doctor nor a medical doctor, but, to me, it sounds like you might be having anxiety attacks and/or also some depression. They sometimes do go hand-in-hand. I have been diagnosed with anxiety disorder, and that can be totally overwhelming at times. I do take alprazolam (Xanax) as needed, and it honestly does help. You may want to try taking the medication that your doctor has prescribed.

The night (wee hours) that I had my HA in March 2022, the doctors gave me an anti-anxiety drug in my IV. I had just had a NSTEMI HA, and the anti-anxiety drug was considered safe for me to take. My point is that the diazepam that your doctor prescribed for you would likely help you feel a little more calm and steady, and that alone might help you to feel a little better physically.

I would also suggest that you might want to discuss some possible counseling with your doctor. It is horribly difficult to deal with everything alone. I can truly understand because I am divorced, alone, and have had a very difficult 18 months since my HA.

You might check with your pharmacist/doctor to see if you might be able to take a diazepam pill and break it in half to take only half a dose at one time. That might make you feel a little more confident in taking that medication. Do check first though as some medications should not be broken/halved.

I hope that you can begin to start to feel better soon. Best wishes! ❤️

[Zed1063 in reply to Smitty1956]

HI I have anxiety your right, but the doctors dont want to put me on meds as they say they are not good for my heart, I am scared to take the diazapam as I think terrible things will happen - stupid I know but I don't know anyone taking them and feel so alone

[Smitty1956 in reply to Zed1063]

When we have anxiety attacks, the “trigger” that makes us panic may seem silly to others, and may not even make sense to us, but it still is “real” for us. Having anxiety is horrible, but taking a prescription like Xanax can help to calm you down relatively quickly. I take this medicine only if I really need it, and I usually take only 2.5 mg—sometimes 5.0 mg. It generally starts to calm me within about 20 minutes.

I think that it is likely more beneficial to our hearts to not have the stress and the related stress hormones that are released into our systems than the small dosage of alprazolam. You might discuss this with your doctor.

I really do understand your fear of taking medications now because of your heart. I am extremely cautious about taking any type of pain relief medication—so I end up living at times with a lot of aches and pain.

Since my HA, I have had two separate cataract surgeries and a colonoscopy, and various tests and procedures. In each case, the doctors told me that I could take Xanax prior to the surgery or procedure. I have also been given some serious drugs during the colonoscopy and surgeries including fentanyl and propofol. I would never think of taking these drugs on my own, but the doctors/anesthesiologists felt that they would be safe for me to take.

I hope that you can talk with your doctor and find something that might help you with calming your mind. It can be very hard to live every day with all of that stress. You might consider therapy. I have tried that too; it can help, but it does take time. I hope that your doctor can work with you to help you get some relief!

I am including a link for a video of a technique called hand-on-heart. To me, it is comforting to use. Perhaps, it can make you feel comforted too. The link also contains information on the 5-4-3-2-1 coping strategy.

urmc.rochester.edu/behavior...

Best wishes to you! ❤️

[Furryears]

I cry too, sometimes feel so emotional I don’t know what to do, something on the tv sets me off of just something in conversation I seem to be scared more than I’ve ever been !

[LaceyLady]

Pills for depression, anxiety, worry, frustration NO WAY Hosè, good dose of gin

[Dogloverxthree in reply to LaceyLady]

wish I liked booze teatotal I’m sad to say plus withAF don’t think it would be a good idea 🥴😩 but you fill your boots if it makes you happy I’m jealous 🤗

[LaceyLady]

I’ve PAF, I drink very very moderately and very very unusual for me to drown my sorrows. But occasionally getting 3 sheets makes me merry 😜 My trigger is mist likely stress but I also have Haemochromatisis a genetic disorder I’ve finally had diagnosed. So well n truly unblessed - PAF, T2D & GH 😤😡

[Midnight2022]

I cry every day at some point. If anything it helps relieve my feelings of frustration and anxiety from having PAF and long covid and losing my husband and my only child living on other side of world! I feel lonely but phoning a friend helps or I go to bed and listen to a novel! GP prescribed anti depressants but I’ve never taken them as I don’t want to take yet another pill!!