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OK guys, I have a "friend"who is 63 and on all the usual meds for heart failure (beta blockers, spironolactone, diuretics etc).

My "friend" has had some problems in the old trousers department. The flag not getting to the top of the flagpole sort of thing.

My "friend" is married with a very understanding wife and a rock solid marriage however with Christmas coming up he thought he would like to treat her!!!

Has anyone out there in a similar position ever used those little pills (Viagra) that are supposed to help?

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High_fives profile image
High_fives

Hello

I hope your friend won't mind if I comment even though my situation is different (not married, different meds, age 58)

With my Dr's knowledge I use viagra 'recreationally' to help with performance with a new partner, and quite often just because it feels great.

I prefer viagra over cialis because is only works for about 4/8 hours and you can pop it after dinner just for the night. The others are longer lasting (all weekend) but I find I get a stuffy nose with those, whereas with Viagra I just fall asleep afterwards. Viagra is available at Boots without prescription, I take the smallest dose.

There's also reputable research on the overall benefits of taking viagra/ cialis daily (it increases blood supply to all your organs) and may be protective against dementia, CHD as well as help with angina.

Sounds like your friend has an amazing family, all the best!!

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Curryandchips in reply toHigh_fives

Thank you so much for that. Do you think my friend should talk to his Cardioligist?

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High_fives in reply toCurryandchips

My suggestion would be he speak with the pharmacist, this will ensure there is no interaction with your friend's prescribed meds, and the pharmacist can tell him if he needs to ask a Dr first. Boots sell it from the pharmacy counter anyway. Boots call it Viagra Connect.

Seal59 profile image
Seal59

I am on this group on behalf of my husband. After his bypass he needed help with this and gets his prescribed by the doctor along with all his other meds.

Carercmb profile image
Carercmb

Tell your friend it’s great he now now feels “ up “ for it .

As a wife my husband got prescribed for the medication required in fact the GP prescribed a different one to viagra think it was called Cialis which has a more natural effect, no preparation or pre thinking which nearly always puts women off.

Unfortunately ill health and medication does have an effect in this department and this might be a short period you can both enjoy .Talk to your GP .

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Curryandchips in reply toCarercmb

Yeah! Its the talking bit that's part of the problem!

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Carercmb in reply toCurryandchips

Think of your GP as human . You don’t have to go into detail just that you are experiencing problems .

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PeterpPiper

The pills should be ok with the heart meds but as we all know you should check first with your doc and check first with your friend to see if it’s ok to have sex with his wife.

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MountainGoat52

I get Sildenafil (Viagra) on prescription because of the effect that blood pressure medication has on the subject under consideration. My GP said I would only get 4 tablets a month, so one "encounter" a week. I laughed and said "chance would be a fine thing". 😂

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Curryandchips in reply toMountainGoat52

4 times a month! You spoil her!

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MountainGoat52 in reply toCurryandchips

At my age! 😂😂😂😂

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Bingo88

Good morning Curryandchips. As already mentioned. Your friend should check with his doctor because of the meds he is on. Viagra I don't think is usually recommended if you have heart problems. But I have seen tv adverts for some gel that you can now get that is supposed to be good for men to get up for it. Hope you're friend has a good Christmas. Brian

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Silvasava

I'm pleased you posted this comment. The only med my husband is on is 5mg of Ramipril which has had an adverse effect for him. ( we won't mention my list,!) He did try the blue pill but it gave him a violent headache - we did laugh but it's just cuddles now, lovely as they are we both miss the intimacy.

Efka profile image
Efka

Firstly you are amazing!! Secondly I’m another wife who’s on here for my husband, thought I’d share for others also. Viagra et al doesn’t sit well with my husband he gets headaches etc. Our sex life has evolved with us so it’s now full of longer play dates and teasing (mental and physical) and actually lots of giggles which is so great.

I don’t think any woman would turn down the offer to be adored and lavished touch and sensation on. Let’s just say hands etc are incredible tools and then to finish with a quick ‘half mast’ is incredibly satisfying.

Equally for my man if he wants just a ‘medicinal quickie’ (I know I know these phrases helps us communicate clearly 🙈🙉🙊) I find in turn with my hands etc we can often get a ‘happy finish’ from a ‘half mast’. And of course relaxation and enjoyment just from the touch.

Ha ha I love it not the topic nor phrases I expected to write with my morning cuppa.

Enjoy and have fun!

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BicuspidBloke in reply toEfka

This is such a good reply! Understanding, helpful, supportive and also funny.

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Curryandchips in reply toEfka

Gave me a hot flush!

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Mitchum

I am 75 and my wife 74. When we married 53 years ago, little did we think we would still be enjoying "intimate exercise". But we are, with the aid of chemical assistance. We are both proud, possibly a little vain, of our physical appearance and consequently, as we have always done, keep up our exercise. We buy the pills online and I can manage with the lowest dose to, how shall I say, "finish the job". Viagra doesn't interact with my warfarin/statins or thyroxine either. Tell your "friend" to give it a go!

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Rogo23

I had a "friend" who had exactly the same kind of issues regarding flagpoles.He spoke to the doctor chappy who said that he was okay with small and blue, but no NO nitrates within 24-36 hours.

My "friend" was okay with that and decided on a private script for Cialis.

But it's the Dr chappy first.

And no gtn 24 Hours either side of blueness.

Anonymous 😂😉

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BicuspidBloke

My, er, friend is similar. Everything works fine from start to finish but the old tent pole is only at three quarters. He been putting it down to age, limited use for 18 months whilst opportunities were restricted due to heart worries, or just that the blood still isn't pumping enough. My, erm, friend has some old Sildenafil knocking around somewhere and will try it but he remembers that to get it he had to an answer some questions around heart health. This was two or three years before diagnosis and is concerned about using them now.

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Curryandchips in reply toBicuspidBloke

My "friend" is on drugs to slow things down and control blood pressure, so like your "friend" a little concerned about what Viagra might do and doesn't really want to talk about it to his cardiologist!

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BicuspidBloke in reply toCurryandchips

Haha, my 'friend' had a Cardiac Nurse appointment this week and was going to ask about her it but bottled it at the last moment. Again.

'He' got his Sildenafil with his shaving subscription a few years back and there was loads of online heart questions before their pharmacist granted the prescription. He could re-apply and see how the questions/answers are going online before continuing (and since the operation to correct everything it *should* all be fine) or juts pop half a pill as a test.

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Curryandchips in reply toBicuspidBloke

My friend dosent want to have that conversation with the Cardioligist either. My friend is now thinking of getting my wife a magazine subscription instead!

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BicuspidBloke in reply toCurryandchips

Brilliant!!!! 😂

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Qualipop in reply toCurryandchips

What is it with you men afraid to talk to a doctor about a perfectly natural event? I honestly don't get it. Imagine what we women have to go through with examinations and questions. Your doctor is human and has heard it all a thousand times. Just ask him without embarrassment .

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Curryandchips in reply toQualipop

My Doctor is a girlie - which makes it even worse!

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Qualipop in reply toCurryandchips

My doctor's a man but I'd much rather speak to him than any of the female doctors.

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Curryandchips in reply toQualipop

Maybe you could come with me????

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Qualipop in reply toCurryandchips

LOL

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Wooodsie

I had this issue for a while, thankfully no longer needed. But, was advised that they can be counter indicated when on beta blockers (bisoprolol), and this was true, gave me severe indigestion. Best to check with the Dr first and if I'm saying that, it must be true, I'm usually quite blasé about meds

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Curryandchips

Yeah, my thoughts exactly. My friend isn't very good at talking to cardiologists /doctors about this sort of thing. He is a wimp!

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MummaSoap in reply toCurryandchips

Not a wimp at all; it’s just that societally this sort of topic is often considered taboo and we’ve all been conditioned to “suffer in silence”.

Even for myself, it’s not a topic that I relish bringing up/discussing because I feel awkward about it.

I hope “your friend” feels a bit more confident to start a conversation with their GP/cardiologist and knows now that there’s potential for a better intimate life on the other side.

These issues don’t make “your friend” any less of a man either but if he is wanting to treat his wife then perhaps thinking of her might give him the courage to have the awkward conversation.

Best wishes

Soap 🧼

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