Loss of confidence

[Dollydaydream108]

Hi everyone, just something on me mind. And thought I'd put it out to you all. Since my heart attack I've lost all confidence I had, did not have a lot to start with. But now worried about getting it back and how. I'd like to meet a nice guy, as not getting any younger, but what has the heart attack done to me and my confidence. Feeling sad and depressed and get upset at everything. Can anyone shine a light on this.

[Ageingfast]

Dear Dolly Loss of confidence and depression happens to most of us. You have had a huge medical issue and it would be odd if you didnt feel depressed.p at some point.

It will pass, but personally i did not want to let depression get a grip.

Good sleep and exercise helps me through. I refuse to dwell on the bad things and i try to remember how lucky i am to have received so much care from so many nurses and doctors.

Plus of course this horrid pandemic gets us down if we let it.

I got a lot of help from my dear cat. Just to see him every day cheered me up. I do love my big black cat, such a sweet nature.

Best wishes

Colin

[meadfoot]

Everything you are feeling is so usual as we begin to recover from our heart issues. Loss of confidence is all part of it of course it is. We have had a big shock and life feels so different afterwards. The good news is our confidence does return and we have to work hard to re establish it. It comes from feeling better, having a good medical team in our corner and the support of family and friends, employers too where appropriate. However the main catalyst for improvement comes from ourselves in that we accept the new reality we are dealing with and taking hold of our reactions to it. Its hard, very hard, but we can and do do it.

Look forward, life will improve, it really will, grab it with both hands, seek and gain whatever support you feel you need be it from friends or professional support. You will learn a lot about yourself in the process. You will prevail and thrive. Then that new person you seek may well come into your life and you will be in control and ready to move forward happily. Best wishes. X

[RufusScamp]

It's a shock. physical and mental. Most of us had a similar reaction. Take control of your life - what you eat, exercise and finding interests to take your mind off it. It's hard at the moment, but finding some courses you can follow, and on-line exercise programmes will help. It's a big thing, but not terminal. Many people emerge fitter than they were before the heart attack. Plenty of support here, if you ask for it.

[Pollypuss]

Don’t despair . Have met lots of people who have had heart attacks and are still alive and well after many years. In fact many of them are living such normal lives you would never know they had heart attacks . It’s an awful shock but you will get your confidence back in time. I hated having a bypass and was in shock for some time. I feel so much better now. I’m not going to let it stop me living life to the full but in moderation