I know I have written a few posts recently but I think its because I'm on my own. I feel I'm really struggling and not getting face to face care doesn't help. At least being admitted with a chest infection has put me on the map so I dont feel like a lost soul anymore and I am being discussed. But its the why questions. I was put on digoxin in hospital and felt better but after a 24 hour monitor last week I was taken off it because they felt my heart was too slow and I was at risk of falling. Now I feel tired and dispirited again. Im not coping with running my home, dont want to leave my home and the pandemic makes it difficult to get help at home. I have a h.f. nurse appointment coming up but it will be some weeks away. Its strange that when I first started posting it was because I was the carer for my husbands heart failure. Now I've lost him and im alone with heart,kidney,thyroid and hiatus hernia. I have a very small family only two sons one of whom is critically clinically vunerable and no grandchildren. I hate moaning so I will stop here. I have some amazing friends just can't see them right now. My heart goes out to all the lonely ones struggling at this difficult time.
Not the best time to be ill! - British Heart Fou...
Not the best time to be ill!
Hello
Life has changed so much for everyone, its very hard for all these days, but I think soon things will change because of the vaccine.
It will be great to get out to see people again and have a proper conversation or even just a cup of tea together, the simple things are what I miss the most I think.
If you want to moan then go for it, I think we all have earned the right to a good moan these days, this forum is a good place for it because there will always be someone here who will listen.
Enjoy your evening..
Hi love1o1cats are you on positive well being there's a great bunch of people on there and I love your name, do you have a cat I have a cat who often pops on, doesn't he jimtom😺and as Jim said yes have a good moan I do plenty of them nearly told my full life story 😢😊I don't really come in this heart site I came on as my mams on and has heart probs take care sending a hug from me and my cat pixiebob 😻🌟
Do you have a cat? 🤔
I have 2. A sleek black male like a ,small panther called Charlie and a very fluffy female called Mixi because she is half white and half tortoiseshell with the palest green eyes ive ever seen.
You should team up with Curly, she loves cats..
If you join the positive well being forum you will see the photos 🙄
I had two cats years ago, they lived for 18 years, I liked having them around.
There is a neighbours cat that calls most days for some cat biscuits.
Hi they sound lovely my pixie has grourgeous bright pale green eyes I hope you do join positive wellbeing I've made some good friends in there and so supportive, I'll try find photo of him with his eyes looking so nice he's just snuggling up now I've locked kitchen door as don't want him catching the mouse, did you get much sleep Jim's put a post on about sleep I'll say one thing for him he does put some good posts on where a lot join in which is a good distraction from our own troubles I like to get out walking in park and taking photos gives me a diversion from.covid and been still in house I've been on lockdown for a year with my mam I'm looking to move back to my house soon but dreading the thought it feels like a lonely place yet I used to like living there alone It takes time to adjust my mam.was a widow about 16 years ago I stayed with her about 3 month's she got used to been alone eventually and then when I moved back 2 yes ago she found it hard at first but got used to it, 😊🌻
I have a mouse too under the fridge actually so good job have cat good detection it's just moved but I opened door and it back under fridge this is for love101cats not you it will make her smile😁there's lots of cat lovers on here who think a lot about pixie 😊
Get the fridge moved?
The mouse will run either way and hide I will move it if doesn't go out door pixie often pulls the unit plinth off and I think maby it's been before but there's no droppings my dad had infestation this has come from a nest outside it's was lovely fluffy and pale brown it's not a rat my mam will freak out as her nebour had rats a lot down here have from the drains our town was on news they were running about in the town centre rats are a bit freeky looking there feet aren't pretty ☹️
Can you get the local council to sort out that kind of thing?
The local council tried to sort mine it took over a year to find broken drain was my nebours they put baite in my ceiling droppings allover every fortnight I'd take a board off that had made so they could arm in I stayed in my house at first for the 3 month's I had to wait for the smoke test to detect the drain mine got dug up were ok smoke test never worked I paid 1oo pound for that then work for the drain digging was nearly filled off said 35o for one dig by 2 builders that looked like they'd come of a drain I got my other nebours mate a builder to do it he only charge 6o kind a dig so 12o the rats would cry in the ceiling I couldn't bear it then they'd die the smell horrendous then magnets crawled out the tile grout in window sill then fly's would emerge as they eat the carcusses the rats came up the cavity they were under the lot boars in the ceiling I laid in bed nearly thinking I was going mad, I started drinking to sleep, then a flying back Beatle was on the bedroom curtain I am terrified of them I rang mam and said I can't cope I moved in with her I nearly had a breakdown I thought I'd lost my home my nebour refused to have her drains dug up I fell out with the env health man he out a young woman on the job she came with smoke test and out a antenna drain detector advice where I told her I thought it was under a concervatiry it detected a drain my nebour got the drain cut and capped off, I tried to get back home a few times but I had bad PTSD and literelly shook my hands would shake in the kitchen I'd had nightmares for months I used to go every morning and catch the flies off the window and out them out, my house will never feel like home and now I have to go back as I can't stay at mam's indeff I need to message my builder see if he's priced doing my loft to help it sell may not be worth it it may help me to move back ☹️😊
I think you should be in line for compensation or a medal the sze of a dustbin lid.xx
Hi thank you I did fall out with my nebour but ammended things and passed her bottle of wine out window one night of the clap as she's a nurse I still can't live in that house I missed selling it in time for house next door to my mam which we were heartbroken about she gave me plenty time to sell but it was bad time with virus I had if I hadn't have had rats cohldav sold it, my mam had a heart attack with the stress I had funny heart rhythms with panic I think it's damaged my heart all the drinking I did too will you join positive well being my phone needs charging 🤗🌻
😂 You've made one very fed up lady laugh!!! Hope you're feeling a little better in yourself. I find posting on this forum helps quite a bit. Love and virtual hugs on the way to you xxx
Hi Love101cats.I can empathise with the way you feel and I appreciate how the loneliness affects you. I'm in a similar situation to yourself but unlike you the people that said that they would always be there for me are always busy or it's not convenient. It never ceases to amaze me that people
( those you class as closest to you and other friends) say the right thing but never follow it through with actions. It sounds like you have a very supportive network, so please reach out to your family and good friends and let them know that you are struggling.
Take care.
Hi yes I think that's true they mean it at the time but are often busy getting on with there own life's and we feel we kinda don't want to be a burden or intrude on there young life's but they are always there when we need them but don't always like to ask, and they genuinely care and hate it when we havnt asked for there help support sooner☹️😊🌟
It must be so difficult being in your own.
I’m sorry for your loss. You must miss him.
At this time we can be lonely even if we have good friends. Companionship and touch are human needs. Hearing another voice is like therapy.
I have my husband who I’m so grateful to for helping me in my pre op days and my recovery. When a friends phone though it’s pure joy.
I had a very strange sensation in critical care post op and it was that there were so many people around me taking such care of me I loved it. I couldn’t stop smiling and thanking them for being there. I hadn’t seen so many people in months and it didn’t really matter where I was or that I didn’t personally know them. To have them hold me and help me and talk to me was wonderful.
I’m only just under three weeks post op and doing well. I do miss them! How strange? I often think of them and how good they made me feel. It could have been euphoria but I think they also touched a deeper human need for closeness and communication on such a personal level.
You have a perfect right to moan and this is a good forum to do it on. I hope you find some help soon either through friends or accessing services. Is there anyone in your GP practice you can ask advice on home care? If you are on your own they can come in to help.
Let us know how you get on.
Regards
Maisie❤️
Hi Maisie, what a wonderful reply to Love101cats, so hope you are recovering well, I know the feeling of having hospital staff showing me love and care when I was in a foreign hospital. My son and his wife were able to fly out to see me, but those first few days I will never forget nor will I ever forget the hospital staff for being there for me. Ruth xx
What a lovely reply Maisie. I do have carers but they are rushing around getting things done and on to the next one. My tablet generates lots of contacts and activities. I communicat to 5 members of my family on Facebook, I also zoom local meetings, I talk to friends on the phone. I think the thing that really got me down was having to do the d.n.r. form even though I understand that most sick people have to these days. Take care Maureen
Hi Maureen,
I’m so glad you have help.
Yes. The one thing we know is that is a piece of paper. Our Doctors and Nurses will do their best for you and some! Don’t dwell on it.
I know you have several issues health wise but BHF Cardiac Nurses are a brilliant way to speak to a professional. I know I harp on about them at every post but they are incredible. Their website has their number. I’m starting to understand what this charity does an I’m in awe. They also do nearly all the cardiac rehabilitation during lockdown by video for free as the hospitals are not doing it because of Covid.
Covid-19 has ripped our family and friends from us and in the time of illness it’s so cruel. Stay strong 💪
Kind regards
❤️Maisie❤️
I understand how you feel so moan away as much as you want!!x
Hi Love. I understand where you coming from and my heart goes out to all who are living alone and due to pandemic can't visit or get visiters,its such hard time that has befallen upon the world and in top of that I'll health don't help either and makes one feel worse. You are most welcome to have a good moan or cry or let the steam off, nice bunch of people are here with open arms🤗 and heart❤️ so feel free my love.
Thank you. Will,do.
Its a lonely time for us all. Even if we are surrounded by loved ones, we are still isolated in this. I long for the day when I can walk to the local shops and have a coffee with a friend (socially distanced and outside, even) or drive and look at the sea, buts its a way off. Friends are worth their weight, so nurture those friendships = they are amazing people. The one thing I have learned through all of this is to value my friends. I Zoom weekly with them.Being poorly alone is particularly isolating and when you add your loss into that mix, then its no wonder you feel as you do.
I'm glad that you have a hf nurse apt coming up. Talk to him/her about how you are feeling - and continue to talk to us. I am sure that many here will totally understand - and most of us have not seen friends/family for ages, particularly if shielding.
Let us know how you get on with the hf nurse after your apts.
Not a good time for you to be grieving and alone. It must make the situation feel a million times worse. Try your best to keep smiling and thinking positive - it really does help. Thinking of you and sending you virtual hugs. Best wishes.
So sorry to hear of your struggles and the loss of your husband in the midst of it. What a dreadful time you are having. Life can be so scary and hard to cope with and right now you seem in the middle of it at its worst.
Its even more difficult alone and no one in the house to support you, is there any medical professional in your corner who can give you some help. I hope things improve for you and you can find some light at the end of the tunnel. Sending a big cyber hug. Remember nothing goes on forever, there will be an ease to all of this for you.
I often say to myself that its only temporary. Ive always been such a strong optimistic person. I think caring for my husband at home particularly with dementia took its toll but I wouldn't change it. It was a privilege to care for him in his time of need and he never moaned or got angry. So all my final days with him were warm and loving.
Thats lovely to hear, such love is a blessing and sustains us through rough times, you must miss him dreadfully. Keep your chin up where and when you can, it will sustain you. Your strength is still there, just a little dented currently, but you will regroup and prevail. Thinking of you. All will be well in time. Your devotion to your husband is so tender you must take comfort in that you did everything you could for him. Now its your turn to be cared for and people will support you as you did him. Take heart.
Hi Love101cats, Talk to your friends and the hospital staff, they need to hear how you are feeling, and moan all you want you deserve a good moan. Take care. Ruth xx
Ah bless you, you have already been through so much. Yes it is a horrible time that feels like it will never end. But when everything else flew out of the covid Pandora's box right at the bottom came our fabulous scientists. God bless them. Make sure you actually talk to your friends and don't just message. I had an hour catch up with a school friend yesterday it made me feel so much better.
(((HUGS)))
23 replies and counting. You are a special person. I have a very big panther cat whom i love to bits. Keep moaning if it helps. Best wishes Colin
Totally understand how you are feeling and my heart goes out to you .
The covid situation does not help.
Finger crossed later this year things will get back to normal and we will all feel a bit brighter .
We are here if you need to chat xx
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