What is heart ache?

[Love101cats]

It is exactly 1 year since I lost my husband. I woke up suddenly at 1.30 a.m. breathless. The very time he died. We have some amazing intricate body clock? But after that my heart ached for a few hours. Im feeling better now but though the pain of loss is physical its not the same as my heart telling me its not well. Anyone understand this?

[080311]

Hi Love101cats

I am so very sorry for your loss, can’t help with an explanation of heart ache, but can really understand what you are saying. Our bodies and our brain are so complex waking at that exact time is unfathomable, I send you my very best wishes that the pain you are suffering eases.

Pauline

[R3mi in reply to 080311]

Hi I love cats 101 In this modern world we forget that the things mind body soul which makes us human are also designed to help us connect with each other. Our experiences might be the same they may be different but they are all meant to make us aware of each other. In today’s fast paced world taking notice of this is missed. Your first experience of this would have been the feeling you had when you first met then getting to know each other as you blended. Once you have that connection it takes on a more spiritual form that progresses from the physical to the soul. This is where you are now. It means that you have become one entity. Separate the three components that worked for you initially. Bring your beloved partner deep into your heart while pain will still exist he is also feeling the pain. By focusing on all the good times you had together this will deflect that pain you are experiencing now. You are both now in an advanced state of relationship that has moved up from what you first tasted. Try and get hold of a book Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis on Amazon while in your case it is after the experience you have had it has many helpful things that will undoubtedly heal both of you

I wish you peace and happiness.

[080311 in reply to R3mi]

Hi, Think you might have wanted to post to Love101cats,

Pauline

[R3mi in reply to 080311]

Sincerest apologies Pauline will watch that in future the phones are so small it is sometimes difficult to read thanks for letting me know

[080311 in reply to R3mi]

That’s absolutely fine didn’t want Love101cats to miss your post. As my husband says to me it’s my chubby fingers😂 if it’s not my fingers it’s my predicted text.😂

[Pammy124prms in reply to 080311]

you poor thing , i lost my first husband 36 years ago and i still wake up at 3am every morning , my heart goes out to you.he had lung cancer and even now i cant sleep through

[080311 in reply to Pammy124prms]

Hi Pammy124prms

I think you meant to post to Love101cats

Best wishes Pauline.

[Pammy124prms in reply to 080311]

sorry im rubbish on here i hope 101 saw it

[080311 in reply to Pammy124prms]

That’s ok sure she did. Can’t say I am very tech savvy but keep giving a go😂

Pauline

[elliebath]

I am very sorry for your loss. Grief, anxiety and stress all have physical effects on our body as well as our emotions. But if it worries you again I think I'd have a word with your doc for peace of mind.

[Love101cats]

Im ok! It was obviously stress. My husbands heart feels as it should. Wonky up now ache. X

[Love101cats in reply to Love101cats]

Sorry that should read my heart.

[stillaboveground]

Hello Love101cats, I believe heart ache is the same as a broken heart, I lost my youngest son in a fire in 2017 unfortunately the NHS can't mend broken hearts but do a good job with damaged hearts, the love you had for your husband will always keep you connected and that can hit you at any time like the experience you had, cherish these times. I wake thinking of my son every night. My thoughts are with you. Take care and keep safe. Ruth

[Love100cats in reply to stillaboveground]

Thank you so much for sharing your pain. It all helps to think outside my own bubble of pain and think of others. Take care Maureen

[Gladwyn]

I suddenly had the most awful pain in my heart that came out of the blue and had me gripping on to the back of a chair to keep me upright. It passed after a few moments and I was able to move about as normal .

5 hours later I had a call telling me my ex had died as a result of a heart attack in Los Angeles.

Weird .😀

Ps it turned out that when I had the pain it was about the same time as he was having the HA.

[Love101cats in reply to Gladwyn]

We are indeed very complex. We can understand all the plumbing and electrics of the human body but there is much more to it than that. The emotional workings of our body are beyond understanding. Though we try to label this ability we have to feel so deeply we really can't give it the credit it deserves as a design.