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Two weeks to go until surgery.

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I’ve had the date of my surgery confirmed - 4th December.

That’s two years to the day since my father passed away. I’m viewing it as being the day when one life ended and another has been given the chance of living.

I am however a little worried about how I feel. Self induced stress and worry are partly responsible for my requiring the surgery. But at the moment I have no worries or concerns. I know that everybody is different but is this how others felt with two weeks to go?

I’m worried that I am missing something.

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080311

I think those thoughts pretty much echoed mine, you know it’s coming but I felt very calm. Somehow knew I was being given a gift. Strange it’s the anniversary of your Dad, maybe he’s telling you he will be with you 👌and everything will be fine. You will be you know.Pauline

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Disney59 in reply to 080311

Sorry for the delayed reply, but I’ve been feeling quite down for the past couple of days.All part of the rock ‘n roller coaster I’m on at the moment.

Your posts really hope, thank you.

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StevepH2012

HiI recognise that feeling completely - there is an element of relief in finally leaving the 'waiting room', being able to start planning the 'after' with more certainty along with (I think) being forced to accept that the medical experts are going to be in control for the next 3 weeks or so.

It's a bit like the start of a holiday - your on the plane, the bags are packed..No time for more planning - just go along the ride.

I'm sure you're more than well prepared and will be fine

Steve

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Disney59 in reply to StevepH2012

Apologies for the delay in replying, I’ve been down for the last couple of days, natural I suppose to be on an emotional roller coaster at this time.Really love the holiday analogy, it made me smile. Thanks.

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Thanksnhs

Hi I felt the same about my dad he died suddenly at the age of 62 and after being years on the transplant list I got my new heart just months before my 62nd birthday, in July this year, I have felt it was dad still looking after me, I am sure all will go well with your surgery take care and keep us posted char

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080311 in reply to Thanksnhs

Isn’t it strange when we are facing our surgery I remember looking out the night before my op on to the river Clyde, had said my goodbyes to my family didn’t have anything they had even taken my wedding ring with them. Looking at that great river and my thoughts went to my parents who had been gone along time, and I suddenly felt this feeling of peace and that everything would be ok. X

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Disney59 in reply to Thanksnhs

Thank you for your uplifting words, yes I will keep posting to keep you updated with how I’m doing.

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080311

But isn’t that feeling of giving yourself up to what will be and getting back a peaceful knowledge that everything will be fine, it’s the strangest thing I have ever felt but the best😊

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Thanksnhs in reply to 080311

It's pretty surreal, lovely to hear someone else felt the same, it's a hard thing to explain to anyone that hasn't experienced it x

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080311 in reply to Thanksnhs

Yes, have never even told my family they would think I had had my premed! But this was the night before, had had nothing. As my Mother used to say there is more between Heaven and Earth than we will ever know. X

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Thanksnhs in reply to 080311

Totally agree x

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