Hi everyone going downhill struggling daily .changed some medication but have to accept death not too far away. Thanks to everyone on this site for jokes and seriously putting me at ease .I am a Roman Catholic and hope my trust in God will help .Will start making arrangements soon Will miss my 50 wedding anniversary and seeing my Grandchilden .Will try and keep you posted please pray for me thanks
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I'm so sorry to hear this. You are in my prayers. Peace be with you.
Thank you
I'm sorry to hear this Sanpedro and I will pray that you will find peace at this time.
Thank you
Peace be with you.
Im so very sorry to hear your sad news Sanpedro. I too am a roman Catholic and I know your faith will help & see you through this. You & your family are in my thoughts & prayers xx
Thank you very reassuring
Gods love peace and blessing be on you my dear brother in Christ sometimes even how fiath is tested when we face the thought of being with him who created us but be assured he is with you I’m sure u have read it but if nit google footsteps in the sand I am a c/e chaplain may his peace be with u
MilkfairyHeart Star
Dear Sanpedro2019
I am so sorry to hear your news.
You and your family will be in my daily thoughts and intentions.
May you find comfort and support during this time.
Peace be with you.
god bless you sanpedro. thoughts and prayers to you and your family in your hour ofvheed❤️
So sorry to hear this sad news Sanpedro. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
Really sorry to hear your news, your faith is so important and will surely help you and your family at this sad time. You are in my thoughts x Sheena x
I will pray for you and your family, God bless you all.
Thank you for those words
God Bless you and peace be with you and yours.
God bless you and your family.
So sorry to hear this. You have my prayers too
So sorry to hear this. I too am a Roman Catholic. I hope and pray that God will console you and your family. I will light a candle for you in church at the weekend. I believe that when we pass over, we can visit our loved ones.
So sorry to hear this. May God be with you and your family. You are in my prayers.
Praying for you and your family too.
So sorry to hear this sanpedro my thoughts are with you and your family xx
I am a Roman Catholic . We know that it’s impossible to die . We simply live a different life in a different form continuing as part of Gods great creation . We continue to be Gods energy for creating good in the world. I will pray that you find Gods great peace over the coming time and that your family share it .
So so sorry to hear this ❤️ Xx
So sorry to hear this, but your faith will see you through. You have fought a hard battle and gave it all you got. Peace be with you and your family.
San pedro, you are in my prayers and thoughts and I wish truly that you will be feeling better. Trust in the Lord to pull you through🙏🙏🙏❤
So sorry to read this. My husband will probably miss our fiftieth too and wish I had your faith. Sending love.
In Kiswahili there’s a phrase people use to express sorrow for others. It’s ‘pole sana’ and I say it to you Sanpedro. Journey well wherever you go 🙏🏻
Hi, when I had my heart attack I died and stayed dead for 2 minutes. The worst bit was the pain and knowledge that it was the end when I was having the heart attack. Death itself was wonderful. If it helps you, I'm happy to talk with you about it, feel free to pm me. I'm c of e Christian and am now training to be a lay reader so I can help people in our situation. Death really is not the end and I know this from having done it.
Cavalierrubie in reply to
Can you please tell us why death was wonderful for you? All the best in your training to be a lay reader for our Lord. God be with you.
in reply to Cavalierrubie
The pain I was in and the horrible realisation that nothing I could do to prevent what was happening had gone. The sensation of actually dying or being dead, was like I was dissolving into a billion pieces. I felt so calm and a serenity I've never felt. It felt right and it felt like I was becoming more than I am here. It felt like I was home. These are poor words that poorly reflect what I felt. It feels like I'm trying to describe a beautiful sunset but only using 3 letter words.
Cavalierrubie in reply to
Thank you so much for sharing that. There is so much mystery, and so much that God doesn't tell us, or want us to know. Probably, so that we trust him more. It is encouraging to know you felt "at home" As Jesus said "I go to prepare a place for you, so that where I am, you also will be" and "In my Father's house are many rooms"'.......... May God bless you today and always, Christine.
lorianxiety in reply to
Snoweybm ,thats the greatest experience ever ,for im a great believer of an afterlife-im heading towards being more spiritual ,though anxiety has held me back---can you please share this wonderful experience .I have heard of many ,and reenforced my belief.70ish
in reply to lorianxiety
If you ever want to talk about it, I'm happy to. I like to think part of why I'm still is so as I can share the experience I had. It was incredible and sadly I think I could have every word in our languages and still not be able to describe it properly. Time didn't exist, there were no physical senses that I can recall, other than 'seeing' the rim if that's the right word of what I now take to be a tunnel and this disolving feeling - that was actually amazing. I was becoming something else. I wish I could allow you into my head to see and experience it for yourself as my description of it is quite poor and ridiculously inadequate 
Dear Sanpedro,
I doubt we've ever spoken. I am new here but just wanted to say this...
'Be not afraid, I go before you always. Come, follow me, and I will give you strength.'
Only one person gets to decided. Do what you need to do, but don't ever give up.
My father rcvd a diagnosis in February of 2015, was given six months and lived until November of 2016 (6 months past his 50th).
I'm putting you and yours on my Prayer List.
Love and prayers, Leslie
So sorry to hear that Sanpedro. My prayers be with you.
I am sorry you are feeling this way - is this the doctors conclusion ? You are in my prayers too
You are in my prayers Sanpedro.
So sorry and so touched to read this Sanpedro. Hope your faith will sustain you and give you peace and serenity. You are in my thoughts.
So sorry to hear your news. God be with you and your family.
🙏🙏 prayers for you.
God bless you sanpedro my thoughts and prayers r with u and your family ❤️Xxx
The Lord will take great care of you. He made you, and your name is written on the palm of his hand. We will all be with you one day. You will be there before us thats all xxx Be strong and of great courage because the Lord is with you always, he will never leave you or forsake you. The Lord is faithful and his word is truth. Nothing that comes from his mouth is void. His promises are fulfilled. He guards our coming in and going out. Our destiny was ordained even before we were born. We thank him for his loving care throughout our lives, and all the wonderful blessings he gives us while on earth to enjoy. You will be safe in his great love for you.
Also Catholic, praying to St Jude for you, whatever happens I hope your faith is a help to you and your family, God Bless you x
God bless . I will pray for you x
Sorry to hear your sad news x
So sorry to hear your sad news. I will pray for you. For 12 years I worked as a volunteer complementary therapist in my local hospice. Many times when I was with a patient who was passing, I could see / feel a golden light and in the light were angels and the deceased family members of the patient. They came to help release his soul up to the light very peacefully. God bless you. Clare
God bless you, peace be with you x
MichaelJHHeart Star
Sorry to hear your news Pedro. Will be thinking of you and your loved ones!
So sorry to hear. Will say a prayer for you
"The Lord is close to the broken-hearted"
Catholic too and glad of the opportunity to say so
You will be in my prayers
Ps34v18 '...and saves those who are crushed in spirit'
One of the most comforting verses of the Psalm, thank-you for posting it.
Very sorry to hear this, my prayers are with you and your family
May God grant you peace and comfort, you are in my thoughts and prayers, I, too, am Roman Catholic. 🙏♥️
Your next journey is your greatest journey; a journey that all our friends and loved ones will make; you may not have started the journey but it will certainly begin; the world will continue whilst you are on the journey and all the world and everything that is within it and indeed, without it, will follow you on this journey; and fear not my friends, the journey, that all and everything will make. Most fear this journey, but do not, I will be with you and you with me and we will all be travelling on it for ever.
I will prayer for you daily. But your faith with support you. Trust in God.
Grace and peace to you.
So sorry to hear that Sanpedro ... peace be with you, you are in my prayers, god bless.
God will prepare a beautiful home for you with him my friend. May your faith be strong. Godbless and I admire your courage You will live on in the hearts of your family that love you
So comforting that you have your faith; it is wonderful that you have embraced what is to come. My prayers are with you.
Very sorry to hear this Sanpedro. You sound like a very positive and strong person. I am sure your faith in God will always support and guide you.
God bless🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 xx
Dear Sanpedro, this is the earthly finality that we all must face. When? We rarely know. How? Again we rarely know. Having the opportunity to make our peace with those we love and care for in this world is sometimes granted in this way as you are experiencing. When I faced surgery with a very pessimistic outcome but with a great deal of incapacity and pain beforehand I took the decision that the high risk of dying during surgery was worth taking and it was made easier because of my faith in the Lord. My Wife and children understood that decision with some initial difficulty. It was made easier for me because a good Jewish friend of some years older than me, in his 90's but with a fantastic mind and outlook, one day called me to tell me that suddenly his horizon had got shorter. At first I did not understand but then I realised, like you his World was unexpectedly and suddenly protracted by bad news concerning his heart. There was a slim chance that an operation would buy him time and the day beforehand I joked with him on the telephone not to take his laptop to hospital with him ( he was still running a very active business) as he would need to rest before and after his operation. He recovered from the operation well but sadly two days later he passed away. I have often wondered did his Jewish faith buoy him up or just his drive and determination to keep going against an adversity that his background and faith had suffered in his early life. I will never know but his cheerful example gave me the strength to face my risks along with an unshakeable faith in the Lord. You too are setting such an example and I know God will be with you on your journey however many turns in the road there may be. God bless you and your family.
Peace to you and your family. God Bless xx
To live in the hearts of those you love is not to die. I know this to be true and find it is comforting at times when I feel that time is limited. Celebrate your 50th wedding anniversary now. You and your wife have probably been together for more than 50 years if you count those courting years, so do it!
So sorry to hear your news. I'm not religious but think that death isn't the end merely the next step in your existence. I wish you and your family well as you move towards the next great adventure.
Dear Sanpedro
I will pray to St. Jude and of course St, Peter for your intentions and Our Blessed Lady to intercede on your behalf, I too am R.C. and my thoughts and prayers are with you.God Bless.
So shocked Sanpedro.Will pray for you and your family.Thank you for your one liners,they always cheered me up.God bless my lovely xxx
Dear Sanpedro, my heart goes out to you ,as your soul prepares to leave your body,I dont know you but i wish i had,may you have a safe journey and that your loved ones will rest in the knowledge that you will be released from your physicalpain and return to the Kingdom of God.....your faith will carry you through .Love and Peace.
May God's Love and his Peace be with you. Trust in our Lord. Knowing that God
loves you will give comfort and Peace. Will pray for you and your family.
Hi Sanpedro,
No matter what people say, it doesn't really alter anything.
But I need to say how saddened and sorry I am that you are having to go through all this.
Please tell me. Did the Doctors tell you this, or is this how you feel yourself because of how ill you feel.
I am a Baptist and I believe in God.
But sometimes because of the pain i have been in, for such a long time I have questioned my own beliefs.
Then i think of 4 years ago.
I went to bed on May 25th. Our 50'th Wedding Anniversary,,i had no pain, just felt so peaceful and at peace. Just so restful for the 1st time in years.
I woke up several weeks later in Hospital. Still no pain for a little while.
But I couldn't feed myself, didn't recognise anyone. My Brain wasn't working properly.
Then when I was more alert I was told what happened.
My Husband always bring me up a cup of tea in the morning. But on MAY 26TH he couldn't wake me up so he called the Ambulance. I was taken to Hospital and kept going on a LIFE SUPPORT MACHINE, IN CRITICAL CARE, until I could breathe for myself.
I asked my Husband several times,
WHY DID YOU CALL THE AMBULANCE.
I was at peace for the first time in years and now I'm alive and suffering again.
I know i shouldn't have said that to him, but it's how i felt at the time.
My Eldest Son told me that when I was in the Ambulance being taken to Hospital, i had a smile on my face. He could see that i was at peace.
I have a letter now from the Doctors to say that should anything life threatening happen to me, they are to just let me go.
NO C.P R of any kind.
NO, NO, i am not afraid of dying, i am more afraid of living .
My Grampy was a Lay Preacher and we all believe in God. I don't believe in Heaven and Hell.
Everyone has their own beliefs and I believe that when we pass away,
The Good will be raised in Gods own time and the Bad will stay in the ground. ASHES TO ASHES, DUST TO DUST.
While we are living we are in our Earthly Bodies, but when we pass away we are in our Heavenly Bodies...
God will keep our Souls. and one day we will all meet up again without any pain or without any lmbs missing.Everything will be just HEAVENLY..
Have you listened to Elvis Presley singing the Gospel Song.
SOMEBODY BIGGER THAN YOU OR I..
It's Beautiful and soothing.
It really helped me when I came out of Hospital. I lost 6 weeks of my Earthly life and the only thing I regret about it is the worry and stress it caused my Husband and my 3 Wonderful Sons. I love them all so much i don't want to leave them.
But I really do believe that we will all be together again one day in GODS own time.
I know your Family are worried for you and i am so sorry that they will be grieving. But please don't be afraid, Dieing is nothing to be afraid of.
It's just like being asleep..
My Prayers are with you Sanpedro.
God be with you and your Family..
GOODNIGHT GODBLESS. Gjkas xx
Dear Sanpredo you are in my prayers as are your family and friends.
God bless you and guide you onwards in peace and love.
Many blessings.
Dear Sanpedro.
I am so very sorry. I will continue to uplift you, your family, and friends in sincere prayers. May you feel and know Gods peace as you travel on this difficult journey. May God bless you and keep you in His tender loving arms. I'm so very very sorry.
You and your family are in my prayers. May God give you strength and bring you peace.
God Bless
Sending you my prayers and love.
Sorry to hear and read this but I take my hat of and bow to you and your true bravery, may your journey be a golden peaceful.
My prayers are with you.
Offering a rosary for you, San Pedro. God bless you and your family. xo
So sorry to read what you are dealing with at this sad time.
May you find peace and strength to help you in the days ahead. Lots of love xx
The cycle of life from joy to sadness ... but in between the ‘Hello & goodby’ there will have been love - so much love So very sorry to hear your news Sanpedro
Hi Sanpedro, I think that its not how or when you die, but how you live that matters. I work in a hospice and I see some people who just give up and wait for the inevitable, but others who are doing as much as they can to maximise their QUALITY of life, even if they can't change their prognosis. You may not be able to do all the things you used to do, but you can do something (like maybe enjoying time with friends / family / pets or just watching the changes in your environment.). Write letters or a journal,make a memory box for family members, or think about a 'bucket list'. Don't waste whatever time, skills or abilities you have. None of us knows when our time is up; whether its days, months or years, its precious.
This is such sad news but never say never and live this time as much as you can, celebrate your 50th Anniversary now together and enjoy your time with your family.
Xxxoooxxx
Dear Sanderson
So sorry to hear this you are in my thoughts and prayers 🙏🏾 xxxx ❤️ I pray God brings you peace
God Bless You ❤️❤️
I will pray for you and wish you peace.XXX
Grandmaofayoungman
God bless you, you are in our thoughts
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