As a general point I think it would have been useful to have access to a ‘Heart Bypass Buddy/Partner’ system or perhaps just being made aware of this online community before the operation, i.e. being able to ask/email someone who had gone through the operation themselves and who could provide some practical insights - non-scary and not uninformed/opinion based - but just to get some practical pointers.
Things I feel that would have been useful to know beforehand (this is not an exhaustive list and I may remember some others, my operation was about 17 months ago) as follows:
* I had nausea/sickness after the operation in the intensive care ward and felt embarrassed about it - I was told by the excellent nurses at St, Thomas’s not to worry as ‘most people have nausea due to the anaesthetic’ So don’t feel embarrassed if you throw up, nurses have seen this before...
* As you progress through the various wards after the operation you will be surrounded by other patients in varying stages of recovery and some won’t look or sound so well and their family members may have concerned faces. I was on an NHS ward, so it may be a different experience if done privately. So try to stay calm yourself - other patients will be getting the appropriate care for their condition.
* Some fellow patients will have a false bonhomie to get through the experience. Others will be depressed. It can be a unnerving and confusing experience as you recover in the ward post operation - lots of check-ups/having to repeat your personal details, date of birth etc before getting pills etc, sometimes lots of noise around you..
Just be aware some fellow patients will want to be chatty and share their experience, others will want to keep things to themselves so try to adjust a bit to others. After intensive care for a day, I had one day in another ward with about 10 to 12 others before going into a bay where there were 4 of us, all in varying degrees of recovery.
* I put on 4-5 kilos in the first 2 days after the heart bypass, which I was surprised about but which apparently is normal as you retain some water. Then it comes off almost straight away.
* Nurses will try to get you on your feet within a couple of days. If you’ve had a vein removed from your leg for the bypass you will need support when walking. Don’t try to walk on your own unsupported too soon.
* I shaved my face, Razor not electric, I think on the third day after the bypass op and it took me about 20 minutes. It was very exhausting just to shave! Basic things take much longer. The first time you can take a shower yourself you feel much better, but make sure you hang on to the hand rails as you will be unsteady on your legs.
* I had never used a walking stick before but they are very useful for the first couple of weeks or so at least, so think about getting one for when you leave the hospital to go home and for your first short walks at home, inside and out as you increase your walking distance every day.
* Have people around when you attempt your first showers/baths at home. You will be unsteady on your feet still. I could have done with extra rails in the bathroom. It’s difficult to get up from lying flat in the bath as your leg without the vein will lack some strength for a few weeks. I still have some numbness in my leg from where the vein was removed. The ankle swelling took 2-3 months to go down.
* I found trying to lie down flat to try to sleep and getting up from a flat position in bed very painful for 4-6/weeks. Having someone to help you slowly lie down or lift yourself up is helpful. They should not pull you but just let you pull/hold yourself against them. Some nights I just sat in an armchair all night as trying to lie down was too painful. But it gets easier with time. A firmer mattress would been better for me.
* I drove my car after 4 weeks, note there are legal restrictions re driving after a heart bypass. I managed it but you get tired very quickly and you’ll need a pad or towel or something under the seatbelt across your chest to prevent pain from the tightness of the belt.
* Do use a towel to hold on your chest if you need to sneeze. Sneezing is painful for your chest. I think they recommend no flowers in heart bypass wards to prevent sneezing.
This is becoming a long list so I may do a further post. I hope some of these tips are useful.
Two things that were certainly true that I read about prior to my heart bypass - 1. Afterward you will be much more emotional for a few weeks, I cried watching sad things on TV for example when I hadn’t previously. So unexpected things can provoke tears - but that’s ok. I did have more dramatic/emotional dreams than previously but that settles down too. 2. Recovery at home is up and down as you will be re told and warned about: you will have good days and bad days, so be aware that even after 3-4 weeks or a period of a few better days you may have a few down days physically and mentally.
But try to adopt a positive mindset, walk a bit more every day if you can and I hope that as I experienced you will get to that Tipping Point after several weeks when you can breathe more calmly, pain has settled down, you walk further, and be grateful you’re over the worst of it.
Best of luck to you all if approaching a heart op or recovering from one.