PARTNER 2 PARTNER

[wifebav-123]

My partner had a heart 7 months ago, and when they putting the stent in, they found that he had, BAV measured 5.6, he is waiting for the open heart surgery. He is losing weight and doing great. We had been to the hospital a few times because hes had pains and felt sick and weak, short of breath. I dont see this happening, yes I see him getting tired. But he doesnt leave the area which he lives, he takes his meds and all information with when go out, I have moved out hoping this would encourage him to leave his area, but as he told me why would he travel to a place that doesnt know his history, if something goes wrong. we dont do anything, cant plan a future, i feel like hes not living life, hes doesnt see past the OP and doesnt seem to care about our relationship, can anyone else relate?

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With the greatest respects your partner is going through huge trauma and for some reason does not trust you to have his medication or communications from the hospital. At a crucial time in his life where he probably needs all the support he can get you leave him because he will not look to the future that you see.

This person is suffering from trauma because he has come to realise he has a condition that could have killed him and has much to consider whilst awaiting the operation and during this time you want him to move home - are you actually trying to kill him? He needs support, a stable relationship with someone that realises what he is going through and who will give him the support he needs.

I think you should look to yourself for the answer to your problems for it is not his selfishness that is the problem here.

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[bantam12]

As your partner is under medical care and waiting for surgery it would be very unwise for him to move away from the Drs and hospital who know his history and who have a treatment plan for him, he needs to concentrate on getting better without the added stress of moving.

When a serious medical problem crops up life has to change for all concerned, plans may have to be altered, put on hold or scrapped altogether, its tough but we as partners have to deal with it.