20 week scan

[louisajane80]

We have our 20 week scan next week and as much as we’d love to find out the sex we’re going to hold on a bit longer in the hope that hubby can be allowed in the next scan so we can find out together.

I feel so bad that he’s missed out on seeing the baby so far and I’m hoping that restrictions might be eased soon. Has anyone heard anything? I find it odd that if we went for a private scan he could come in (all masked up obviously) but that’s not possible on the NHS yet.

Will I see anything at the 20 week scan that might give the gender away? I’ll obviously tell the sonographer we don’t want to know yet but I’m worried I’ll see a part of the anatomy that will give away it’s gender 🤣 How clear is the scan at 20 weeks?

Thanks in advance!

[Franco81]

I think sometimes it can be obvious but I never knew what I was looking at even when I was shown! If you tell the sonographer you don’t want to know though, they’ll tell you to look away when they’re in that area!

My scans were before lockdown but we wanted to find out what we were having together and have a little moment just us so got them to write it down and they put it in an envelope that we opened together when we got home. Just thought that might be an option for you if you don’t want to wait!

I hope all goes well at your scan , enjoy seeing your precious little one again x

[Solly-44]

Hi,

Keep checking with your clinic as things seem to be improving all the time. My hospital has recently reallowed partners to attend 12 and 20 week scans.

I know it’s not the same but you can ask the sonographer to write down baby’s gender if you want, rather than tell you. You and your husband could open it together that way?

The 20 week scan is very clear in that you get to see lovely images of your baby but I honestly dont think I’d have known mine was a boy unless I’d been told. You could also ask them to tell you to look away when they check just in case!

Good luck for your scan xx

[cmbxm]

Check your hospitals Facebook page, all my local hospitals are now letting dads in for 12&20 week scans! fingers crossed for you xx

[louisajane80]

Thanks all for your feedback. Our local trust announced today that as of Monday partners can accompany you for the 12 week scan only. Not much use to us at the moment but I guess it’s a sign that things might improve further down the line. We’re going to book a private scan after the NHS scan on Monday rather than hang on much longer. Appreciate all of your advice x

[Daisy63]

We had the same problem, I had mine a week ago, we wanted to know but my hospital said they can’t allow because the rooms aren’t big enough. So I booked a private scan the night before and we found out together, it cost £50 and I’m so glad we were together to find out.

Alternatively you could take some paper and envelope and they will write it down for you to open later.

My friend didn’t want to know at her 20 week and they turned the screen away for that part for her.

Hope it all goes well for you x

[louisajane80]

We ended up having a private scan too. It was the first time hubby has seen baby so it was extra special!

We were going to get the sonographer at the NHS scan to write the gender down but they wouldn't! Against their policy apparently..(?!)

I'm now 27 weeks and due my next scan in two weeks. No change since last time as far as letting partners in though Personally I don't see it changing between now and December when baby is due.