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[Olivia-Dre-123]

Good morning to u all av had a really bad night again and feel like giving up,am so tired of this ans my depression is so bad at the moment, I am feeling deflaited at the moment and feel my life is passing me by.

[Ergendl]

It's so hard when you feel like that. Try to be kind to yourself.

In a few weeks it will be warmer and hopefully we'll have a bit more sun. Till then, just try to take one day at a time, one task at a time, one meal at a time xx

[Olivia-Dre-123 in reply to Ergendl]

Thank u for your reply I will take your advice x

[Ergendl in reply to Olivia-Dre-123]

I've been there in the past, in the darkness, so I know it can change. It just doesn't feel like that will ever happen at the time xx

[Turnipgirl in reply to Ergendl]

One thing I am really looking forward to is switching off the central heating!

[Mellywelly]

Hi, I am so sorry you are feeling like this though I know where your coming from. Feel the same way at the moment as nothing I try is working. Constantly bursting into tears one minute and alright the next. Please keep going. This forum is brilliant when you are feeling at your lowest as there are so many people either in our situation or have been and come out the other side. Summer is on the way. 😉

[Olivia-Dre-123 in reply to Mellywelly]

Thank u it means so much that u understand x

[leo60]

I can relate to the way you are feeling, especially at this time of year, when there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel. I am normally a cheery soul (probably the antidepressants 😘), but even I have been pretty low this last week: February is when my health is at it's lowest.

As Ergendl wisely said, be kind to yourself, take things gently. Have you spoken to your GP about this at all? Spring is so close now, the bulbs are flowering and the birds are starting to get jiggy, and more daylight will help too.

Keep talking, it does help xx

[Olivia-Dre-123 in reply to leo60]

Thank u for your reply and I think I may need to see someone x

[leo60 in reply to Olivia-Dre-123]

I didn’t for ages, but when I finally did I wished I’d done it sooner!

Love and hugs xx

[Turnipgirl in reply to leo60]

With myself it's January I don't like and find depressing but February I don't mind so much as it's short and the nights are a bit lighter, going dark at 5.30pm at present!

[leo60 in reply to Turnipgirl]

Yes, you’re right! But my breathing is at its worst in Feb!

[Rosydays in reply to leo60]

Jiggy birds ♥️♥️♥️

[leo60 in reply to Rosydays]

🤣🤣🤣

[Swizzy]

You have had some lovely replies and I hope that it helps to know that you are not alone in feeling like this. I am usually very diligent in doing my physio, doing some exercise and trying to keep busy. At present I am completely demotivated and am here still in my pyjamas at 11am. Feeling very guilty but decided to do.what the others have advised and give in and be kind to myself until this awful gloomy weather ends. A big gentle hug and much love

[Patk1 in reply to Swizzy]

Nothing wrong in having pj day and rest, Swizzy. Xxx

[Swizzy in reply to Patk1]

Thanks for that. It's a comfort that you are letting me off my self imposed hook. X

[Patk1 in reply to Swizzy]

Sometimes winding down is just what we need and is gd for mental + physical health.we have a lot to deal with at the best of times..I hope u enjoy Yr day off >) xxx

[Turnipgirl in reply to Patk1]

No not at all!

I have those as well every so often!

I did book one in for next Saturday but decided to postpone as I am off out in the afternoon that day!

[Patk1 in reply to Turnipgirl]

How's your carer job going Turnipgirl x

[Turnipgirl in reply to Patk1]

Going well thanks for asking!

[Olivia-Dre-123 in reply to Swizzy]

Aww thank u I'm still in my PJ,s as well but trying to keep busy x

[Turnipgirl in reply to Olivia-Dre-123]

No shame in that!

Today I will put mine on nice and early after lunch as I had a late night last night and didn't get in until this morning!

[leo60 in reply to Swizzy]

Even my grown up kids have pj days! Xx

[Turnipgirl in reply to leo60]

I do every so often as well!

[Alberta56 in reply to Swizzy]

My husband and daughter tend to fuss if I stay in pjs too long. (They think I'm dying.) Recently decided to make a stand-I'll stay in pjs if I want to/ don't feel like dressing. Why waste energy putting clothes on. I hope you soon start to feel better. xxx

[Karenanne61]

I'm sorry you are feeling so dispirited. Along with the usual, helpful suggestions have you considered therapy? A while ago it was suggested to me, the doctor said 'with your illness I'd be more surprised if you weren't anxious and depressed'. I engaged in a course of talking therapy, it was hard work but very beneficial. In my area, Oxfordshire, you can self refer. You could also try 'Mind '. I've also just finished a course at our local Hospice 'Living well with breathlessness ' and that has helped too.

[Smilesalot in reply to Karenanne61]

I'm interested in what you said living well with breathlessness. Mine really hit me in the last 2 weeks. It's like my inhalers aren't working and I'm struggling. I'm having to calm myself down but can't always n descend into tears 😢. My Copd has been calm for ages n out the blue it worsens. Have you any advice ? Dawn

[Karenanne61 in reply to Smilesalot]

To me, as a lay person thus not medically trained, it seems as though you need help to manage your symptoms and review your meds, and help and support with your mental health. Of course your first port of call for both should be your gp but we all know that's not always possible . You could try your respiratory department at your local hospital to try to talk to a respiratory nurse or physio. Also contact your local Hospice to see if they offer any 'living well' courses or similar. Have you done pulmonary rehab? That is VERY beneficial. Ask on local fb if there are any support groups locally, there is a group in my area called 'Breathe easy'. Age UK also may be able to help. The staff of 'Asthma and lung uk' will probably be able to help too. And NEVER be afraid to reach out for help! Good luck!

[LMEI]

Hi. It seems to have been a long winter but Spring is around the corner. The bulbs are coming up and it is lighter in the evenings. Put some music on and listen to that. I listen to a lot of music from the '70's, the Glam Rock era. I do sometimes listen to relaxation on YouTube. Have a listen to Andrew Major. He has a lovely soothing voice. I usually don't get to hear it all, as I have fallen asleep!!

As others have said, be kind to yourself. Hang in there and think of the days when the sun will be shining. Hopefully this week it will be warming up.

Take care.

Linda

[reinaway]

Chin up as we used to say years ago I know what it's like . I've felt like that many times in my 87 years but hang in there and the spring is coming believe you me. Many hugs xx

[Alberta56]

This awful down feeling and long grey days seem endless. I hope the messages from everyone here make you feel a bit better-at least you're not alone. Please hang on in until things start to improve. Give yourself little treats if you've got no-one to do that, which is pretty common here. My personal treat is Walnut Whips 😋 but I have to share them with my family. 🙁 xxx

[Yvonneh1234]

hi I hope your ok 😊as someone who’s suffered with depression and anxiety for years I thought I would drop you a line . . .its can be so hard to lift yourself back up when your feeling low you could try changing your routine do things different than what you normally do think of one thing that makes you happy or makes you smile at least once a day ! focus on the positives not the negatives even if it’s little things like doing your hair that you didn’t do yesterday little things if you no what I mean ? Talking to people can often help aswell have you tried mind it’s a number you can call to help you When you feel like this 0300 102 1234uk You could also see your gp and discuss how your feeling they may prescribe something for you , don’t be to hard on yourself ! And take one day at a time tomorrow is always a new day your not alone and there are lots of people on here who will try help and advise you Hang in there !there is light at the end of the tunnel be kind to yourself you will get there sending you a virtual hug😊💪

Take care Yvonne xx

[Rosydays]

so sorry you’re feeling a bit low. Thought you might enjoy this-really beautiful singing and playing.Always lifts me.xx

youtu.be/fCSQd8Nx4mI?si=a7L...(Not working as expected?)

[Bronchi1]

There's no doubt we are living with challenging diseases. We need our lungs! You could maybe offload to the helpline. That might help.

Maybe make an appointment with your GP. Perhaps he/she could refer you for counselling. It is possible to learn some strategies to cope better.

Good luck, there isn't an easy solution but your mind is your best ally.

[Tvpuzzle]

Hi so sorry to hear that I'm feeling the same. We have all had a nasty bout of influenza,A, hubby was hospitalised for 5 days as as very poorly and has heart trouble. He was discharged and I went down with it.ive got asthma and copd and was very poorly.Been on settee for 2,weeks feeling terrible.Now on the mend but very weak.Not been passed the doors.But trying to get well .Life Is hard but u have to battle on .we all need some sun .Hope u feel better soon as,do I .Keep your chin up xx

[leo60 in reply to Tvpuzzle]

Hope you feel better and stronger soon xx

[Tvpuzzle in reply to leo60]

Thankyou I'm sure I will get there eventually. We both had our flu vaccine in Oct but this strain been rampant this winter hosp full with it x

[Izb1 in reply to Tvpuzzle]

So sorry to hear both you and hubby have been unwell. Try a good tonic or muti vits such as Solgar to help you back on your feet and rest up as much as possible. I hope you both feel better soon x

[Tvpuzzle in reply to Izb1]

Oh thankyou just taking small steps even getting a soak in bath is like a marathon but any little accomplishment lifts the spirits.oh to be young and able to fight things off quickly like I used to.Heigh ho so is life ha,x

[Kruidje]

It is not a pleasant feeling. Hugh kisses. If I may advice you something: watch what you eat. Some foods give me depression. Like (dried) fruits, graines, salicylates, spices. If I eat them I do not want to live anymore and I become very tired.

[armstrong2]

DO NOT EVER GIVE UP ..we are out there for each others back ...doesnt matter how you feel just send messages to any of us day or night on how you are someone out there will always answer you ..wehave all been down that road at some point this disease will never go away but be strong if you can ..easy said than done when you are feeling that your world is falling apart but trust me you always find ways ...take care x

[Yvonneh1234 in reply to armstrong2]

great words I second that 😊xxx

[Izb1]

Please speak with the help line on 0300 222 5800 . The weather certainly doesn't help with our health at this time of the year, it's so easy to sit around and do nothing, but exercise really does help with our health and how we are feeling. Spring is just around the corner and will make us all feel better and help us get out and about again . Sending love and hugs x

[SuziElley]

I know just where you’re coming from. Another sleepless night, propped up on pillows last night, another roll of “executive tissues” aka toilet roll! filling a bag as I cough and splutter and try to clear it all.

But as others have said, spring will soon be with us. In fact the sun is actually putting in an appearance today 🌜albeit a shy one. We need to support each other in this. Winter does seem long but we always manage to get through it.

Try to see your GP and talk things through. Hope you feel brighter soon 🙏🏻

[Numptybrain]

It’s hard, my breathing has been terrible for over a year waiting for the right treatment. It’s definitely got to me as here I am still in my bed typing this, no energy or motivation but when spring comes things will be different, I do love the sun and warmth. I get by my day by reading a good book or watching a good drama or 3?I also play solitaire, it takes my mind off my breathing and problems. I do know what it’s like to be in your shoes and it’s a horrible place but you will get through it, it’s a moment in time but I would go to your GP for help and tell them honestly how you are feeling, don’t worry if you break down crying, they need to know. The sooner you get help the more like you, you will feel.

Take care

Wendy xx

[Otto11]

Life sends us challenges but sometimes they are overwhelming. As others have suggested maybe speaking to someone about how you’re feeling is the best place to start. Just pick up your phone & ring either the helpline or your GP. We have all been there. Please don’t suffer in silence. Sending gentle hugs 🤗

[HerLadyship]

I know how hard it is to be positive when everything seems to be working against you! I too am still in PJ's and looking out the window at a grey stormy day doesn't encourage me to do anything at all. Keep talking to us because we understand...a lot of people don't!! Things will get better...and we're all wishing you well.

[PaperQueen]

Sending you a big warm hug. I do know how you feel Olivia, I've been there too and imagine there are a lot of people on this forum who have too. Hang on in there, the sun will come out again, both metaphorically and in actuality. Sally xx

[Nicholatracy]

I know how you feel. Please keep yourself as active as possible. Spring will be here soon and there’s not a prettier country than England in the Spring. Stay strong 🐞🐝

[MoosterMoo]

I'm sorry you're feeling this way Olivia. I've also had bouts of feeling like this and it can be so hard. Even the thought of warmer, lighter days doesn't always lift us. Please try to keep as active as you possibly can. Even though I don't really post, I do read and this group is so supportive so please reach out to chat or offload ❤️

[Olivia-Dre-123 in reply to MoosterMoo]

Thank u x