Firstly forgive me if I’m offending anyone, I realise that this is my third post in a row that isn’t related to lung disease and tbh since Geoff died I have felt a bit of a cheat even being on the forum . I did intend to share this on Free topic Friday but I was so moved by this explanation of God and the afterlife that I just felt compelled to share it with my friends here , many of whom I know have suffered loss and two at least very recently. I hope it gives as much comfort to them as it has to me and I promise I will try to stick to lung related topics in future 😊. I also want to say a massive Thank you to everyone who’s reached out to me over the past four weeks I can’t tell you how much it’s meant to me to read your replies and feel your support , Much love Val 🥰 xxxx
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I had to post This !
Hi Val, of course u are very welcome to stay on the support forum, I for one love hearing from u.
U have been of such support to all of us, so why even consider leaving, we won’t hear of it.
Post anytime about anything. 🌹🌹🌹🥰🤗🤗🤗Bernardine.
I posted a fair few things myself about things that were affecting me that we're nothing to do with lung disease like waiting to be evicted and house hunting and finding them stressful.
To be honest in regard to being evicted I am looking forward to it even though it sounds sick I am looking forward to a new start and I will be happy when I get that 2 week notice letter that the bailiffs will be coming to evict but hopefully I will leave before then off my own accord when I have found something else.
Is this u Catgirls if so lovely to hear from you. If not welcome Bernardine 🤗🤗🤗
Yes I used to be Catgirl and yesterday evening I received an eviction notice off the bailiffs saying I will be evicted on 30 May at 10.20am.
I am glad though I have a date and time but last night even though I had expected this for ages I still felt shocked and frightened though!
Do keep in touch, hopefully u will have a really good outcome.
Best wishes Bernardine 🥰❤️🤗🤗🤗
I was wondering how u had got on x
When I got the letter on Wednesday evening part of me was glad to get a date and time in writing but part of me was frightened as well even though I had expected this for ages receiving that letter was still a shock though!
I hope u get offered somewhere suitable.all the very best xxx
Thank you Bernadine 😊 xx
P.S.your post is so reassuring, thank you for posting.
Dear Val, a thought provoking post. You have been a tremendous help to me in the past and I hope that you will stay on the forum but will understand if you don't. Should that be the case please say tara at some stage so that we aren't left wondering.
Lots of love to you, Carole xxx
Hi Carole , I’m sorry I haven’t been of much support to you in recent months but I know you’ll understand why . I don’t intend to leave the forum just maybe take a bit of a back seat , but rest assured if I have any useful advice or cheery news I’ll still be putting in my two penny worth 😂 The post is thought provoking, it’s answered questions for me that at times have caused me to doubt . In a nutshell , 1 the human brain just isn’t equipped to envisage an afterlife. 2. Humans have already lived in two entirely different environments, using entirely different means to survive so why not a third 🤷🏻♀️ and finally it made me realise that when I doubt it’s the logical ( but Ill equipped ) part of my brain trying to over ride my instinct and spirit . I hope you’re keeping as well as possible and looking forward to the summer 😊 xx
I don’t think we have to stick to lungs, do we? If so, we wouldn’t have all the photos or chat about shopping trips or holidays. Or the jokes! The forum would be a very dry place, especially for people who can’t get out much & who pop in for some friendly company.
Also, I can’t imagine anyone being offended by your post. I don’t believe in any of the gods, but I’m not offended! I know others take comfort from their faiths, and in a way I envy them, but I just don’t have any.
It’s wonderful that you’ve stayed with us and I hope we, your friends, have helped. You certainly helped us so much when you reassured us about how Geoff had died. I can’t tell you how comforting that was. It’s lovely to hear more about him, and also I think your sense of humour and general outlook on life is very refreshing ❤️
My sentiments exactly so thank you for putting my thoughts so succinctly eleanordigby 😀. Val, it's always lovely to hear from you and you're an inspiration for many in a similar situation ❤
Thank you so much eleanordigby . I was only concerned because I’ve seen posts complaining that we stray too often from the purpose of the forum 😬. As to faith , I’m not conventionally , religious but I have from being very small felt someone/ something. helping me get through this, often tough life . I was a painfully shy child and needed that “imaginary friend” , as I’ve grown whilst not attending any organised religious group I have read about many , many different religions and basically taken on board the best from some of them. Very, very gradually I’ve come to have a strong believe in some higher power that gives me strength when i need it and nature to enjoy 🤷🏻♀️ Xxx
Please stay with us, you are family. And I just love your post. Very thought-provoking.
Reminded me of the two caterpillars. They are looking up at a butterfly and one says to the other:
“You won’t catch me going up in one of those things.”
Love Kate xxx
That made me chuckle!
😂😂 Thank you for those kind words , I’m not leaving , as you said we are family- what a lovely thought 🥰❤️ xxx
Hi Val, I enjoyed your thought-provoking post, thank you for sharing it. Folk always have the option of scrolling on by if they don’t want to read it.
My husband died just over seven years ago. He had a terrific sense of humour and was a one for a practical joke, too. Various little incidents have happened over these intervening years that have convinced me that he’s still around in some form and that there is something beyond this life, although what that is I have no idea! It does seem to include humour though😊 That gives me comfort through some of the darker days.
I have mainly heart issues going on, although I also have asthma and now mild pulmonary hypertension to add to the list. Compared to the lung problems other forum members are dealing with, though, I do feel that perhaps I shouldn’t be here either but you’re all such a lovely lot that I don’t want to leave! I do hope that you decide to stay, too.
All the best to you, TC xx
Ps I didn’t know about Free Topic Friday. I’ve got a funny story to share but will save it for then 😀
You have every right to be on here Threecats so do please stay. Xxx
No need to move on Threecats , we welcome everybody here x
Please don't feel that you don't belong here. You are just as welcome as the rest of us xx
I’m glad your husband reminds you he still has his eye on you 😂 Like you, I don’t want to leave because it’s such a friendly place to be a part of - anyway I have sinusitis, that’s a condition ! So I’m staying ! 😂🤣 xx
We all have a condition and need Conditioning 😂🤣🌹
It's v kind of u to post this.v thought provoking.gd to see something like this + all the lung+ not lung related posts too xx
Thank you Patk1 😊 xx
Thanks for interesting thought provoking post! Please carry on posting, those of us who live alone appreciate contacts via HU. There are days when I don’t see anyone, and I have to be cautious about contact. My physio has flu caught, from someone, so I’m having to be extra cautious in case I’ve got it.x
Do take care Jean, and continue to enjoy time with your friends on here 😊xx
What a wonderful post Val, certainly hasn’t offended me. I do hope you stay on the forum as it’s good to talk and always good to hear from you.
Wishing you well as always.
Love and hugs, Carole xxx💖🤗
Thank you Carole ❤️ Xxx
Dear Val, Could you offend anyone? Please stay in touch, if only from time to time. We need people like you here. Lots of love, Chris xxx
Thank you Chris , I’m definitely not leaving the forum , it’s been massively supportive to me during Geoffs illness and whilst I’m intending to forge a new path in life as best I can , I know I’ll still need the support of all my lovely friends here more than ever . I might be a bit quieter- but maybe/ probably not 🤔 😂🤣😂❤️ Xxx
I love this Val 🥰
Thinking of you!
Yes it’s good isn’t it Dee ? I’m glad you enjoyed it and hope you’re keeping well . I was laughing the other day at my photo of your mixed up jelly babies 😂 xxx
Thankyou for your thought provoking and interesting post, it certainly raises questions! I've heard before that we shouldn't be scared of after life as we aren't scared of before lfe. Like others, I talk to my Dad who gained his wings seven years ago. I also haven't heard of 'free friday'!
Definitely thought provoking, for me it explains that we’re not yet equipped to understand what lies ahead , just has we didn’t understand this life when we came into it . We’ve all been fed via an umbilical cord and all when the time was right developed the instinct to suck - the more I think the more my mind is blown 😂 xx
You are certainly not offending me TPW so please keep posting, if people are offended they can skip the post and move on. This is very thought provoking and makes you think. What is free topic Friday? haven't heard of this x
I hadn't heard of free topic Friday either as I'm sure some of my posts will show.
I think it’s actually known as “Off topic Friday “ I couldn’t remember the name and can’t remember how I came to hear of it 😂. I’m guessing it was started to stop the forum being taken over by non lung related posts but it’s obviously a guide rather than a rule 😬😬😂 xx
I remember when they did a free for all Friday in the care community when Callendersgal was in charge!
That might be where I’ve heard it although I don’t think I’ve ever posted in the care community 🤔
Lovely to see your post.How are you?
I think of you often and am wishing you well - do keep posting!
I’m doing ok Cloudancer , last weekend I was alone for a few hours and had a real outpouring of grief, which I was truly grateful and felt better for . The first few weeks were so busy and dreamlike but now I feel more myself and ready to carry on with positivity but with those moments of sadness that are only natural . Thank you for caring ❤️ Xxx
It does you the power of good having a good cry every now and again!
First of all, a big thankyou Val, for having the courage and the inner belief in posting this: it's an insight into the wonderment of life and eternity. That piece of writing takes us to a place of fulfilment and hope. (It is a conversation that Jude Geoffrey may well have had with himself!)As I type this on my mobile I can see through my bedroom curtains that the sun is shining. So I'm going to get up and wipe the garden chairs down and just sit there marveling at all the plants and foliage, and just feeling thankful.
I hope the whole world reads your post. This forum is a good shop window for it.❤️
Thank you Greenthorn , my daughter sent it to me , it’s taken from a book called Your Sacred Self by Dr Wayne W Dyer . I’ve never heard of the author but I’ve ordered the book so there may well be more to come . Enjoy the wonder of the world ! 😊 xx
Don't apologise. It gives some of us the words we can't find for ourselves but would like to. x
Thank you Tykelady , explaining anything beyond logic is indeed difficult , I think the piece explains a lot of things 😊 xx
Hi Val 🙋♀️please keep posting. I too have had a truly heart breaking loss but the mixture of posts on this lovely forum are one of the things that help me through each day. I hope they help you too❤️❤️xxx
They do indeed Nula and I shan’t be leaving for exactly that reason . I hope you’re finding the strength you need😊❤️ Xxx
Thank you - you too 😊❤️xxx
No it's not fraud to stay on here after the loss of your Geoff.
Geoff wouldn't want you to be lonely would he?
No he wouldn’t Turnipgirl 😊 xx
Good morning Val. Hope your coping OK love. I hope you don't leave the group. I think this group is more than just to talk and get advice about health issues and medication we might be starting to use. But it's also a support group for everything that we are going through as well. The more you chat with people the more you get to know each other and it's like an extension of our family in some ways. Because we can talk about our worries and concerns here without worrying our families. Hope you have a good day. Brian
Hi Bingo88, I think there is more 'heart' on the lungies site than on the Heart site. I think the Mods recognise there is real value in members talking about their own experiences to each other.
Good morning Sir. Hope your keeping well. Yes to be honest I have lung disease and a pacemaker. But I have always found the support and friendship is always better on the lung groups. Plus it's awkward I find remembering some of the chats you have had previously with too many people at the same time. Have a good day. Brian
Thank you for sharing Val. Like others I would love you to stay and join in with the chat. I like to think there is an after life and I think that a mix of posts helps us all through our days. Xx
I love that piece. I’ve seen it before. If you don’t believe in anything what’s the point of life.
That’s the big question isn’t it ? I think( as the baby said) it’s to learn , develop and prepare for what comes next - I just don’t know what that is 😂 xx
Garden chairs washed down, so this is one of the views.
Beautiful 😍 x
What a lovely wisteria. I'm envious. xxx
Me too , I’ve had one in my south facing front garden for over twenty years and it hasn’t flowered yet 😂 xx
Thank you Brian , you have hit the nail on the head . I can’t leave because you’ve all become like family - not only would I miss your support so much but I’d be worrying myself sick about you all , I have to stay to keep my eye on everyone 😂xxx
Sending hugs your way sorry for your loss x
thank you for sharing this 🐞
that is lovely, life is a mystery but I believe god is good and takes care of all his children. Love Iris x
I do too Iris and I hope you’ve been given strength to carry on 🙏 xx
A thought provoking post for sure! Never saw it before. Thank you for sharing it. I had to laugh at MoyB's post about blaming 'Pop' for things that are moved or missing!
My brother in law died seven years ago and his wife apparently still blames and gets angry with him if something goes wrong in the house 😂 x
Dear Val, this is a lovely post! I can't describe the afterlife, but I'm certain there is one. It gives me hope.
Plus the fact, whenever I can't find something I've mislaid, I blame Pop (my father) for moving it and he's been gone since 1984! If there's no afterlife, I'll have to accept I'm losing the plot from time to time. 🤣
Do keep posting. If people are offended, I'm sure you'll hear from them, but I hope they accept your words in the spirit you have written them. xx Moy
Poor Pop 😂 I must try not to get into the habit of blaming Geoff , the poor man got blamed for for most stuff in this life , he’ll no doubt be enjoying a bit of peace now until I find him again 😂 xx