Such a loss can't be easily overcome and it is very early days after the loss of your dear Midge. The pleasant man is still there under the shadow of sadness, to return when the time is right xxx
Don, it sometimes does you good to let go and have a good scrike, but remember we are all here for you, we miss Midge as well, time my friend is the greatest healer eh! x
If we could not let you grieve, what sort of friends would we be? I have always found that my grief has been in direct proportion to the love I felt. For me dogs have been the most grieved for, as they never criticised or expected things of me (other than food), If it helps write the grief out in your poems, do not feel you have to be anything for us.
I expect you'll cry a river before you're done dear Don. There's nothing wrong with that, letting all your grief for Midge come out. I hope you ve got someone you can talk to, your daughter or a friend and of course there's us lot on here, though I know we are a poor substitute for actually talking to someone. Lots of love and hugs.💓💓
Aww Don, our hearts are sad with yours because we know how important Midge was and what a great loss she is to you! And I guess it’s bringing up a renewed wave of grief for your wife, from your beautiful photo and words from the other day. It’s ok to cry!!! I went through years of counselling to figure that out 😂,but really it’s ok to let those tears flow!!!! And once your eyes are red and puffy & you think to yourself ‘oh my days, what on earth do I look like!’ , then find something that will make you smile again! A funny memory, a song, a picture, poem, us crazy ones!
And maybe there will be lots of waves, and that’s ok!!! As long as you find the moments to smile and rest upon the sand too!!!
The pleasant man is still very much here, just feeling sad. And we're all sad for you as we feel your sorrow. Sending you huge amounts of good wishes 🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑
Poor Don,Its sometimes not easy to cry and let things out.It makes you feel bottled up inside.Hopefully time will heal the pain.Sometimes when i go downstairs at night,igo to tread over our Hunnies bed.Its not been there for 30 years.Still miss her,but look back on her with love.Same as you do.Love Rose x
Awww feeling for you Don
You know little Midge would be wanting to do her healing magic on you if she saw you so sad you have a good cry Don, let it all out.
Then remember to find that happy inside with the memories of special little Midge.
The pain of losing our dogs is very real. A grief not to be rushed or brushed aside. It will run its course & the tears will turn to love and smiles of remembrance ❤️🐶
I really feel your pain Don because this will happen to me soon, Rosie is 15, I just cannot imagine life without her. Loads of love Carole and Rosie xxx
Oh Don, I’m so sorry that you’re sad without your little Midge, but with our support and love you will be happy eventually. This isn’t a good time to be alone, but we’re always here to listen to you. Take care..
It's important to get your feelings out Don. Grieving is natural and helps us cope. This year from hell has made every sadness worse. Dont feel under any pressure to be poetic or upbeat at the moment, just be you.xx
Hi Don.. Let the tears flow because there tears of love for a lost frend I know u said u don't have it in you for another wee friend. But Don u have.... There's another wee old pal needing u out there. To share cuddles tears, your poetry. And the van. Please think about it soon, u still have loads of adventures to go on. My 3 woofs are what keep me going. Your not betraying your wee pal only giving a good home to another to share your love and. Life with. Keep safe. Xc
Oh Don, just cry and mourn for your little Midge. When my little Jack russell JJ died, I cried for months, there's still not a day that goes by that we don't mention her, she was the best dog you could have (just like Midge). We eventually went on to have another 2 dogs, but my little JJ will always be in my heart .💕
Dear Don let your grief come out, cry as much as you can, Midge has been your companion by your side the last 10 years and what a friendship and bond you had. Like others I too miss Midge and her little ways . Seven years on and I still miss my Sam and will touch or talk to his photos every now and again. It's understandable you're not as cheery as before but you will get there. What wonderful thoughts and poems have been written above. Take care (((HUGS A PLENTY))) Anita xx
It's so good that you can vocalise your grief and not try to bottle it up inside - you make us laugh and cry at the same time with your wonderful poems; it gives the rest of us a huge gift, so thank you for sharing Don. Sending hugs and deep affection x
We always had two dogs and it is heartbreaking to loose them. We were very lucky with ours they all died from old age. So sad they do not have a longer life. Now I am on my own I decided I would not have another dog as there is a good chance I would be the one to go first. You always have the memories to look back on and all the photos you took. So sorry for your loss.
Now, get the photos out and have a good cry. Then remember the fun you had with Midge and all your road trips you did together, not to mention the poems she posted on here!
After that, settle yourself down with whatever you enjoy - Skiis mentioned steak and kidney pie - well, why not?! Treat yourself to a nice glass of something to go with it then find something good to watch on tele for a bit -and NO, I don't mean the COVID update, although that IS quite funny sometimes if you have a perverse sense of humour like me!
The days will pass and you'll find your own 'new normal' as you know, but you'll never forget those you've loved and lost. I like to think we'll meet up with them all again one day and hope that thought gives you some comfort too. (Mind you, there are one or two I don't particularly want to meet again - maybe I'll need to take my mask with me when I go to meet my maker!)
So sorry about your Midge, Don. Our pets become such a wonderful part of our lives. They deserve to be mourned and surely it wouldn't be heaven if they weren't there to greet us when we enter. Hubs and I still cry when talking about our last dog and he's been gone 16 years. Hugs to you.
You know what they say, Don......grief is the price we pay for love ❤️ you’ll be feeling it sorely now, but there’ll eventually be light at the end of the tunnel, where we’re all standing waiting for you....one day 🌹xx
It’s going to take a lot of time and tears Don. 3 amigos then 2, now 1.It’s going to be so strange without your mate and unfortunately not much to take your mind off your loss at the moment. Hope you have some company even if only by video calls etc. It’s good to talk.
So sorry Don it’s very difficult to know what to say. I’m sure Midge wouldn’t want to see you sad. How lucky for both of you to have spent such a long and happy time together. Take care. Cx😘
People who haven’t loved and lost pets often don’t realise the depth of the grief. Our furry companions are with us most of the time. They’re ever present, both physically and emotionally even down to things like, oh I must get home to feed the dog”.
I don’t believe the old adage that time is a great healer. It’s been 18 months since I said goodbye to my dog and I miss him terribly. That said, with time, you do begin to draw comfort from the happy memories and their funny ways. I still look back with sadness but I am able to remember happy and funny times without feeling overwhelming sadness. At the beginning, even happy memories were overcast by the sadness and grief. Be kind to yourself xx
Oh Don I know how you feel, it is so hard to deal with the loss of such a true and loyal friend. You kind of lose your mojo eh? But all of your HU friends are here for you. I can't tell you how relieved I was to see your post, take care of your self Bard of HU cos we need you
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