I was wondering what to do; kinda really emotional, have been since Monday! Basically we had a big argument and the people I live with (been here 15 years) have threatened to kick me out, amongst other things because I no longer do the House work and gardening, I tried but I just can’t, I’m struggling massively with a 50+ working week, to the point I’m shattered when I get home! Like completely sometimes I can’t even cook a meal at night.
They know about my emphysema and asthma, and should be understanding as their both asthmatics themselves.
On Wednesday it all got to much and I went to the doctors as it put me in a really low mood. They give me a taking therapy number, there’s a waiting list however.
I’m angry at myself because I thought I was doing ok!
Maybe these feeling will past, but I don’t want to live like this, and don’t know what to do!
Written by
xNellx
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
Hi why is it your responsibility to work 50+ hours a week and also do all the housework and gardening? I presume you contribute massively to the finances? If it's just your share of the housework you can't do then can you cut your hours down at work? Or how about employing a cleaner? x
Are you living in some sort of collective set-up xNellx? Sometimes that can be a bit rigid with housework rotas etc and Im wondering if your house-mates feel you're all the same as they also have asthma and have no idea how much more burden the emphysema will add.
Marx comes to mind: "From each according to their ability, to each according to their need". You are obviously doing your damnest to keep going and there should be some flexibility and understanding for what you are going through. You sound like a heroine to me, working so much, and I wonder if you could negotiate less hours? Times are hard I know and this may not be a practical suggestion.
There is an article about what it is like to live with this invisible condition, "Sick Lungs Don't Show", good to show to friends, family etc. I'll see if I can find it.
Hi , sorry for your troubles but I am not one that can offr advice. However from your point of view try contacting your local palliative care team, they have some very understanding
people who can maybe point you in the right direction. They are generally full of information or know where to get it, they may also help with your emotional side, tell them the saga, they may even help on the emotional front. They may even be able to help with alternative accommodation.
Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.
Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.
persistent cough for 3 years
Follow up doctors & Respiratory physio 
inspiratory muscle training 
learning how to drive 
Exercise for lung health.
