Interest video

[gothmum]

ted.com/talks/nadine_burke_...

Interesting video on the effects of abuse on future health and wellness

[sassy59]

Sad but true unfortunately. Wishing you well. Xxxz

[gothmum in reply to sassy59]

Thanks you. Hugs xoxoxo

[Nottobad]

Sorry I do not understand this could you explain it in laymans terms. Totally over my head

[gothmum in reply to Nottobad]

It just shows that abused children have a higher chance of becoming ill with certain diseases as adults.There is proof of this,so being an abuse survivor makes us predisposed to getting certain diseases,understanding this can impact treatments and diagnosis.

Hugs Tracey x

[Nottobad in reply to gothmum]

Okay thank you Tracey. I was never abused as a child and I have COPD. And I know plenty of people with chronic condition who were not abused. Thanks for the explanation

[gothmum in reply to Nottobad]

I think it's more illnesses like autoimmune diseases.Even gallstones,there is proof that the terror felt by an abused child causes the fight or flight response,and the hormones and chemicals produced because of this,cause gallstones which is an autoimmune response.Hopefully Drs and health professionals knowing this can help

Take care Tracey x

[Nottobad in reply to gothmum]

I know about autoimmune disorders I have 2 of them psoriatic arthritis and psoriasis. I think I will sit on the fence with this one.

[gothmum in reply to Nottobad]

I have 2 autoimmune diseases too,sarcoidosis and gallbladder disease.hopefully one day all these illnesses will be treatable and even curable ☺

Hugs Tracey💕

[knitter]

Think I understood it....maybe I am wrong.....poor childhood experiences may cause illnesses in later life......stress causes changes to the brain and body of the developing child.

Trouble is what's done is done....we just have to learn to accept our past.

I guess no one has a ' perfect' upbringing ....and what may be seen as abuse now may not have been seen as so in the past .

And what can be done....children now are taken away from abusive parents...there are schemes like Sure Start to support parents

I went on a course for people with long term chronic conditions or cancer, and many of them had problematic upbringings.

Food for thought.

[gothmum in reply to knitter]

I agree with you that what's done is done,but I think it's important for me to know that my childhood abuse probably caused my terminal illness,this gives me understanding,and if the medical profession accept this,then hopefully diagnosis and treatment could be tailored.I always knew the stress and anxiety must have been causing other issues,and I know now that was probably the case.I struggle to accept a past that is still causing me serious issues.my upbringing was horrific and knowing that I'm ill while my parents enjoy their retirement is painful.Life certainly goes on for them

[knitter in reply to gothmum]

Hi goth mum, I can sympathise ....I have been sorting out my late parents photos.....a horrid job but I wanted to keep those that showed my children and grandparents. There were literally scores of them on holidays with people and places that I don't know. .....all of them after I had left home. I am afraid they are going to be dumped.

I spent much of my childhood ' on edge' trying to read my parents mood.....but again my father was in pain with a long term illness . I learned to dread his heavy footsteps as he walked down the side of the house when he came home from work.

Even when he was in his 90s and was partly paralysed with a stroke , he still had the energy to shake his fist at me...and glare.

My asthmatic friend and I, both agree that we were not the type of daughters that our parents wanted.

Have you had any counselling at all, it can be difficult to find the right person to trust. I went on a six week course for people with chronic health problems and found it very useful ...many of us had had problematic childhoods

Take care

[scorpiolass]

Thanks for this Gothmum. Formerly I worked in mental health services and this is all too familiar to me. All of us carry the small child we were. Lavish your love on her too, you are worth it. X

[gothmum in reply to scorpiolass]

Aww that's so sweet scorpiolass,its nice to have people understand.sending you love and hugs

Tracey 💕

[Hidden in reply to scorpiolass]

Beautifully put Margaret.