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A bit embarrassing this but does COPD affect your sex life ?

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I seem to have lost the urge for sex. It's not that I don't want to do it or the COPD bothers me. It's just that I don't even get the urge in the first place and it's damned annoying to say the least.

Does anybody else have this problem ?

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scrobbitty

Nope - but maybe different for men with COPD than women.

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dall05

My Mojo seems to have gone walkabouts too Puff, maybe Austin Powers could sort us out Babe. Ha Ha :)

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toonamp

It's bound to have an effect on our libido, we men are normally the ones that traditionally make the first move. At least in my youth.

When you can't even get your slippers on without needing to lie down for half an hour, you can't expect to be the dashing young Don Juan of days of yore.

Don't despair though where there's a will there's a way. Add the y where you wish :)

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Toci in reply to toonamp

Very good. :) :)

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ginachron in reply to toonamp

Loved your response. Just about says it all!

Gina x

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phillips1

Normally Puff in the company of healthy men I would take the mick something alarming. But we are not healthy men are we. From what I can gather a lot of men with lung disease suffer from the same problem, including me. So don't be embarrased mate, the more it is talked about the better it is for everybody.

Best regards

Bobby

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Puffthemagicdragon

The manly and loveable side of me wants the closeness of sex but for some reason the urge has gone.

Hehe Bobby. I don't mind the mick being taken to lighten the mood !

Your answers are very helpful.

My partner, on the other hand, is not very pleased though.

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phillips1 in reply to Puffthemagicdragon

Puff

Just keep telling her that it's not her fault, you still fancy her. Mind you, the women change. When I met mine it was little sexy panties from Victoria's Secret. Now it's big cotton bloomers from Primark. lol

Bobby

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Puffthemagicdragon in reply to phillips1

I've told her it's not her fault lots of times but you know what women are like !

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phillips1 in reply to Puffthemagicdragon

I do indeed Puff, I do indeed. lol

Bobby

in reply to phillips1

Lol Bobby :)

in reply to Puffthemagicdragon

You can still have a cuddle and gaze into her eyes, puff. My breathing couldn't take it. It would be squashed out of me, and poor old Brian's testerone has gone, but do you know what, puff, we are as happy as we have ever been in our lives. Sex isn't the end all and be all of a marriage. Of course, it is good while it had happens, but then if things change, live with it. You will still your wife is lovely and tell her so. Love Annie xx

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Pepsicoley

I'm halibut.

Oh dear, I think I mean celibate.

Although, come to think of it, perhaps I am a cold fish. lol

Puff, couldn't you at least cuddle - even just being close to your partner is lovely. Perhaps, in time, cuddles will lead to something more.

Kindest wishes

Love and hugs

Annec

xxxxx

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Lynne1955

Ok. As a female, yes it does. I worry about being sob but in practice, my husband is so worried about me and my breathing, it is him that is more reluctant.

We do cuddle a lot and I do try to reassure him.

For you men with copd, I would advise you to encourage your wives/partners to take the initiative more, if you get my drift. That can preserve your breath and hey, they might like to be in charge.

We may be ill, but we are not dead!

Lynne xx

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Gordon57 in reply to Lynne1955

Typicall Lynne, wanting to get on top of things... ;)

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Lynne1955 in reply to Gordon57

Lol xx

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music in reply to Gordon57

lol gorden good one

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phillips1 in reply to Lynne1955

Good advice Lynne. I will try that.

Bobby xxxx

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KingoftheCocktails

I feel deflated!

Richard

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Puffthemagicdragon in reply to KingoftheCocktails

No comment ! :D

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Puffthemagicdragon

The breathing bit doesn't bother me. Nothing like a bit of deep breathing exercise to keep the lungs healthy ! :)

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Gordon57

Keeping breathing is the main concern, after so long doing any kind of physical exercise I need to take a rest and recover for a while. Does not help really. The cuddles are still there, and we make a point of that daily. It's a case of which to go for, a nice cuppa or the little blue pills. We seems to drink a lot of tea these days. :D

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phillips1 in reply to Gordon57

The Ciallis is better than the Viagra 'cos they last for 24 hours. However, it can be ruddy embarrassing in Sainsbury's the morning after the night before. lol

Bobby

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KingoftheCocktails in reply to phillips1

They would probably blow my pacemaker!

Richard

in reply to phillips1

You never did say what ciallis is bobby. If it is a strange plant send me a cutting. I have a sneaky feeling that it is something that makes you hope around the bed. Good for you if you have the energy. Artiifical means!!???

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phillips1 in reply to

Annieseed

Will you behave Annie! The only thing that would make me hop around the bed is 50,000 volts up me backside.

Love as always

Bobby xxxx

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ginachron in reply to

Was that hop around the bed, or hope? Both might fit given the circumstances.

Gina x

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ashmere4 in reply to Gordon57

I have the same problem just as well i like tea

Just lie back and think of England :) let your wife do most of the work... :)

Bev x

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phillips1 in reply to

She would want more money Bev. lol

Bobby xxx

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music in reply to phillips1

bobby cant stop laughing at this comment even the wifes laughing

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Jayenne

The thought of having a relationship since getting my lung disease terrifies me!!

What was once heavy (pleasurable) breathing would probably be my last breaths!! Ah, the memories ;-)

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caroleoctober

My husband and I, oops sound like someone else, have been celibate for a few years. He has diabetes so it's six of one and half a dozen of another, but it doesn't mean we don't love one another. Keep smiling

Carole x

in reply to caroleoctober

Like me, Carole, i bet you have got in with your life, and am grateful for a good marriage. Love Annie xx

Can,t gets to tyerd and to many attacks tell wife its not her but this blxxxx lung stops me

still have a good. Cuddle. Still as good and tell wife you still love her alot. More than when

you meet :-) :-)

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dukes

Still get quite 'Horny' but ejaculation is quickly followed by a coughing fit. Well you did ask !

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peege

Lovely brave blog. Lots of loving things you can do for your wife Puff, to make her feel loved, wanted and adored. XX

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Glitzdevil

My partners suggested I had all my inhalers to hand lol I told him where to go lol

Sex is the last thing on my mind or my husbands for that matter and has been for a long time.

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Spritz

Have to admit my sex drive is not what it was but my poor husband is as randy as ever!! Even the fact that I'm attached to my oxygen pretty much permanently doesn't put him off me, bless him :) . Still there are lots of things that can be done and ways of showing our love!!

Jude xx

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dingo

a message for my fellow copd-ers, I've just turned 73 and suddenly the sun don't shine just peeps over the horizon, don't forget there is bromide in some of our medification and I put it down to this. at one time even frogs weren't safe with me around and I would rather have lost a leg than my sex drive. I look at my wife and she's still gorgeous but i'm sorry love the brain is telling my lungs don't do it dingo I could never go on c-pap again it was horrible, i'm sure if anyone's been on c-pap you know what I mean

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ginachron in reply to dingo

Horrible. Was put on the mask for over 12 hours per day for approx 3 weeks. Unable to sleep, which made me feel even worse during the day. Miserable doesn't describe it. Blood gases taken each day. Started noting the co2 levels and finally turned down the oxygen to see what difference it made. Co2 dropped luckily. It can save lives though. Hated it.

With my heart and lung problems and the amount of medication which I have been on for a few years has put paid to any sex life. I have always said being an ex Police Inspector the last time I seen something stiff was lying on a slab. (Sorry if that offends) but it is true. As long as the love is there and you have a reasonable health sex is on the back burner..After 40 plus years of marraige we still love each other and that is all that matters.

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Berwick, that made me laugh! And why do we have to worry about offending sensitive people. Life is tough, get on with it.

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kiaman

yes I have same problem feel randy as hell t breathing causes problems but I don't only thing that is the only thing that causes this problem don't forget a lot of the medinces we take to help cause side effects so it cud be this god how I wish I cud grow a new pair of lungs

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Luppe

Am lucky to have a very cool lady in my life but have been fretting a bit about this. We're really honest and refuse to take it too seriously - I mean sex does have it ludicrous side. I use Cialis as was surprised that maintaining things was a challenge. For us the journey is the thing (and a wonderful one) as we don't always hit the destination - great company tho

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