How to manage

[Flaviour]

So,my boyfriend proposed to me last week and i said yes.Im just anxious about my health.I dont want to be aburden to him when we are married.His very sweet and very supportive.I know alot of you guys are married and are managing even with kids.Please,i need you advice on how to do this.

[emmasue]

As long as he is aware of the facts, it is up to your fiance whether he marries you or not. It sounds like he loves you. I wouldn't worry too much. You always cope, whatever life throws at you. After all, he could have an accident and need life long care. We never know what is ahead so there is no use changing plans based on "maybe's".

Congratulations on your engagement and best wishes for the future. X

[Flaviour in reply to emmasue]

Thanks alot

[M-D-F]

Congratulations, just get on with your life.

[Flaviour in reply to M-D-F]

Thanks alot

[Paradigm]

Congratulations! Your boyfriend is (presumably) already well aware of your asthma and so it wouldn't be any different healthwise for him to be a long term boyfriend rather than husband.

Go for it!

[Flaviour in reply to Paradigm]

Thanks alot

[Minushabens]

My asthma was generally pretty bad up until my late 20s, by which time I'd been married a few years. My wife (now of nearly 32 years + 2 grown up kids & 1 grandchild) has always been supportive, & in actual fact helped me to take it more seriously & look after myself better (I'd been brought up in a culture of 'the doctor is far too busy to be bothering with you being poorly'). When my condition deteriorated quite seriously around 3 years ago, it was she who really pushed me to get the doctor to do further tests; without which I think I'd probably have been a goner by now.

So - true love is true love! We all have our difficulties, but I'm sure he just wants you to have a happy life together & understands asthma is just a part of who you are.

My friend M-D-F puts it better than I could - just enjoy your life & whatever it brings you!

[Flaviour in reply to Minushabens]

Thanks alot.