Crying

[Astarlove]

Happy new year!!!! Do you at times cey because of the lack of connection with baby or its just me

[Kat_at_APP Volunteer]

A very happy and healthy new year Astarlove - and to everyone here on the forum.

Oh yes, crying at any given point was all part of the recovery. In a way (although it’s hard to see this at the time I know) it’s a sign of progress as crying is so very real and emotional. Not being numb! So embrace the tears, cry it all out, and before you know it you will feel that bond. The bond is always there, just hard to feel (often because of the medication as much as the illness).

Best wishes

Kat x

[Ramlah_at_APP Volunteer]

Happy new year Astarlove ,

Hope you are doing okay .

I definitely used to cry during the recovery process, especially cause it took a while for me to build that connection with my first born. It’s absolutely normal to cry , you are not alone . The connection between you and your dear baby will grow ❤️

[Rachel_at_APP Partner APP]

Sending my very best wishes to you Astarlove as we bring in the New Year.

Yes, I most definitely cried at all points of experiencing PP and in my recovery. I didn’t think I’d know emotional pain like it, until it happened to me. I’d imagined my experience of new motherhood to be the opposite of what happened. That my child would be born and “click” connection, attachment and bonding would glue us together.

In reality it took at least nine months until I was like - Woah! There’s that feeling, I get it, and I love being a Mummy.

But it was the PP that made my experience like that. Not because I didn’t know how to love my child. Or because I didn’t want to. But in reality I was a bit broken at that time, and I needed to learn how to be me again - as a mummy too - before I could find the peace and bond like I’d so desperately wanted to.

In time, at the right time, maybe you could think about Counselling perhaps? It helped me enormously, having a space to go and talk through what had happened and piece together all my feelings and some healing of me around it.

Sadly PP hits hard. You know that. And I’m sorry it’s happened to you. It’s painful. But it’s most definitely normal…. But more importantly, it’s definitely OK to cry! I PROMISE.

Just promise not to cry on your own too much. Seek out a friend or relative’s hand to hold and squeeze. And don’t forget too, do speak to the medical professionals around you or of course phone Samaritans on 116 123 to talk too if it helps.

Take care, and thinking of you.

Love Rachel x

[The_Wes_Anderson_Fan Volunteer]

Hi Astarlove, happy new year to you too.Please can you remind me how old your baby is? I think the connection takes quite a while.

I think it's ok to cry from time to time, but if you are crying frequently, maybe you need to tell a medical professional. Thinking of you x