ICantSupportSis

[Against_the_current]

SheNeedsMeAndImOnOverloadImSoScaredOfHerGettingTraumasThatIGetTriggeredWhenSheSharesToMeAboutAProblemButSheCanGetTraumatizedIfImNotThereForHerButICantBearItIGetTriggeredImOverwhekmedWithUniICantThinkICantFunction

[Hidden]

You can't save other people. You aren't superwoman. You're going to be overwhelmed if you think about her all the time (trust me on this one since I've spent the last 8-9 months not thinking about myself and not being nice to myself). I've been in a near-constant overwhelmed and stress state of mind as a result. Trust that she is her own person and can take care of herself.

[Genuineguy in reply to Hidden]

Yes, foremost we have a responsibility to care forfor ourselves. No one can do this for us

[Blueruth]

Hidden is right. On an airplane they instruct you to put the mask on your face before helping anyone else. Good advice.

[silentdreamer20]

I have to agree with the above comments. It's completely understandable that you want to be there for your loved one, but you can't be there for anyone if you aren't well. You have to take care of yourself, too. I have these two friends that really depend on me to be their rock. I don't mind it at all, but some of their situations are huge triggers for me (I have PTSD) and it's really difficult for me to get through a conversation when they are offloading everything to me about those things. Unfortunately, I had to step back and get myself some help to deal with things. While I am there for them, no one realizes, no one is there for me. You have to put yourself into considerations, hun. No matter who is involved. Best of luck❤️

[Against_the_current in reply to silentdreamer20]

Thanks. Really need to hear this. She is struggling again but i can't help, i'm lost myself and feeling so worried about her

[silentdreamer20 in reply to Against_the_current]

I'm sorry you are put in this situation. I know everyone needs someone to lean on, but while doing that, sometimes we don't consider that person we lean on may need someone as well. I hope you are finding the help that you need to cope with your own things. It's important that we take care of our mental health. I have to explain to people, you wouldn't sit there and let your kidney fall apart, would you? Or continue walking around with a broken foot? So, don't look down on someone when their mental health is need of some healing. Our brains are organs as well and sometimes they need a little bit of help to get through some things. There is no shame in that at all. I can't stand the stigma around it all. Reach out if you ever need to. We all need someone❤️

[Against_the_current in reply to silentdreamer20]

Thanks. I'm reaching out a lot but still have problems with my family 😭

[silentdreamer20]

I understand. Family is sometimes the hardest to cope with because it's difficult to distance yourself from them when you may need to. Do your best to take care of yourself, though. That's all you can do.

[Against_the_current in reply to silentdreamer20]

Thanks. I need to. But they don't let me