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I would like to make today’s post a little different. I don’t want to have the normal this is what I’ve lost recently, not another gloom & doom story. Today, I would like to introduce you to Oscar. Oscar is just over 1 year old and is a Shiranian (half Shih Tzu half Pomeranian). I found him on Craig’s List last fall. He was an interesting little fella. He was ~6 1/2-7 months old, living on a cattle farm with many other animals including a pot belly pig, two big dogs (not sure of breed) that I swore were ponies when we 1st pulled up, chickens, and, of course, cattle. He had never had a leash on and was accustomed to running freely between the indoors/outdoors. He had burrs in his coat from running through the weeds in the field. And, he is the friendliest dog you would ever want to meet, doesn’t know there are strangers and dangers in the world that he shouldn’t approach, and thinks everyone we meet on our walks, including other dogs, should come over and play with him. He is still bursting at the seams with exuberant puppy energy therefore many of the other dogs, especially the older ones, will only approach him hesitantly.

Oscar has since become my constant companion, always in my lap or at my heels as I go about my day. He loves nothing more than to snuggle into the crack between me and the chair arm, lie on his back with all 4 feet stuck straight up in the air and me scratching his belly. He doesn’t have me wrapped around his little paws at all! He has also developed a sense of when I’m at my foggiest and will not leave me during those times. As much as he likes me, he likes my wife even more. He loves to curl up in her lap and nap and he knows she is a softy and will feed him bites of her apple, pear, whatever she’s eating (always something dog safe). Of course, I’ve never been known to slip him a few bites as well. He also has a major jealous streak. If I walk up to my wife and give her a kiss or just hug her he goes absolutely nuts. Although he rarely barks, he doesn’t hold back at these times, tries to separate us and wants one of us to pick him up. It’s absolutely hilarious.

We had also rescued 2 kittens from the shelter a month or so prior to bringing him home. One solid black, the other, the shy one, was a tabby. When he walked in the shy one, our little princess, ran downstairs and we rarely saw her for the next week but she eventually came around. Oscar and Jack, the black cat, became immediate friends and have been wrestling, chasing each other, curling up beside each other in our laps to sleep...just generally rotten little boys playing together and getting into everything, pretty much from the very beginning. May, the shy cat, eventually came around and tolerates the boys and even joins them on occasion, as long as there’s no wrestling. It amazes me how well the 3 of them get along. The really funny thing is Jack weighed 4-5 lbs less than Oscar when they were introduced and Oscar pretty much had his way as he as the much bigger animal. Now though, Jack weighs almost 6 lbs more than Oscar and the shoe is on the other foot now when they wrestle.

It took a lot of serious discussion over several months to decide to get a dog. There were many concerns that had to be overcome. Obviously, I would be primarily responsible for his care as long as possible but what about when I was no longer able to care for him. I didn’t feel it fair to add another responsibility to my wife and son if I were unable to care for him. They, on the other hand, believed that if I felt the dog would be good for my mental state, calm me when I’m the foggiest, and just overall give me a little buddy that stays in my lap and keeps me company, it would worth it. So, it was decided that we would get a dog. The biggest concern was would he continually be under my feet and become a tripping hazard. So far, that has not come to pass, he likes to stay back just enough so that he can easily look up and see what I’m doing. It only took me about 2 months to find him and I felt like I was being interviewed to adopt a child when I called about him. Which is extremely good, because the lady who had him was very concerned about the home he was going to.

Of course, as soon as our weather turned really cold, my cognition went into the tank and I became unable to do much of the care for Oscar. My wife and son, true to their word, took up the slack without 1 complaint. It became readily obvious though that his little paws couldn’t tolerate the cold, snow and ice. After a few minutes outside, he would simply sit and start licking his paws. He was carried home on several occasions because of this. We even had boots for him to protect his feet but he would always pull them off shortly after going outside. Apparently, this situation was really concerning me, because a doggy potty pad, complete with AstroTurf to serve as grass, showed up on our doorstep a few days later. Seems, sometime during the night a few days before I had been searching for options and ordered this with no memory of it at all. Oscar’s 1st reaction was more or less, “Why would I ever want to use that thing?”. But over the course of the next week or 2, he came to see the pad as his best buddy and is now rarely taken for a walk to potty.

I am extremely glad we made the decision to get Oscar. Even though he can be a handful at times, he has made our lives immeasurably better.

Take care,

Randy

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Hey Randy-dude; Yep I am totally there with Oscar; my two little buddies Jiraiya The Elder (7 years) and Hiro The Younger at about three years I know I could not live without. It seems counter-intuitive to build another strong connection when you know time isn't on your side but I would posit that few other connections you make will reward you every day like this one.

Jiraiya has lived thru some hell before we adopted him; he had been passed over many times by folks looking for younger or maybe more ferocious dogs. When we picked him out to see if he liked us, he immediately came to Beth, flipped over and got a belly rub. She was sold on the spot. I was less so at first but as it turned out, Beth had to leave for a month long trip to Michigan like the next day, so for the next month it was just me and Jiraiya and I learned what scared him, what comforted him and we built a friendship I think. A bond at least. Jiraiya turned out to be the best damned dog. You met him, very chilled out dog. Hiro is a bucket of enthusiasm and makes sure you remember to laugh at the simpler things of life. And all things being equal, he will be the one to comfort Beth in time. He is the "right man" for the job.

I would suggest anyone with dementia to get a dog. As for how hard it is to take care of them, well I would state for the record that the muscle in your heart will get used alot more than the ones in your back. There are days my aphasia is so bad I speak to no one. Except the dogs because unlike humans on those days, those two still understand what I mean, regardless of what I say. Another crucial way they help is that, maybe its the disease or general stress of the situation but it seems like everyones sleep patterns are all over the place, which results in lots of hours spent alone in a quiet house. Little buddies make sure you are never alone.

And best of all, Jiraiya loves the blues, particularly Piedmont Blues.

Ya know something? I was going to post something that many might have seen as a downer but I think this story needs to stay on top a while so the light of the positive can shine for a time.

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Wonderful Randy. I don't how I could make it through this journey without the help of my fur family. In fact, they trump some of the biological members of my clan. They give you everything and ask for nothing in return... well maybe food and the more than occasional belly rub.

Tim

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Wonderful companion you have in Oscar! Thanks for sharing that adorable mug.

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Yeah this one is constantly getting into sh!t but with this mug he gets away with much...

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That’s a great picture of Hiro

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Cheers Randy; I was actually trying to see if I could trick this reply system into displaying a graphic. Doh. Oscar is a serious cutie though, gets away with murder I bet? Hiro is coming up on four I think and he still gets away with crap because he has that "puppy" look. Jiraiaya used to pull that too until he got that grey streak going down the middle of his head.

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Yeah, I could see where Hiro could sit and give you those big puppy dog eyes and get anything he wants.

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Well, yes its that bad and I feel like poo because of it but I feel worse because while Hiro gets away with murder, Jiraiya gets busted instantly, and honest Randy, Jiraiya is like Brian on Family Guy. Hiro can tear a f-ing hole in the couch and Beth just says a few cross words at him and packs the stuffing back in. Jiraiya even *acts* like he wants to dig the couch (think its the texture, you sat on it), WHAMMO she is on him like flies on....well a dog I guess. You get the idea. She isn't mean to him; I think she would rather shoot herself first. Jiraiya simply gets away with nothing. Still as cute and playful as Hiro is, Jiraiya is and always shall be "my" dog/buddy/confidant. Hiro can be none of those things.

Try number two:

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Doh.

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Yep, that’s the look!

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