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Sorry I have been a bit AWOL here. We lost my adored Uncle on Thursday morning to CVirus. We met with them 15 th March and he started being ill next day. Taken in on Friday ,but crew were not sure if he needed to go in even. had severe flu symptoms so put him on oxygen and.tested him Much better by Monday,got told test was negative and would be allowed home next day all being well.

However took a turn for the worse.

We have been monitoring our temp etc..all ok..although our son has had to self isolate it clearly is a cold.( Sneezing etc no huge temperature)

Aunty too is well.

My question is this. Tomorrow is the 14 day watch and wait period and we are looking good. How is it that she hasn't apparently caught it off Uncle living sleeping together in social isolation? (We met at lunch as it was his 81 birthday.. on the day Govt advised all 70 year olds to stay inside for 12 weeks.)

Could he have actually got it from crew or hospital?

Poor Aunty..we can't comfort her as we would wish..

I hope you are all well xx

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Kaz747 profile image
Kaz747

That is just so sad. Sending a big virtual hug to you and your family xx

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Paulbounce

Hi Wil. Really sorry to hear your bad news.

Paul

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Hilly22

I’m so sad to hear that dear wilsond, what a shock for you all.

I hope you’re keeping well yourself.

Love and hugs xx

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Ianp66

Awful situation, so sorry for your loss, i dont think even the expert's are 100% sure how its being transmitted so anythings possible , im cetainly not qualified to answer or sure if anyone is here . As you say the official advice is 14 days isolation for group contact so looking positive for that .

Must be awful for your Aunty, its such a cruel process and then having to grieve alone, thoughts and prayers with you and the family.

Xx

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jeanjeannie50

So sorry to hear this. It's all a bit of a mystery isn't it.

I started trying to analyse it all for you and then realised that was the wrong thing to do. Everyone who has had the virus has caught it from someone else and seeking who to blame is futile. I'm afraid you will never ever know for sure. Yes, he could have caught it in hospital, or he could have just happened to touch a virus contaminated surface, or even caught it from an unwitting carrier.

Nothing can be changed now, so please stop torturing yourself wondering.

Thinking of you all at this sad time.

Jean x

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wilsond in reply to jeanjeannie50

Thank you Jean,oh no wasn't looking to blame just mind wondering...You are right yes we can't comfort her as we would wish...sadly xx

So sorry wilsond, really sad situation for you and all your family......

Big hugggg. (((((((((((((((((( wilsond )))))))))))))))))

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wilsond in reply to

Thank you John xx

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Ladypaula

So sorry for your loss 💜

So sad. Im sorry you and your family have been hit. There are unknown numbers of people who arent sick but have the disease. They unknowingly carry it to others so it is impossible to always figure out how most people catch it. I just assume everyone has it.

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wilsond in reply to

That's true Hoski xx

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Finvola

How awful for you and your family wilsond - there seems to be a randomness about this illness which is distressing. Take care of yourself and have a huge cyber hug. xx

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wilsond in reply to Finvola

Thank you..I feel so very useless and want to do emotional and practical things for her and can't..

Trying to keep lid on so don't set AF off! Hope you are doing ok xxx

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Finvola in reply to wilsond

Just your being at the end of the phone will be of enormous comfort to her, poor lady and will help you too, knowing that.

We are fortunate to have our home in what my friends call ‘the wilderness’ and it is soothing to watch spring and lambing progressing regardless. Such a different world from the one we lived in a month ago . . .

Keeping well, trying not to get too worried and looking at all the jobs I could be doing.

Look after yourself.

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wilsond in reply to Finvola

Thank you dear Finvola x

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Peddling

That’s very sad Wilsond and sorry for your loss. You take care and stay well.

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BobDVolunteer

So sorry to read that. I think there is so much we do not know about this problem and as I mentioned elswhere a friend of mine is recovering having caught it rescuing a load of Brits from Tenerife (he is a pilot) and said the worst part was muscle pain.

There seems no pattern to who it can hit.

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wilsond in reply to BobD

It's very odd.....thank you Bob x

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Bertiedette

How sad Wilsond. Thinking of you.. We are not far away geographically it brings it very close to home.Nobody is safe.Best wishes to you and your family.God bless.

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Vonnieruth

Sorry to read about your loss Wilson's Big hugs to you

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pottypete1

First it is on the daily news, then we hear of well known people becoming ill and then it is someone you know.

Bereavement is never easy but as you know we are all thinking of you on our AF forum.

As Finvola said in her message just being at the end of the phone could be a comfort for your Aunt.

Take care and keep safe.

Pete

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wilsond in reply to pottypete1

Thank you dear Pete x

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meadfoot

Sorry to hear of your dear uncle and hope his wife can stay safe, all of you too. Can't comment on the science of it though. X

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wilsond in reply to meadfoot

Day 14 and all clear including Aunty thank you

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sotolol

The biggest comfort I found were people just to listen. As no one will feel like she does or understand. Just be there. Bless you all at this very sad time. Her heart is broken.

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opal11uk

So very sorry for your loss

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Tudee

A dreadful loss for you all, your poor aunt must be bereft, Stay strong, our collective arms are around you. XxDee

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wilsond in reply to Tudee

Thank you feeling them xxx

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Stumpy47

How very sad for you all, we are in a similar situation with a family member showing worrying symptoms he's been discharged but he is middle aged & high risk living with my sister who has just been cleared from mrsa infection. Awful times for us all. My thoughts & condolences to you & your family.

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wilsond in reply to Stumpy47

Thank you hope all goes ok for them x

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Visitingcat

So sorry for your loss and for your poor Auntie grieving by herself. Hope you all can stay safe. Best wishes x

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Lesleyray

I’m so sorry for the loss of your uncle, sad times and worrying times we live in at this moment, I also lost a beloved friends sister 3 weeks ago (cancer) and was gutted that I could only meet her outside Tesco’s, both crying and could not hug each other, cannot go to the funeral to pay my respects, may your uncle RIP HUGS from afar. Take care and stay safe xx

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wilsond in reply to Lesleyray

Thank you xx

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Cally53

So sorry for your loss. Sending a virtual hug to you all. x

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Fastbeat

So sorry for you and your family.

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Desanthony

Sorry to hear your sad news. Someone was talking about this on the radio last night. When you lose someone now you lose them more than once. You lose them when they are taken into hospital. You lose them because you can't visit them. They then sadly die. You lose them again because you cannot comfort each other as you normally would together. Then you cannot bury or cremate them and gather together to remember them as you normally would.

God Bless you and your family.

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wilsond in reply to Desanthony

That's it in a nutshell...yes xx

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Desanthony in reply to wilsond

Bless you and your family.

Im so sorry for your loss

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irene75359

I am so sorry for your family's loss. Only yesterday I was thinking how so many bereaved are being denied some of the very comforting rituals that accompany the death of a loved one. You are obviously there for your Aunt, albeit on the end of the phone, and I sincerely hope that all of you escape this virus.

I understand your bewilderment too. My son-in-law's friend definitely had it (38 years old), recovered and was discharged from hospital but then his wife had to call for an ambulance again. He was critical for a few days. But to date, his wife and son seem clear. There doesn't seem any rhyme nor reason to it all.

Big hugs x

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clanmags

I can only imagine how awful it's been for your family, Wilsond, and pray that my own family won't have to go through such an ordeal. I hate to ask this, but I think it's an important question for us all....If the first test your uncle had was negative, when did the medical staff know it was, actually, CVirus? It's scary to think it can't be properly diagnosed at first.

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wilsond in reply to clanmags

Found out post mortem. Not really convinced he went in with it..the ambulance crew were humming n haaing over whether to or not. One crew had mask and gloves ,driver didn't but they both helped him into van.

Four days later he was up and about in the sideward ,showering etc. Then went down hill....xx

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Becksagogo

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Poor Aunty too. Losing somebody close to you at anytime is horrendous. We lost my Uncle as the virus escalated and most of his friends and family have been self isolating so his cremation has been limited to 5 people. We have decided to have a celebration of life for him when this is all over and the Vicar has suggested that we have a church service for him then too. I will say a prayer for him tomorrow when he is cremated. Be safe Wilson D.

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wilsond in reply to Becksagogo

That is our plan too. Sorry for your loss as well.xx

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Becksagogo in reply to wilsond

Thank you. There must be lots of people in the same position . And those with wedding plans too.

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lovetogarden in reply to Becksagogo

So very sorry for your loss. Such sad times.

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Morzine

Oh dear so sad and I fully understand your questioning and worry.....if only we all knew the answers.....it’s caught everyone out and there’s so many questions.

How very sad. Hope you are keeping well yourself. Keep safe.

Sue

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MydogBrandy

So sorry x

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Pam296

So sorry for your loss xx

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Dianemary

So sorry for your loss, such sad news

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Rosemaryb1349

So sorry for your loss. Will pray for all your family's safety. X

Gain profile image
Gain

Very sorry to hear this sad news and how awful for your to be alone at this time. I am isolating alone and that is bad enough. All I can do is send you lots of love and suggest that frequent phone calls will, I am sure, help your aunt enormously. Godbless.

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wilsond

Happy to report day 14...all well including Aunty thank you all xx

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ETFCfan

So sorry to hear your sad news. Sending condolences to you and your family x

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Bella160

So sorry for your lost, I can't imagine what it's like to lose someone when you can't even say good bye and be there for your aunty. A friends mum died on mother's day ( not of the virus) and she was not aloud to visite her at all . Xx

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loobylou777

So sorry for your loss. So very sad for your aunt to be alone at such a heart breaking time. Sending condolences to you and your family x

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waveylines

So so sorry for your loss and the fact that you couldnt say goodbye and comforting your Aunt is very diffcult because of social distancing/isolation. Am sure she is taking great comfort from your phone calls, facetime or whats app. Sending you all big big vitual hugs. Xxx

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FancyPants54

Remember that something like 20% of patients never experience any symptoms even though they are infectious. So unless your aunt is tested and proved not to have it, she might have it and not know.

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dwright12

So sorry for your loss.

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jerseygirl49

So sorry to read your post wilsond - my condolences which just don't seem enough somehow in our current situation. This brings it home for sure - this virus does not discriminate and yours is a truly sad post. If we all do what we have been asked to do - STAY HOME, keep washing hands - it will surely help but my heart goes out to you and all the others in similar situations. Stay strong.

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Lyubov

Sending deep condolences and prayers.

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JaneChapple

So sorry to hear your sad news.

JaneCxx

Janith profile image
Janith

Sorry ...

squirel profile image
squirel

The infectious period lasts for good 21 days, not 14, based on data from China.

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lovetogarden

So very sorry to hear this, such a difficult time for your family.

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Abluerose

so sorry for your loss.

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C66t

So sorry for your loss. Stay safe and well😊🌞🌸🌹🌼

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Khatpi

Condolences Wilsond. Very sad to hear of losing your Uncle. Stay safe. Please.

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Tracyrdh

Sorry for your loss.

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doodle68

Hi Wilson :-) horrible events just seem to keep happening to you at the moment don't they , that seems to be how it goes at at times :-(

So sad to lose your Uncle that way , it is good your Aunty has you around even if comfort can't be closely administered at this time .

I hope you stay well yourself ....

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wilsond in reply to doodle68

Thank you Doodle. .just one of those times I think! Look after yourself too xx

Lilypocket profile image
Lilypocket

So sorry for your loss how sad for you and your family especially as he seemed to be not too badly affected . What a terrible blow .

It is more than worrying this virus with symptoms starting mildly and even getting better then suddenly getting worse. The test is tricky because they take a sample from the nose with a cotton bud. But if the virus has already started to affect the lungs or other parts of the body the patient often tests negative as the virus has moved from the nose.

All my thoughts are with you and hope you and the rest of your family stay well.

Xxx

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wilsond in reply to Lilypocket

That explains a lot. Thank you xx

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ThyroidThora

I'm thinking of you and your family at this really sad time. Try to keep positive for your Autie.

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Lotus4

Sorry about your Uncle please keep in touch!

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