Just reading a very interesting book with this title by Ant Middleton (ex SBS, "Mutiny", "SAS are you tough enough" TV series" ) about dealing with fear. Highly recommended ! He starts with the premise that most of us are conditioned by our parents (be careful, over protection) to view the world and everything in it as a dangerous place always trying to harm us whereas for 99.9% of the time we are quiet safe.
Might be worth a read for some of our more anxious menbers?
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This type of book generally does not appeal to me, but I can agree about the 'bubble of fear'. I've just recently demolished an old cast concrete garage and it's concrete base (which had subsidence). A sewer runs 3 meters down across the site, and due to the sub-standard construction of the base, the manhole access which had been within the building got damaged in the process. I ended up calling in the water company.
At varying points in the process of working on this, I entered the 'fear bubble', only to emerge the far side after something actually worked out right later. Once you become afraid of what you are doing, it's very, very hard to continue.
BTW, I've moved nearly 24 tons of concrete (3 skips) in the last three weeks, and not had an AF session! Yay!!!
The premise is that you keep your fear in small bubbles and use those bubbles to motivate you to greater things. For example (and I would never go near a bungy jump) there is nothing to fear as you strap on the rope or move towards the edge as you are not at that moment in danger. Only at the point of jumping does any danger appear and the elation of surviving far exceeds that so they tell me. I remember when I used to ski I hated heights (still do) and chair lifts were a huge problemfor me but I had to isolate that fear in a bubble to enjoy the skiing later. Hadn't read the book back then but it now makes perfect sense.
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