Really feel like giving up this week

I have had AF for almost 2 years and attacks are highly symptomatic. Have anticoagulant and calcium channel blocker.

Went all summer with the kids without an attack. But then my husband lost his contract our small business has gone into receivership and we are in so much trouble I can't even begin to explain. The oil industry in which my husband works has basically gone down the drain and to get any work at all will mean a huge family move to the middle East or elsewhere. This is all supposing he can find a job at all.

So of course, because things can always get worse, my AF is killing me. I have very little escape from it and today for example I have crawled round Aldi and that's about it. I can't speak or share anything with my husband and young kids I just go into myself when I feel this ill. No point seeing Dr as she can't do more.

I hate this illness and I especially hate thst it doesn't let you ever forget about it when life is already at its most challengjng.

I know I'm going to die way before my time (I'm currently 50) because of what this and stress are doing to me, but sometimes I feel that release can't come soon enough.

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Oh no! So very sorry about your circumstances! I am also on the very same drug therapy you are on except I had an ablation 9 mos ago as it was getting too much ! do you have an EP cardiologist? If not can you find one? This is quite a burden you are carrying and I do know there is help and hope out there for you, please don't give up!! You are not alone on this journey, there are many of us walking with you on the same journey. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. 🙏🏼

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There are ways and means if you see the right doctor. Ask you GP to refer you to a specialist (EP). There has been a spate of people this week with drastic personal problems kicking off their AF so you are far from alone. You won't die early just because of AF. by the way. I know it is hard to stay positive but it does make a huge difference.

Good luck and cyber hugs from us.(((( ))))

Bob

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Sorry to hear you are feeling so ill and under such horrendous stress too. It's terrible to feel like that and I sympathise and emphasis with you. So how can you start to handle this. Well first of all, having heard what you have said about your doctor not being able to help, well that doctor might not but others can.

I would resolve to ask for a second opinion as there will be a solution to help you both physically and emotional to deal with the condition. Then you will feel more able to deal with your livelihood. Please seek alternative medical input as a priority like Monday morning, hesitate no longer. If you can take control of your physical condition and find a way forward your emotional situation will ease somewhat then you can get to grips, alongside your husband, to deal with financial issues.

I am wondering why you feel you can't share your physical load with your husband is it because he is under so much stress with the financial aspects. Do you have family or a good friend to lean on, if so share you load with them. We are always here on the forum to share your concerns and offer cyber support.

You sound very understandably depressed and in despair but you can and will get past all of this but you need support. Rest assured things will improve, definitely. Thinking of you. X

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Hi scottish mum

Please dont give up af is a damned nuisance and gets all of us down at some point.believe me i have shed many tears in my cdarkest moments. I know stress is a trigger for me and at moment im stressed as hell having no luck in selling my house. Its been on market since february. I need the money to put into a family home with my daughter and family.

Everyone on here will be praying for you and your family to come out of the black hole you are in just now.there is light at end of the tunnel only you find that perhaps unbelievable right now.

All of us on here are good listeners so when you want company come find anyone of us.ive found this forum very helpful

Let us know how you get on Richard

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To reduce your stress in selling your house, examine how your realtor is marketing your house. Every house sells when it reaches the point upon which both seller and buyer agree. Generally, the buyer looks for one thing above all else in purchasing a house, for example, a fireplace, a view, a workshop, lot size, a kitchen. Determine what the main point is for your house and really advertise that. You will surely get a buyer unless it is a buyer's market and your house is priced too high upon which your realtor will have already asked you to lower the price.

Another problem that occurs in a buyer's market is that the house has been on the market for too long and becomes stale (in your case six months) by which some buyers will then avoid considering the house. So, then it needs to be taken off the market for a month or more, and re-listed with a updated advertising campaign. Gook luck in selling to reduce your AF stress.

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Hi Scottishmun :-) can I give you a hug, you sound as though you need one just now with so much stress and all those things going on in your life not what you need with AF.

If you can try to find a few moments for yourself in all this to do something calming it may help to calm your AF too. Take a long bath in scented bubbles, a gentle walk concentrating on long slow breaths anything to give you a break from the stress.

You say there is no point in speaking to your Doctor, I urge you to go and speak to her and tell her how you are feeling she may be able to help you.

Remember other AF's who can understand how awful the symptoms can be are here whenever you need a sympathetic ear .

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The Dr can and indeed should do more right away - refer you to a cardiologist or EP - indeed you should demand this - it is your right;

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I just read your post and I hope the love and sympathy flowing out to you has helped. You surely have been stomped on but if you can get up for a moment please go, with a supporter if you can, to your GP and don't leave until she comes up with a better plan for you. (I have found that placing both feet firmly on the floor, sitting up straight and crossing your arms works well - that is not meant to be a joke). Your drug regime is at first level, you deserve better. 💞

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Are you in Aberdeen. I am in Edinburgh. Waiting for cardiology appointment. Told its 12 weeks, but doc had phone consultation with them and changed my medication. It has helped a bit. Stress does bring on myAF for sure. Keep on at the GP. They are obliged to refer if you ask them to. A doc told me that!

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Hi Scottishmun,

I'm very sorry to hear of your predicament. After two years of AF I also had a huge increase in stress and the AF went haywire and was ruining my ability to cope with serious life changes for our family. Drugs never really worked for me so I reluctantly took up my EPs offer of ablation last week. I've always been too scared before but I just thought sod it there's nothing else I can do, it's my only chance... so I had cryoablation at Aberdeen (NHS). Early days now but I have a calm heart for the first time for ages, and somehow that's helping me feel I will cope.

I do hope your medical team can help you out, this situation sounds too much to bear at the moment. I hope you get the support you need,

Good luck, Jane x

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Hi there was it Dr Broadhurst who did your cryoblation in Aberdeen? I am his patient but his waiting is so long.. ..

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Hi Scottishmun,

Yes it was, my whole experience has been very good and his secretary was very helpful. Actually the waiting time wasn't quite as long as I'd been told but I suppose that varies, it maybe worth looking in to. If I can be of any help please pm me, I don't live in Aberdeen but travel in from the islands and stay with family.

Good luck, Jane x

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