Af and sexual relations

[Fenderman]

Hi all ive been frightened of having sex when in af. How does it affect others? My pulse in af is around the 130bpm. Do others have similar worries

[Beancounter Volunteer]

Hi fenderman, I think it really depends on how you feel, and (I don't wish to offend) what type of sexual relations.

If you heart rate is already high then sex is likely to raise it further, so take it easy, and take it slowly, within your own limits

I am in AF all the time, but luckily not with a much raised heart rate, so for me, just like when I exercise, my heart rate jmups quickly, but not really uncontrollably.

If you are worried chat to your doctor, but on this subject I would think even better chat to your partner, express your fears and worries, and together work out a way which works for both of you.

But don't let AF beat you, much of this forum is about living with AF, not giving up because we are unlucky enough to suffer from it. Find a way that works.

Be well

Ian

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Well I guess someone has to have a crack at this one, so it might as well be me!

Firstly, the AFA produce an information ring binder pack which I think is still available, and if I remember correctly, the general thinking is that exercise is good for you, and there is a specific reference to sexual activity. Most people will tell you that you must not let AF rule your life, and when you think there are well over a million folk in the UK alone with AF, I doubt that they are all celibate.

I'm tempted to say, go for it and tell us how you get on, but perhaps I better not, but in all seriousness, your body will soon tell you what you can, and more importantly, cannot do.......hope this helps.

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Hi again Fenderman, I've found the link to the Care AF section on healthy living

careaf.org/topics/healthy-l...

John

[BobD Volunteer]

At the risk of sounding facetious, at my first ever AF conference this was aired and the specialist speaker's comment was fine with your regular wife/partner but extra marital or new relationships may be a little too much exercise.

[Hidden in reply to BobD]

Sex? I think that''s beyond my short term and long term memory!! Maybe that''s what''s causing my AF😁

[Hidden]

Someone on here must have experience of whether extra-marital affairs affect AF. We'd all like to know how you got on.

[northernsoul1]

Since I went into AF I've been ignoring Kylie Minogue's phone calls

[jeanjeannie50]

I feel sorry for you if your heart rate is around 130 as I know how awful that makes you feel. What treatment are you awaiting to bring that rate down?

I remember many years ago, probably when this AF site was elsewhere that having sex could stop an AF attack.

[Hidden in reply to jeanjeannie50]

wat tyme shall I pop round!!!!

[davebakerpurton]

A few times when if AF, sex has actually kicked me back into NSR.

Dave B

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That's a tricky one - because I am in a firm believer in the biology of belief - i.e YOUR pulse might increase because of the added worry. Weirdly I heard of a friend who died of a heart attack (not AF) during sex (3rd party comment by the way) As I have a fear of not going quickly when my time comes that seemed a good way to go - maybe for him not the partner that is! I understand your concern and hope you resolve the matter to your benefit.

[gateman]

I wish I could give it a try. Any volunteers?

[Lofty77]

Does any one else live with a 130 BM ,with out sex ,that seems to me to be high.

[Nickibmibile]

I've lived with AF on and off (more on) for the past 30 something years. I only recently was told by my Cardiologist how long I'd had symptoms, which makes me sound thick but I was only 15 when it all started. So I've been having sex with AF my whole adult life, multiple partners and both in and out of wedlock. Now I sound like a tramp bit I'm not, I'm a normal woman with a healthy sexual appetite. My Cardiologist told me once "if it hurts don't do it" which is my life rule, sex has never hurt so I'm happy to continue as long as I'm able. I've had two major heart surgeries, a pacemaker and live with AF.

[UScore]

All I can confirm is that, so far, sex hasn't been a trigger for my AF. But then perhaps I wasn't trying hard enough.

[Paper65]

These posts made me laugh so much

[souljacs4]

This made my day good to know we can still have a laugh even with AF