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Another Brother is With God.

j-o-h-n profile image
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I post again with a heavy heart at the passing of another wonderful member.

Dondee who was 48 years old and 2 days short of his 49-birthday passed on to God.

He was diagnosed at the very young age of 44. Together with his wife Vikkie they put up a valiant fight where they lived in the Philippines. Evil won but I’m sure he winked at us to show us that he indeed was Champion.

Dondee may not be remembered as a Pca guru. That was left to his dear wife Vikkie who was a pit-bull in researching how she could eliminate Evil from her dear Husband’s body.

You may recognize their UserID which is dvcarola2. She is left with 3 gorgeous children.

Dear Vikkie, since we did meet both of you I want to offer My Wife’s, My Son’s and My Sincerest love in this trying time.

j-o-h-n Thursday 06/29/2023 2:00 PM DST

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dockam profile image
dockam

Oh d*mn, not another Brother 😪 and so F'in young.

My sincerest Condolences to the family🙏

Rest in Peace Sir and Suffer no more

"Any man`s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee"

Big Hug from CA

Randy

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Tinuriel in reply to dockam

From the same poem...."No man is an island. Every man is a part of the continent, a piece of the main." John Donne.

I think this community lives this out. Thanks, everyone for caring.

We grieve the loss of Dondee. May your family know the weight of our concern and prayers.

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Ahk1

it’s very sad at this young age. My deepest condolences.

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Carlosbach

Touching tribute J-o-h-n, Thank you for your ongoing efforts to make sure we honor the memories of our brothers who pass.

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treedown

So young. My heart goes out to the family. May he rest in peace.

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Carlosbach

Vickie, my heart goes out to you and your family. The last few years must have been so draining for you and the rest of the family. I greatly respect you for your support and advocacy for your husband. May he rest with God, and may you be blessed with rest, with strength and with Love.

Ron

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Jake2021

May God comfort the family and draw them closer to Him.

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Bethpage

I am so sorry for Vickie's loss. May angels comfort and protect her and her family

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DarrylPartner

Thanks for sharing this

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michael00

Condolences to his wife and family, and a prayer for strength

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Kaliber

I’m so sorry to hear of another brother passing, my deepest condolences to Vickkie and the kids, the tragedy amplified by his way too young ( for aPCa ) age. A warm ehug out to the whole family.

❤️❤️❤️

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Sunlight12

Thank you, j-o-h-n for such a thoughtful tribute!

Vikkie and Family, my deepest condolences! You lost Dondee much too soon. HUGS! Wishing you peace and sending love at this tough time ♥️

In solidarity,

Sunlight

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groundhogy

so young. That poor family.

What happens here doesn’t just happen to a man. Who now feeds and shelters them.

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9Dexter6

Truly saddened to hear this news, far far too young. God bless his wife and children.sending prayers 🙏

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Cancer2x

And yet another star blinks into existence in the evening skies, helping to light the way for all those who follow.

Sincerest feelings of sadness, hope for those of us on this road, and a peaceful transition to the entire family. May your memories always be of love.

Pax

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wagscure259

Thank you j-o-h-n for the wonderful remembrance of another fallen brother. Rest in peace young man. Vikkie, my wife and I offer our sincere condolences in the loss of your beloved Dondee. We are praying for God’s peace, which “passes all understanding”, and for God’s strength for the days and weeks to come.

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NOCanceros

Rip dvcarola2

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Omairtde

j-o-h-n

Please pass on my condolences to the family. Such a young family to have to deal with so heavy a loss.

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rosenjpj

Such sad news. Thanks for sharing.

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079467262987

So Sorry for your loss . may god take care of him . my condolence to you and your family . god bless you all .

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joeydashoe

RIP Brother

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RayF

RIP Brother Dondee! Vickee, please accept my condolences.

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Biobro

My condolences to Vickee and the children. And may the joy of Dondee's life live on for them.

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Lasered

Thanks for sharing. Condolences to Vickee and family.

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RJAMSG

Thanks for sharing, prayers for those left behind.

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Yabaa

Thank you for sharing, RIP 🙏

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Currumpaw

j-o-h-n,

Although the news is sad, thanks for it. It must be so difficult for his family especially with three young children. I understand. My experience as a child with loss is similar.

The strength of family bonds and love will get them through this raw stage of grief. We learn to live with loss. We never "get over it". Friends and clergy can be helpful, however at times we all need to be alone to reflect and realize that our lives have been enriched by those who have been significant in shaping our lives, even when their time has been shortened. Bittersweet recollections of our time with those who have gone before us can still provide guidance and strength.

Currumpaw

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bglendi53

So sad, just not fair. Hard to hear about someone so young.

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db1966

thoughts and prayers to Vickie and the family. 48 is no age at all. Like all warriors he fought to the end.

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Warriorthree

oh so sad another brother gone to this awful cancer thank god for this site which gives us all a bit of hope my prayers go to his family gone way too young ❤️Xxx

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pakb

So very sorry to hear this. As the wife of someone diagnosed at 49 with 3 teens it hits close. Always so heartbroken for another loss and for his family. May all the good memories be kept alive and wrap them in warmth💙

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Hailwood

So sad at such an early age, my deepest condolences

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LiveLongAndPropser

My heart goes out to the family. No words can convey the what the heart grieves.

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Metaldraft

deepest condolences and yes thank you for supporting them and this uncertain perilous journey May his family peace when it’s time….

Thank you thank you!!!

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Yadifan

So saddened by this news. What a beautiful tribute to this beautiful family. Thank you John for this post that is so hard to write. Rest in peace Dondee. Prayers for strength for Vikkie and their children.

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Baldylocks

all who are now aware weep with you for your loss but in my steadfast belief celebrate his home-going with our Father and Lord.

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Dixiechopper

My sincerest sympathy to the family. RIP warrior.

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K-xo

What a tragedy. My heartfelt condolences to his family. May he always fly with the angels

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addicted2cycling

:,o(

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jackcop

Thanks for sharing . I was appalled at how young he was when he began his fight! There's absolutely no humor in a man *less than 50 years old* being killed by this disease. My thoughts and prayers go to Vikkie and the rest of her family. Again j-o-h-n, thank you for sharing this.

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Bluebird11

I’m so very sorry he didn’t have more time to be with his wife and growing children. Its a heartfelt tribute j-o-h-n, well deserved. Each and everyone who has ever been in this group makes a difference having shared experiences. Our hearts travel through invisible channels to a place that comforts and acknowledges without words things we may not understand, yet we know. May Dondee, Vickie and children feel the love and strength they need.

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CAMPSOUPS

I remember posts/replies from dvcarola2 and the emotions she and her husband left with me in their fight at such a young age.

Really sad news. With Vickie at his side it helped him give it the best shot he could though.

I truly wish the best for his family and those close to him.

May he be at peace.

Thanks J-O-H-N for posting. Glad you got to meet them.

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lcfcpolo

Vikkie it is difficult to put into words but God bless you and your children. Please take comfort in being such a loving wife to Dondee and please take time to heel.Graham

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Sam2346

RIP

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kcareer

May his soul rest in perfect peace.

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cancerfox

Another tragic loss and Dondee was way too young to be taken by this insidious disease. Vikkie, my thoughts and love are with you.

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garyjp9

My deepest sympathies to Vickee and the children.

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Realistic

God bless sending my sincere condolences Sheilaf x

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Scoofer33

Sincere condolences. Standing with you in silence.

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dvcarola2

Thanks so much John for that wonderful tribute and thankful for this community as I have learned so much here in our 5yrs journey with Pca. We never felt alone because we have a family right here who have the same worries, the same fears, the same hope, the same fight like ours.

Eventhough my husband died young, he left so many wonderful memories with me and the kids. He left so many videos for each of us and he made sure that everything is in order before he left us even labelling the keys, the chargers and everything else (lol). It is truly hard without him now but knowing that he is no longer in pain and no longer suffering gives me comfort somewhat.

I pray for all the warriors and the caregivers here that you may continue to fight while you still can and never ever lose hope! Do whatever makes you happy now for tomorrow is never promised. Keep that smile on your face no matter how hard because you need to bring your own sunshine wherever you go. Lastly, say I love you more and give kisses and hugs as often as you can. It is hard when your love one is no longer around and no one to give those hugs and kisses to.

May God bless you all!

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lincolnj8

So young, so sad. Prayers to his family

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Worked_the_World

J-o-h-n, Enjoy your irrelevant humor.

I am not too concerned how long I might exist on this planet but I am very concerned how our bodies leave it. Can you or anyone comment on the final months of one's life?

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j-o-h-n

Greetings and welcome aboard Worked_the_World,

"Irrelevant" is exactly how most of the women I've met, described me (Thanks).

Now to get to your question. It's a difficult question to answer since I see both sides of the coin. I not only believe on how you live but more importantly how you die. That is, a long prolonged illness compared to a sudden heart attack. Age and social standing also plays a part if indeed you know your number is almost up. So I have to answer your question with that worn out expression "Live every day, like it's your last". My dear oldest bother died of stomach cancer (age 81) in a V.A. hospital and he passed suffering. Whereas, my dear brother-in-law (age58) died suddenly at work from sudden cardiac arrest. Of course we would all choose the sudden "Let's make a deal" death exit door. I see that you and I are from the same era (the 1930's- me 1936) and we are starting to see that many of our contemporaries are calling it quits. Sad to say but by using Old School math I predict that the last serviceman who fought in the WWII will pass this year 2024, or next year 2025. That's it.

My escape of thinking about my demise is HUMOR. As I posted recently, we come into this world crying from a smack on the ass, so we might as well go out laughing. I will be managing a "Comedy Store in the Sky" so you are invited (second row. aisle seat) but only in year 2034 when you're shot by the jealous husband who lives across the street (Hell, I won't tell).

Enjoy this New Year.

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Thursday 01/04/2024 2:00 PM EST

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skiingfiend

Thanks John.

Its heartbreaking to hear a man so young has been lost to this curse.

My condolences to his family.

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j-o-h-n

I thank you and I will forward your condolences to Vikkie and her 3 children who are in the Philippines.,

j-o-h-n Thursday 01/04/2024 6:20 PM EST

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