It is very difficult for me to write this last message but I just wanted to thank those who tried to help us along the way with our battle and let you know Harley's suffering is finally over. He completed his final radiation to the dura of his skull in June but the cancer and the paralysis was such a bad combination these past few months that his body just couldn't bear it any longer. These past 18 months have been so difficult and painful for him and I am glad he won't suffer any longer, although my heart aches without him. I appreciate all of the suggestions and empathy from everyone on this site. Please know that I am thinking about and praying for all of you.

Hugs, Charlean

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  • My prayers are with you and your family.

  • Thank you so much.

  • Oh Charlean, I'm crying for you and Harley. We were together on Malecare, and you were almost like family to me. I wish that there was something I could say or do to ease your pain and sadness--words seem so inadequate.

    Harley's struggles are over, and he's finally at peace, and now you can get some rest and reflect on the good times you had together. I wish that I could be there to help comfort you.

    I hug you back, and I thank you for sharing Harley's journey with us,

    With love, and God bless you,


  • Love to you going forward and peace for our brother Harley.

  • Thanks.

  • Charlean,

    You are very much in my thoughts today, and I wish you my condolences. Harley was a real fighter--and so are you. I hope the good memories will push the sadness out of your heart. May his memory be eternal.


  • Charleen, it saddens me to hear about Harley. You both have been such great fighters and no doubt your help and support meant the world to Harley. My thoughts and prayers are with you and his loved ones.


  • Thank you Hal. Everyone on here is such great a fighter as you say. I admire everyone on this site, caregivers as well. I pray that God gives you all the strength to keep fighting to the end as my husband did.


  • Sorry for your loss. We will all be praying for the two of you. Please find confort in that you did everything humanly possible.

  • I appreciate all the prayers. Thank you.

  • Bless you.

  • Thanks.

  • I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are prayers for you and your family

  • Thanks for the kind words.

  • My heart aches for you and your family. You are in my prayers!

  • And you are in mine.

  • "May the road rise to meet you, May the wind always be at your back, May the sun shine warm upon your face, The rains fall soft upon your fields, And until we meet again, May God hold you in the palm of his hand". An Irish Blessing

  • How lovely. Thank you.

  • so sorry for your loss. My prayers to you and your family.

  • Thank you so much.

  • Rest in peace Harley!!

  • In Yehsua's name may he shine mercy and grace on you all!


  • Thank you.

  • So very sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family.

  • Prayers for you as well and thank you.

  • Sorry to hear about your loss, but I am sure he is with you an watching over you as you did him. Take care.

    Michigan Jim

  • I hope so. Thank you.

  • Thank you for kind post, Charlean. As always, you are thinking about others and I know from your previous posts you were an unsurpassed, loving caregiver and wife. Even though you knew Harley's end was near, his loss must certainly still be a shock. My prayer is that the peace that radiates from your post continues to surround you and your family.

  • Thanks for your kind response. It was a huge shock because he seemed to be doing well until the very last few days but it appears his liver may have failed due to the steroids, the opiates, the many other pills but he will suffer no more.

  • Hugs back to you, Charlean.

  • My sympathy to you, Charlean, in your loss, which is a loss for all on this site. Peace be with you! Minneapolis Jim

  • Thanks Jim.

  • Sorry

  • Charlean I am very sorry to hear that Harley has left us. I am sure that he is watching and feels sorry for your pain. The ordeal you and Harley went through inspired me to keep fighting this terrible disease. Thank you both for keeping me fighting. My prayers are with you.


  • Glad to hear we could help someone else while dealing with our troubles. Question everything and do your own research and I pray you can win this fight!

  • Sending you love Charlene.

  • Back at you!

  • May God rest his soul

  • I am very sorry for your loss Charlean.

  • Thank you.

  • Everyday was a gift ..I'm so sorry for your loss .

  • That is so true. My promise to myself is to remember that and find ways to be meaningful to others while I can.

  • May you find peace.

    God Bless!


  • Oh my.......Charlean........I am heartbroken for your pain and your broken heart :'( and your loss. I am sorry that Harley and you suffered so much. I am praying wishing hoping that your heart will heal with time and you will find some sort of Peace of the good times of you and Harley someday in the near future. Our most sincere compassion and sympathy for you, your family and friends. Sending love and hugs and my arms are wrapped around you.

    Deepest heartfelt sadness for you Charlean. x0x0x0


  • Thank you Jackie. You are always so compassionate and kind. My husband suffered far too much for far too long and I should be glad that he suffers no more, but I can tell you I wish we could have had a little more time. He fought so hard. I hope and pray the newest treatments work for your husband.


  • I'm so saddened for you Charlean. Harley will forever remain a FEROCIOUS WARRIOR!! I don't think grief goes away....I just think it becomes the new normal. During these next few months.... please care for and pamper YOU. You are Mrs. Ferocious Warrior and I know you're body, brain and spirit are exhausted. My continued prayers for you ♡

    Thank you for your kind words Charlean.

    Most sincere hugs and love,


  • Charlean, I'm so very sorry for you, & yet so very relieved for you. Excuse me for being so slow to see your message. I got to be very fond of you as we exchanged messages. Please consider this a very strong virtual hug. Please let me know if you're going to be in the Berkeley-Oakland-San Leandro area. I wish only the best for you in your future.

    Hugs, Neal

  • Charlean,

    I am behind on my mail and just read about Harley. I am truly sorry to hear the news. I know that it is painful, but over time you will be able to recall all the good times the two of you had being together. We all ache with you and for you.


  • Thank you Joel. I appreciate all the great advice you shared with me. Unfortunately I have friends who recently told me of their prostate cancer and I have passed on the site for them and hope they can benefit as well. It seems that there are far too many new people on here! I pray for all of you each day. For me, each day gets a little bit better.


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