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[Lili90desenho]

I have ADHD and I have depression I feel terrible for not being able to organize myself and I get more depressed that it makes me less willing to do things the more I hate admitting that I'm sad I always pretend to be happy and I feel dying inside am I the only one who feels like this?

[NonstopThinking]

I can definitely relate to this. I feel the same way because I'm struggling with the same things. Currently going through a really rough patch of trying to figure out my life. Been trying to figure out a career to pursue for the last few years while feeling like my time has run out, but depression and ADHD getting in the way our actually taking the steps needed to sit down to research and plan a future and depressive and negative mindset that discourages me at every turn.

Generally feel like a mess day to day and always feeling some type of guilt like I'm supposed to be doing something more important with my time and never being able to pinpoint what it is and being able to execute it.

Wishing both of us can figure it out and climb out of this rut we're in. It definitely isn't easy.

[wesleybilbo in reply to NonstopThinking]

yes, I can definitely relate to this too. It takes a village for sure to get out of this whole.

[Lili90desenho in reply to NonstopThinking]

Thanks for sharing your story, I'm looking for people to talk to who have the same problem as me to feel less empty and lonely, anyone who isn't in this situation has a hard time understanding why I just don't do things it's that simple. Hope we can improve.

[Gettingittogether]

One of the worst parts of depression is spending energy you don't have to hide the depression. Absolutely awful.

So let's start with the basics here. What are you doing to get help with the depression? You can't really do much if the depression doesn't get treated. And look, you can treat it with therapy (often) and you can treat it with meds or you can do as I did (and do): I take meds and therapy.

Depression is negativity and hopelessness on steroids. I say treat that and the ADHD ... but at least start immediately with the depression.

Have you been treated? For depression? For ADHD? You have to ignore the voice of depression because it is insidious. Depression will try to convince you (and it's very good at this) that taking action is hopeless and useless, that nothing can be done. That's actually just depression talking.

[wesleybilbo in reply to Gettingittogether]

this was excellent advice

[Lili90desenho in reply to Gettingittogether]

I'm going through I'm doing medical therapy and talking, but I don't feel better. I take anti-depressants and Ritalin, but I have a lot of bad days. . I just need a friend to talk to and vent to who understands me and is going through similar situations.

[wesleybilbo]

no, definitely not alone in this I’ve had ADHD all my life and was diagnosed in my 40s and I realized that a lot of my depression and anxiety come from years of blaming myself for my shortcomings which really were primarily ADHD related. I’m smart enough to get things done last minute, but I’m not able to really get organized and do things with excellence, which makes me very disappointed in myself, which puts me in a spiral of negative thinking . I’ve learned a manager better over the years but it’s still hard

[Lili90desenho in reply to wesleybilbo]

I feel that way too, I was only diagnosed when I was 26 and now I'm 33 and I feel like nothing has changed and sometimes I feel more anxiety afraid of making mistakes again, I can't hold a job and I feel terrible lately I'm even afraid to look a job and fail again

[wesleybilbo]

i’m sorry to hear that. It’s a really challenging process where one feels like you’re in a hole and it gets deeper and harder to get out of. But I think a lot of that is also perception and trauma which needs to heal and the key thing is getting support and forgiving yourself for not getting it right and being human it’s just it’s just part of being human really. my humble advice is just take really small steps and get support and be gentle with yourself.

[Gettingittogether]

I hear you: you sound like you feel isolated even though you are getting treatment. Just be sure to tell your therapist EXACTLY what you said here.

Another kicker: depression will convince you (out of shame) to NOT tell therapists how you really feel, how bad you really feel. I remember my first therapist. I was absolutely miserable and not regular miserable but depression hopeless, defeated miserable.

I didn't tell her that. She thought I was just going through a phase. I was struggling to get out bed every day and I didn't tell her. After I did tell her how bad off I was, she leaped into action and was so helpful. And actually one of the most healings parts of treatment then was simply disclosing how depressed I was ...

Hang in there. But do tell your therapist and your medical prescriber about how bad you really feel. They need to know, so they can try out new meds or new strategies.