Wishing all well.......

[ADHDuderino]

Happy new year to the community, (well those on the Gregorian calendar anyway) may you have a joyful, prosperous and above all Kind New Year 🙏💙💙😊😊 Things I (yes me,like most of my posting, its "Over-flow" and externalised reasoning, sorry) Must NOT do...

1. Make resolutions🙄

New years day is no different to other days, if your going to stack that routine in, your going to do it regardless, and it will falter, then you feel bad, then you spiral, then you give up 🙄 Avoid the dissapointment, be forgiving of yourself.

2.Join a Gym.

The majority of January gym memberships are, like resolutions, not maintained or habitualised to monetary benifit by the neurotypical population. Seriously, how are We supposed to. Walk when you dont "need"to, enjoy what you do to be healthy, use it to your advantage (emotional regulation, frustration management etc.) Do it with a freind.

3.Make BIG EXCITING life changes/plans!

Sometimes our lives/ others, give us no choice in this. I know my year ahead will be another (its becoming a "stacked habit"!) challenging year.

But using "The NEW year🤩😀🙄!" as a reason is rubbish.

If life needs changing, I need to make a small change each day. Easier to maintain/stack as a habit, easier to accept a "missed" day/lapse, less dramatic to all and sundry, makes me more accountable to myself and others (as not changing the status quo sufficiently at one time). The grass is rarely greener (except on that private Island I have had my eye on 🤔🏝️🌴).

I would so love to just throw it all up in the air, open a gas cylinder and light a cigar, puffing away as I watch it all fall down from the sky in showers of ash and flames 🎇🎆🔥....But life cannot "work" that way....("Some men, just want to watch the world burn" Alfred Pennyworth)

Instead I will again have to go against my intrinsic nature and move slowly and steadily towards a new,sustainable normal. Events I put in place by a single keystroke, have shattered my fragile little core. "No bad thing!" I have heard said, and that may well be true, but as I freefall my mind is deafened by "Jusqu'ici tout va bien, jusqu'ici tout va bien....".

Maybe this year, I will find out how I land.....maybe I wont...

Life can be hard, be kind all, be kind

🌈🦄🐒

[Denisse_ADHDTagTeam]

Happy New Year to you as well!

You're so right, small changes are the way to go- but those big, huge leaps (that we then get overwhelmed by) sure look enticing! hehe