How do others cope with major changes?

[Bagpuss21]

It’s only recently I’ve lived on my own, having previously looked after mum here. She’s now needing to live in a care home. I’ve struggled massively to adjust to our new circumstances, as has mum. I’ve done my best to be supportive of her during this, even though I’ve struggled majorly with it myself.

I’ve had 2 stints of care from the crisis team, and am now waiting on a care package for myself to be started.

While I’m over the initial struggle to adapt, I’m finding it very hard to come to terms with this permanent change - Mum’s here, but she isn’t. I’m in my late 40s but have never lived apart from her. Inside, my head is screaming and scared.

Any helpful advice on coping with / adapting to change would be fantastic, please. I’m so lost.

[Colls47]

Oh my I am feeling this too . Glad you are getting some kind of support . I am married with 4 kids , and for the last 4 years haven’t been in paid employment , but have been on hand to help and be there for recently widowed mother . She passed in June , and I am struggling in a big way too. When wife goes off to work each day and kids to school , I’m scared and feel so so alone . I’m 47 and diagnosed 5 months ago . Is this part of adhd ? Adapting to change ? Or more of an ASD thing ? I just don’t know , but hang on in there , and get support where you can like you are doing . Keep me posted as keen to see how this moves forwards

[Bagpuss21 in reply to Colls47]

I’m not sure whether my struggles adapting to changes are from the adhd or asd.

I’ve contacted my S/W about a care package she’d proposed. Her manager’s declined it because they’re only funding “crisis” needs at present, because they’re having extreme financial pressures. She’s visiting again on Tuesday to get further info and pad out my case - to give me a better chance of getting funding.