Acceptance

[Esther478]

Hello,,

It has been hard to accept my reality. It was even difficult for me to join this group. It has actually taken me a year to sgn up. Each day I realize having support is very much necessary. I am.hapoy to know this forum is here.

[Hidden]

I’m glad you joined. 🙂

[Esther478 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you.

[ServiceSloth]

Hello. I'm glad you realized this, I came to this conclusion only last week after my symptoms were flaring up. It got better after that, one day at a time.

[Esther478 in reply to ServiceSloth]

Thank you. It's good to know this community exist.

[RollingThunder]

Hello Ester,

Wow, yeah, of course! I feel the same way. I was diagnosed in April of 2020 with ADD. What a shock! I am glad that I have had a year to get used to the idea and it is still hard to accept.

I am working on accepting it. I sometimes think that if I did not know I had ADD for 69 years maybe now one else will notice now either! Fortunately, I was in a career that was perfect form someone will ADHD so I flourished! It is only now with a couple of volunteer jobs that it has been pointed out to me that I am kinda slow, whaaaat? Me slow? Yup! I drive, talk, think, calculate and cashier slower than most, who knew? Now I know. I am coming to accept that and I really do not care, cause I am retired! At least I have a legitimate excuse now, when everyone else has “Half-hiemers” I have ADD, so what? Well, a ADD diagnosis is Still depressing. You and I must face the facts and embrace them. At least, it explains why I am up now writing to you at 2::00 am. Why I have hundreds of projects that never seem to get finished. Why I rearrange my home interior constantly, my children always took a moment when they came home from school to reconnoiter where the garbage can was located that day 😂. Oh, and it took me three try’s at spelling reconnoiter! We you and me are special, think of all the things that we do better than most: I am always being complimented on how lovely my house is, how creative artistically I am, clever, funny, etc. it is wonderful list, embrace all your gifts and manage the ADD. I have a schedule obviously not following it Tonight, but when I do I get rewards and I am very proud of myself. Day by Day, I try to follow my schedule. In a way knowing my ADD issues is a relief and they can be managed. Take heart, we are awesome! Hugs 🤗

[katefm]

hey, same. sorry you are struggling. I think what helped me is to acknowledge this way of being has always been my reality and that every day since diagnosis brings up more and more questions but more and more answers too. Sharing is soooo helpful. Im new too.

[Esther478 in reply to katefm]

Thank you. I was diagnosed about 12 years ago but felt like I was nearly 40, and didn't want to add another “label”’to myself.

[Esther478]

The same here.... It took me a year to sign up, too.

[Esther478]

Rolling Thunder,

It's nice you are retired. I have another 13 years until I retire. However, I have other things I am interested in doing once I closed this chapter. Actually, these interest use to be much greater, but over the years it has dwindled. My current job is still somewhat rewarding and it's safe! For the most part. I have a great supervisor for which I am grateful. I feel somewhat complacent My desire or intent was to never be that person. Now, I am almost afraid to move on to another job. May I ask, what was your profession? Thank you.

[RollingThunder]

Hi Ester, I was a Purchasing Manager for a manufacturing company. Problems with deliveries, shortage of stock, too much stock, redesign of product, new products to bring on line, phones calls constantly, other managers clambering for information, personnel problems it was a dream for someone with ADD. I loved it!