New to this site. Looking for support. Feeling very alone Struggling with a 11year old son. Adhd /autistic spectrum

[Helpforamom]

Any help support resources.

[bear240]

Hi. Welcome to the forum. I'm sorry you are feeling alone and I'm sure you will get support here. May I suggest you tell us what are the specific challenges and what you already have in place or have tried.

[crowningglory19]

Welcome to this site, you are not alone. Have you thought of joining an in person group too to find friends with same struggles? If you can't do that, this is a great second. My aunt has a son who is autistic and nonverbal with many mental challenges. She has cared for him for 45 or so years and it does keep her going and young. She struggled with social services who thought they were "helping"her. They didn't like that she had a locked half door for his room. But it was for his safety and he is very loved and cared for. She has a camera that connects to screen in kitchen so she can see continually how he is. She bought him large dog chew toys since they are very durable and he bends and bends them for something to do with his hands and energy, it has helped a lot. She gives him coke since stimulants calm autistic/adhd kids. She brings him out into the living room when she can completely focus on him and spends time singing and her adult son playing piano with him. Do what you see works, and don't let peer pressure change or judge you. I know it's hard, show yourself grace and give yourself breaks as you can. Prioritize and let go of other's standards. You got this, you are strong and smart! =)

[Wanderlustgirl]

I don't have any resources to offer since I am going through the same thing. Just know you are not alone. What you are feeling is real and it is important to take care of yourself as well as your child. This is a quiet disease that seems to affect far more people than most think. As a caregiver it is difficult dealing with what stems from beyond reason. Everyones situation is different and us moms seem to take 100% of the hard stuff. I am still trying to find that "step one" that will give me some focus and direction and I am finding that to be harder than expected. I know how you feel, it is a lonely and often disabling place to be. Hang in there.