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I wanted to go back to work but Peter Pan had other unplanned plans

After almost a month of my Peter Pan having great behaviors at school and after 4 months of not being able to work, this Mom decided to take her chances with going back to work....my Peter Pan went back to school from Xmas break on Tuesday of this week which is also the same day I went back to work at a factory through my temp service. He had a great 3 Days but today was not one of those days. Thankfully I was able to make it through 7 of my 8hr day but I still had to leave work to pick up my boy who just couldn’t get a hold of his emotions today. I arrived to a classroom of chaos. No children but my one and only Peter Pan surrounded by 3 teachers and a principal. Chairs were turned upside down, legs were broken off children’s tables, paint had been peeled off the concrete walls of the “quiet” room and I knew instantly this was the work of my beyond frustrated child incapable of controlling his emotions past a certain point no matter what or how many medications he was taking. I feel so badly for my Peter Pan, I could honestly care less about my job that has no problem replacing me within 24hrs with somebody else, I worry for my son and I hope he is not sliding backwards. We were doing so well but perhaps we were overly optimistic...here’s to hoping for better days...good luck to all of you on your journeys

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I feel your pain. What meds is he on? My then 6 year old had a huge meltdown at school. It was the 5th day on Adderall. He couldn’t control himself, was manic or manical! He is on Focalin now. His younger brother and myself both take adderall with good success. I would look at the meds...two boys here and so far only 2 different adhd ones, the boys are opposites. Got lucky on 2nd try. Youngest is my very special boy lol. He’s tried several “other “ meds, but none work as well as Abilify. It is given for “ irritation caused by autism “ Him and I Both were taking same. I miss my abilify lately. It really helped keep my mood even. I really hate taking meds but when I find the ones that work I think maybe I’m better and I’ll stop taking them or I’ll find a problem with them or something LOL so I’ve done a lot of research. 😂

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Oh my gosh this hits so close to home for me. My son is 5, and has huge problems managing his emotions. We have tried 9 different medications now, and he currently takes Vayarin, Prozac and Abilify. He was doing fantastic for a few months after we found the right combination, but then his behavior started deteriorating. I discussed quitting my job with my husband, and we agreed that I should, but to wait until the end of the year to help my job get through our busy season. Then, 3 weeks before I’m supposed to stop working, we get a letter from our landlord saying they are going to sell the house we’re renting, and we have to move. Since my leaving was based on the budget for the current house, I couldn’t stop working not knowing where we would be living. It’s been so incredibly frustrating, because his behavior is so unpredictable. I don’t have any advice for you, but I wanted you to know you aren’t alone.

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I wish you the best...my times have certainly been much harder than they are now but I am reminded it can always be worse...

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Bless his heart! Does he adjust to change well? Just coming off Christmas break and then Mom going back to work may have been a hard thing for him to deal with. My ADHD son and my ASD son neither responded to change very well at all. ADHD son outgrew that thankfully and he's now 18 but my ASD son is 12, almost 13. He has had these types of meltdowns in the past quite a few times at home and school.

Has your Peter Pan been tested for anything besides ADHD recently? Maybe a further evaluation again would be helpful if it's been awhile bc sometimes as they get older I've found that some things progress into something more than what they first thought.

I wish you the best of luck and hope he can find some peace bc I know how very hard it is on them to feel out of control and then how difficult it is as their Mom wanting to do anything we can to help them!

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He is seen by a counselor every 3wks and he sees his psychologist every 8wks to stay on top of medications and questions we have, etc.

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Reminds me of that Sheryl Crow song. Every day is a widny road. Lol it’s all becoming routine for me and just another day. Just think ahead and try to be prepared. It will all work out. 💪

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