I recently lost my father and I'm really struggling with it all , lack of motivation no concentration feeling tired and numb . Sleep is interrupted and wake with a headache every day.
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Coping with death
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Death is very hard to deal with, I can relate, I lost my sister about 7 months ago to her long battle with cancer. All the symptoms you are describing I had too. How long ago did you lose your father? It does get better. It might take some time though, we all grieve at different paces and stages and it's very unique to you how long you'll likely stay in a certain stage of grief.
Do you have an outlet you can turn to? I like to bike ride, when I was at my highest stage of misery over losing my sister, I would take long walks and bike ride. It really helped to clear my head and put life into perspective. There are also several grief support resources you could look into either locally or online, those do help to hear from others on how they cope with loss. One other thing that really helped me to get the thoughts, feelings and words out that I wanted to share with my loved one was to journal, it at least gave me a space to write out all the things I wanted to say to her and then I felt so much better like we had actually connected again.
I pray you find some relief soon, that's such a hard stage to go through.
Hi Thank you for the reply. I lost my dad at the beginning of dec 2020 and we laid him to rest on dec 22nd . I thought the Christmas break would give me time to accept everything. I saw my dad every day except for 2 days in the last 6 weeks of his life . It truly gutted me seeing him deteriorate until he sadly closed his eyes and took one last breath .
My job is quite pressured so i didn't have anytime to adjust when I returned in the new year. I just found it so difficult to cope , to sleep and waking every day with a headache . Last week it became to much and I took some time out. I have been going for long walks with my partner and our dog . My partner has been brilliant throughout , she is very caring not just to me but my mum . I've just found it so difficult. I have taken comfort from your words .
Thank you
It's good to hear that you recognized the need to take some time away, yes, very necessary. It truly is a process and one that unfortunately cannot be rushed or just done away with quickly. It is very hard to be by ones side when they pass away, but I must say, you are very brave and your father most definitely felt the love of you being there beside him during this life event. I too was by my sister's side as she took her final breath, it was TOUGH!! Blessings upon you my friend!
Hi Thanks again for your words of encouragement I find it good to open up and share my experience. No one can prepare you to deal with the loss of a close one . I guess what made it harder for me was watching my dad get weaker by the day . Thankfully dad and us didnt have to endure a long a painful end he went very peacefully with his close family with him . Sending you my deepest regards and thanks x
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending you virtual hugs now from afar. Grief is such a unique and difficult emotion, it can make you feel numb to those around you and your daily life. My dad died in March of 2015 and it was difficult but I kept busy with my mom who was doing great. Then, 4 months later she fell and died suddenly and I was unbelievably sad, I struggled for a long time. Don't try to hurry through your emotional grief, you will have good days and bad days. Embrace all the great memories with your father. Is your mother still alive or siblings that you can talk with regularly? There are also many grief support groups, can you find out about that? I went to a local group briefly as I was working through the sadness and it really helped to connect with others going through the same thing. Now, looking back from my parents' death, I still really miss them but it's not cripplingly sadness like afterwards. Give yourself time to heal and I'm praying you sleep better over time. I highly recommend this site with many articles dealing with grief. I think it will benefit you. list.ly/list/2Eu7-a-guiding...
Prayers for you right now.
Patti
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I had a look at the link thank you I have found it very useful and I'm sure I will continue to use it on my road to recovery.
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sorry to hear about your loss god bless you and your dearest father.we have a forum here that could be added support to you it`s called bereavement care and share it`s a smallish community but very supportive and understanding.
So sorry! You have had a major loss and grieving may take a long time. Your honesty and openness are healthy and appropriate. Be gentle on yourself. Allowing yourself to grieve is a gift you can give yourself. Praying for you this morning. Please keep posting!
