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Well, I’m screwed. Apparently I’m in love. I haven’t lost my virginity yet And I’ve been waiting for the right person. The thing is I’ve been lying to him the whole time about my skin. I know I should trust and love my partner, but I’ve never told anyone what happened to me or showed them my disgusting scars. How am I supposed to tell him there a 36 gaps in my skin. What if it turns him off? The other day he was making rude comments about some chick with a large mole on her face. How would he react to my cigarette marks. If he does know and breaks up with me will he tell everyone my secret?

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Hi ChelsieDagger,

This is a tough situation. I think it's probably best to tell him sooner than later if this is a serious relationship. Are you in love with each other? It needs to be a two-way street. How would you feel if your boyfriend decided to withhold that information or any information that you feel is important. If you love each other, I think you will get through it. I'm not saying telling him is going to be a piece of cake. Decide how you should start the conversation. We don't know what his initial reaction will be but know that telling him is the right thing to do. My concern is that you don't really trust him. Is it worth it? Is he worth it?

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If I was in your shoes I would tell him. If he’s horrible about them you’ve dodged a bullet. Best not giving your v to someone like that. It will be hard but you get through it. You’ve handle much worse by the sounds so it. If he says to anyone just deny it. Try not to make a big deal of it and laugh it off as if he’s just making it up. Hope this is some help

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I think I would somehow test him. By showing him a picture and checking his response. It does sound like you don't trust him. It doesn't sound like he has proved himself to you.

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