Anxiety, depression, anger, no help and worried sick :(

[Alimcbeer]

My daughter has pcos and has never really had help apart from being told to lose weight, which she has done , 4 and a half stone, but she is no better for it. She has a 3 yr old daughter and is not coping at all. She as anxiety, depression, mood swings, aggressive, anger the list seems endless, I'm really struggling to get her help and it's heartbreaking, she keeps telling me she doesn't want to be here any more, even talking about her daughter having to go live with her father (which isn't ideal) I'm staying with her indefinitely to try and help but I'm at a loss and she's not in a good place. Any advice would be so greatly appreciated, Dr's just don't seem to be willing to do any further tests or offer any kind of treatment, we have no idea which type of pcos she has, and we follow healthy eating but she has no motivation any more to exercise and even go out. Please help.

[ACHH]

I read your message and want to be able to help but honestly I am not sure what I can offer. I just don't want you feeling alone when you have made the cry for help for your daughter.

I have had horrific dark days with my PCOS and have gone through bouts of depression and anxiety, I can only offer you advice for worked for me. I keep a diary, its more like a burn book in all honesty! I dont write in it every day but when I have bad days I write in it and get my feels that consume me out there, that does help and it releases a load of emotions I seem to be bottling up. I find my feelings can be like a switch and I have to say to myself sometimes, STOP dont go down that road and distract myself. This diary helps and I write the most awful thoughts in there and then put it down and move on with my day, it use to be every day I wrote in it and now well I last wrote in it in July this year. That was my last tough day but before that I went 5 weeks without one. Its not easy with PCOS and you cant help it sadly.

When someone doesnt want to help themselves its really tricky, but little by little in the past year I have become mentally and physically stronger and I do think that this is down to the diary I keep, healthy eating and being part of a book club (wine and cheese club more than books haha) and getting a PT. This all gets me out of the house and focusing on the positive things, your daughter needs to do things that make her happy. Challenge yourselves to do 52 country walks in the areas you live so you do something every week or splash out on a PT, that gets your happy hormones going and makes you feel proud of achieving something.

It will be ok, any step is a positive step and your daughter has done incredibly well loosing 4 stone. She is lucky to have a mum who cares so much.

[LisaEB]

Pcos can cause, depression, hairiness aches, being overweight, infertility . What exactly are you trying to help? She's had a daughter, so it's not the fertility part upsetting her. All areas can be helped. Has she tried metformin for example. If she doesn't want to get pregnant again has she tried the pill, it helps. Infolic is supposed to help with some of the symptom. Diet, IPL.. What is she exactly depressed about. If its about life in general it may just be her as a person rather than the PCOS?

[JennyCa]

I was the same. I was treated with the pill and cyproterone acetate which made me well again.

It probably doesn't help, right at the moment, however going through the menopause has removed the need for medication. It' s a phase of life to look forward to.

[Artlover77]

I feel for you and your daughter. I was told I had Polycystic ovaries at 14 but was not told what it could have implied ever till I married! I have struggled with your daughter issues all my life and am on antidepressant and yet no doctor has aver mentioned ALL the struggles I have always experienced could be due to this. I hope your daughter finds a way to feel better soon. Sorry I can’t help but maybe....today for the first time in my life I heard that a low GI diet could help. Maybe worth a try? A big heart felt hug to you both