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[Twilightmoon]

Hi I'm new to the forum I'm a mum of a 20 year old man who has an eating disorder, i was wondering if there any other parents out there and how they cope seeing there child fade away

Thanks

[joanna21]

Hi I have a 16 year old daughter , yes it is hard to see them starve themselves. Our daughter spent 8 months as inpatient until March this year , her recovery continues at home .It is tough but we take each day at a time & try to see the funny side of things & take the small positives that are interspersed with the dramas (recent overdose). I hope you are getting support from professionals and from family & friends... they don't always get it though do they . Look after yourself & know that we are here for you xxx

[Twilightmoon in reply to joanna21]

Thanks for your reply my son has an appointment with the eating disorder clinic next week so let's see what happens there. He has just had his medication raised so let's see if that helps him. I hope your daughter is ok it's so nice to talk to another parent thank you xxx

[joanna21 in reply to Twilightmoon]

Great that all sounds positive. It is a very long road to recovery but it is worth it. We have had a good week so far ...just take one day at a time ! Look after you too xx

[Lillybet66]

Hi there, my daughter is 19 and has anorexia. It's awful seeing her losing control. My daughter has been in hospital for 8 months now. She's being discharged tomorrow but is not recovered. In that time, we have undergone family therapy and taken part in parent and carer sessions based on the Maudsley approach. They have educated us in the best ways to support our daughter. I can really recommend it. There is a book about the approach. It's well worth reading if you haven't already. It doesn't take the fear away, but it helps to know how you can best support your child.

[Paraskevi]

There are many, many of us going through what you are going through at the moment. I have been going through this hellish nightmare for the past 3/4 years, not with one child, but with two! My anorexic twins are now 19 and the best time for all of us (including them, as they have since admitted to me) was when they were in hospital being treated. Since they came out, they have relapsed and now we are back to square one...only worse! Stay strong. Be patient. Be very, very patient.

It's a long, long journey, but we live in hope!

[Twilightmoon in reply to Paraskevi]

Thank you for your kind words. It's a very hard struggle I hope your twins will get better. It's good to know that other people are going through the same thing as me. We have a hospital appointment this week so let's see what happens we have a long road to go. Xxxx