Sexual Health Matters


I've been sexually active with my partner for over 5 months, this is all new to me.. He has been my first partner I've had sex with.. He tells me he cannot wear a condom because it makes him limp? I'm too shy to talk to him about it but I don't know the risk of getting an std... He's had one other partner and he got checked after... And their was no sign of an std apart from that he might be infertile.. And he doesn't like wearing condoms.. I had the contraceptive implant taken out about a month ago due to it being dangerous for me, and planning on going on the pill... I am young I do not want to risk getting pregnant or getting an std and I don't know what to do..

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your pills can only help you in not getting pregnant , and they just can't avoid any kind of std's or sti's...avoid the shy part, be bold to discuss things with him.. be safe and be healthy...


He most likely won't have an std if he got checked before. For him not being fertile he needs to go get a spine check. No std should happen as long as you 2 are faithfull


If I were you I'd wait til you get on the pill to have sex with him (and make sure you've been taking it at least a week so it has the chance to kick in). If you trust him in that he has been checked for STI's then you should have nothing to worry about. If you don't trust him then you should reconsider having sex with him in the first place. The best thing to do is talk about it - you should feel comfortable talking about this with him, and if you do it'll bring you closer together

Best of luck!