Dealing with being small

[Andyp123456]

I really struggle sexually because of my size being a fair bit below average, particularly in terms of thickness so a lot of positions don’t really work and I struggle to find good condoms that stay on. I know people say size doesn’t matter but it definitely does to some extent. Does anyone have any tips for how to have more sexual confidence or has anyone been in a similar position and found a solution?

[Man7Cut]

Hey man don't put yourself down. Penises come in all sizes and thicknesses. Contrary to what you see online most guys aren't huge, the average is about 5ins erect. A lot of manufacturers produce narrow or small condoms it's just a matter of experimenting till you find one that suits/ fits. I know it can give you a bit of a hang up, but I have a mate who's about 4.5 ins hard and he's married now so there's someone for everyone

[xsevenx]

It’s probably bigger than you think, you are looking from the wrong angle.

[jaglad]

As others have said you are more than likely not as small as you realise.As for sex, try from behind, it gets a little more length in.

[Man7Cut]

Hey after being in contact with you I agree that because of your penis size you would struggle with a regular condom, because it is important that it stays on to protect both of you. I do like Jaglad's suggestion of entering from behind if you haven't already tried it.

[Petit4incher]

take it from someone who’s been in your shoes. I always thought I wasn’t big enough and let it take over my life. Then at 26 met my now wife who’s never mentioned me being small. Have 3 grown kids so my 4 incher certainly works. As for position I find doggy best. As for condoms first time I put one on she told me it was like eating a sweet with wrapper still on. lol. Plus you have a tongue and finger. Not always about sex

[Andyp123456]

thanks for all the helpful comments. I’m working through stuff and have hopefully found some condoms that fit me properly!

[sinombre]

I don't know how many tight small fitting condoms there are on the market but I found one that's a nice tight fit for me, it might be good for you, look online for "Caution Wear Iron Grip Snug Fit" condom, the most important term to search for is "Iron Grip" the product marketing name, and "Caution Wear" being the brand.

I am curious to wonder how being small, at least in girth/width as you describe is a problem for positions, for the condom issue I can understand.

For me I've found shorter length can impact the positions you are able to do, as I'm also on the shorter side around 4 inches max, you end up sometimes sliding out more easily due to the lack of length, and can't penetrate as deep, so in certain positions, I'm reluctant to slide out more for a longer thrust as, one miscalculation and you have to reinsert again, which is a bit of a pain since my thing is also curved so it doesn't insert as easily as if it was straight.

[Man7Cut in reply to sinombre]

Hey you're right it's all about finding the right position

[Spud-u-Like1982]

I hear what you're saying and my advice is not to worry about it too much, because we are often very overly critical of ourselves. I had a girlfriend when I was in my early to mid 20s who had previously been with a soldier, a policeman and a security guard (not all at once!!!) and she told me I was the biggest she'd been with (although I'm tall, I don't think she meant weight or height) and honestly, I was always slagged in school for being 'small' when flaccid. My advice is to try reading up some good quality sex books about giving a woman maximum pleasure and that will definitely help. You'll find most, if not all women would prefer a passionate, experienced lover over a guy with a massive piece and no real technique. It's also definitely a modern society thing, as back in the day these things weren't so readily spoken about.

Honestly though, you're not alone and there are alot of folk out there either like yourself or who have issues with things like ED and majorly low libido, which is something I'm currently dealing with.

Best of luck!