Advice

[Paulo1976]

Morning everyone, hope we are all keeping well. I have previously posted on here about mum, who has severe COPD and SCLC. She has undergone horrendous chemo and finished palliative radiotherapy. Her side effects of radiotherapy have dispersed and she is now feeling a little better. Unfortunately, I have caught her smoking again and vaping. I don't know how long this has been going on for. It's truly devastating.

I know I am not the person who is fighting this horrible disease, caused by the very thing she is doing again. I have never been a smoker, so don't know how it feels. I know it's not about me but being the loved one who has stood by her side throughout this, taking her to appointments, helping at home, you name it. Probably done what any other person would do for their parent.

I suppose I would like to know how to deal with this. Anyone done this ? What further damage will it cause? What can I do?

Its hard to describe really, it's not a pity party and not about me..Can't help how I feel and feels like a knife through the heart.

Any advice, experience of this appreciated.

Thank you for reading.

Paul

[lakeswim]

Difficult. She has more to deal with than many of us (family members) can imagine, in addition to her addiction. You can ask her doctor about the likely impact on her health, and ask them to offer potential solutions - e.g. nicotine patches etc - but you can't take this personally, or think it's your job to fix it yourself. I'm sure she already knows what smoking has done to her but she's addicted.