Sleeping suggestions for RLS & PLMS

[Nellie52]

Has anyone managed to arrange successful separate sleeping arrangements with their partner? We are bed hopping every night and it's becoming disruptive and stressful for us both - I actually sleep reasonably well with my condition but my partner lies awake waiting for me to start 'twitching', wakes me to tell me that he's still awake then one of us decides to leave the bed and find another empty bed in the house! In the past 4 mths we've spent around 5 full nights together.

I've been wondering if any of you have found a solution through buying a bigger bed, maybe with zip and link mattresses? If so, did it help? My partner thinks we need to have two double beds side by side?

Would welcome your experiences/solutions?

Many thanks

[wantokporo]

We just sleep in different rooms period. Maybe two single mattresses would work but both of you would have to be pretty good sleepers as you will awaken each other probably if you get up and walk around during the night. From time to time I will go in to sleep with him in the mornings for a bit for togetherness. He still puts up with me disrupting his sleep from time to time when the Pregabilin isn't working right or whatever, but I think he is exceptionally kind in that. It is a big loss as sleeping together is such a joy, but good sleep is more important and you can find physical togetherness in other ways.

[martino]

We have zip and link beds. They lie in the bedroom like two separate beds but can be zipped together.

[jollyjune]

Yes I have the same trouble, we have two single beds zipped together but I still move out because I cannot sleep for worrying that I am disturbing him. I would like to try two separate singles but he hates single beds. We spend 5 weeks on a cruise in two singles and it was ok. Oh to be able to control my brain

[Bananie123]

Separate rooms.We both have double beds.He can snore to his heart's content and watch his sport and I don't worry about my jumpy legs and can catch up on my soaps. Problem solved.

[Joolsg]

Separate rooms here as well. Mr G can snore and I can switch lights on and walk about without worrying about waking him. You can always start in same room and then go to your own bed. Sleep for both partners is essential and you can maintain closeness and intimacy in other ways.

[Annty]

Separate bedrooms. As others have said, its either that or little sleep for both of us.

This is highlighted every time we stay in a hotel...2 bleary eyed and grumpy guests.

Only been married 5 yrs. Feel so bad about it.

[SleeplessWife]

I have just joined this community this morning after another night on the sofa. My husband has had RLS for years and often literally kicks me out of bed (in his sleep). I'm so tired! He did go to Doc's years ago but they just gave him diazepam which did not help and he never went back. We don't have a spare room so can't sleep apart. I think he must have primary RLS as he's had this for at least 20 years. Any suggestions welcome! 😴