Colds and people kissing my baby.

[lou121087]

Hey lovelies. I have a stinking cold and my baby is 2weeks old, she stayed in hospital for 12days due to being early and not feeding right she was born at 34wks. The hospital told me that I should still practice cleanliness at home aka washing hands and making others do so before handling her. I've not held my baby much today due to my cold and my partner is getting a bit frustrated with me for not holding my baby much but with my cold I really don't want her to catch it even when I clean my hands. And now his two kids are staying this weekend aged 6 and 9 for the first time since we've been home and I told my partner I don't want them kissing her yet I'm happy for them to hold her but I'm not keen on everyone smooching all over her. Am I wrong in being so cautious?

[ALLY81]

Hi congratulations! Dont think you are being unreasonable at all especially seeing as shes been in hospital think kissing where possible should be avoided hopefully you settle in at home ok and get some rest where possible ! Xxxx

[lou121087 in reply to ALLY81]

Thank you. While my partner is off work I don't see the harm in him just sorting things out while I try to recover before he goes back to work. And it doesn't help that I still get emotional over little things and feeling rubbish certainly doesn't help. And being a first time mum I'm allowed to be over protective of her which he doesn't understand and constantly reminds me he's had two children already who always have colds lol. Xx

[Lovefood1984]

First of all congratulations and I don’t think you are being over cautious, it’s definitely good to try and recover whilst he is off as I found it blooming hard work once my hubby went back after 2 weeks! I gave my daughter her first cold at 9 weeks and it wasn’t much fun for her bless so if you can prevent it especially with little one being early I would do x

[lou121087 in reply to Lovefood1984]

Thank you for your reply. It's been hard since having my cold and the lack of sleep doesn't help. His children are sleeping over this weekend and they have been all over her but they have been washing there hands and using antibacterial gel but I still didn't like them breathing all over her as they both get so close together touching and kissing her not giving her space, and my anxiety has been sky hi and my partner wasn't impressed that I got agitated even tho I didn't say anything. But she also isn't showing any signs of sickness so I'm hoping I've done well and not passed it on to her as I haven't held her a great deal mainly with feedings and nappy changes. Xx

[Thebabyroom in reply to lou121087]

Well done, it’s not easy when you are feeling unwell. It’s also tricky with your partner having children already. Sounds like you’ve got it right hand washing etc. it’s really important for them to bond with the little one. They will be feeling a little sad that daddy has a new baby so you need to let them know she is their sister & that they are important in her life. It’s safe for them to kiss the top of the head. Hopefully baby will get some protection & immunity from you if you are breastfeeding

[lou121087 in reply to Thebabyroom]

Thank you. She managed to avoid catching anything luckily but now has thrush in her mouth bless her. And she's being formula fed. They absolutely love her they got her presents and drew pictures for her. And we have the kids again this Saturday so hopefully we can go out together this time as a family. My partner admitted he feels guilty that he's around his newborn 24/7 and only gets to see his other kids fortnightly, but they understand the situation and always look forward to coming over. And I'll be a bit more relaxed about them smothering her. But I also think I'm not very affectionate like hugging family unless I have to that I think my poor baby doesn't want to be smothered unwillingly either lol even though she prefers to be held than just left to it.