I just needed to talk

[Stateofheartsss]

I am so happy that I’m pregnant. I know how badly I wanted it to happen. I just felt like for once things are finally right in my life, I was finally on track with school, relationships/friendships,my parents... I just thought the next step was baby because I’ve always dreamt of being a mum, I’ve always been sure that I’d be good at it but now I’m not so sure. Some days I’m overwhelmed with joy at the beauty of this new life I’ve created and how much I can’t wait to meet her, hold her and love her forever. Those days are wonderful. I spend all day watching YouTube videos on nursery ideas,newborn essentials and putting baby things in my amazon basket. Then most days I just worry. I’m so consumed with anxiety that my chest feels so tight and I’m struggling to breathe. I lay awake in bed tossing and turning because one I’m pregnant and no position is 100% comfortable and two my mind is in overdrive, worrying and anxious about finances,mental health,job, masters, life and the baby. Literally everything I can think of to worry about I do. I feel terrible for continuously feeling this way and I’m scared to talk to anyone about this because it makes me seem ungrateful and selfish. I’ve finally got the life I always wanted and I’m complaining when so many others would kill to be in my position...I just feel so lost

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Hey

Well done for reaching out. First off I would say that it's normal to have these fluctuations in how you feel but you definitely need to realise when it birders on unhealthy. Secondly I would recommend that you speak with your doctor. They should be able to make some recommendactions. Finally, have a look at some online mindfulness apps and courses. I find that helps me to cope with ups and downs and to learn just to breathe and let the thoughts pass.

Good luck and big hugs xxx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Please let your community midwife know how you are feeling. There is such a thing as antenatal depression and antenatal anxiety and help should be available for you to overcome this so you get off to the best possible start with your baby. Also reach out to those around you xx

[JNDuce12-13]

I absolutely agree with the previous two replies... talk to someone, a doctor, or maybe look into booking yourself a few sessions with a person cantered counsellor, it’s talking therapy which helps immensely, there’s no judgements.

It’s normal to feel like this, I’m 12weeks pregnant and it was something I’d wanted for years, I have a 5yr old and I’ve alwasy wanted a sibling for him, but I have days where I wonder if I’ve made a massive mistake, complicating everything, over thinking the logistics of work, uni, 2kids. So it is normal. But please find someone you can talk to, cause you don’t want these feelings to spill over to when the baby is born. You’ll also find how common these feelings are and that you aren’t selfish or ungreatful at all!!!

Good luck xxx

[Masha111]

I agree with the above. It is normal to feel this way, you have done so well to get this far but do speak to a professional about it.

God blessed you with an amzing gift one can have, everything else will fall into place you'll see xxx