Feeling confused...

[MummyMel]

I have a 4 month old beautiful girl, and my older daughters are 5&7. I've just found out I'm pregnant again, and I'm super torn on what to do. I want to be able to give my girls as much of me as I can, and I feel like this is really soon for another baby, and will take away time and attention from my 3 babies I already have. I know I'd never regret having a child (I hope anyway) and I don't particularly want an abortion, but I do feel like this will be too much. I'm a childminder so this will also affect my earnings as it's one less child I can mind. I feel like I'm in a lose/lose situation here, any advice will be much appreciated please ladies xxx

[Sisi14]

Hi Hun , I don’t want to imagine what your going through as you’ve not long had a baby ! Only you can decide you can go with your heart or your head and then if you could get past not having the new pregnancy but it’s your decision. Have you spoken with your partner? Xx

[MummyMel in reply to Sisi14]

He's just as confused as I am I think. We try talking about it but we just both say we don't know what we want and we don't know what's best. then I'm more confused than ever. I appreciate you taking the time to try and help x

[Sisi14 in reply to MummyMel]

That’s ok Hun , it’s only you two I suppose that can decide my lovely 😊 I wish you both the best. I have 3 children and one on the way but that’s it for me then as it’s been a blessing having them all but miscarried my twins last year so this little one is our rainbow baby to grow with my youngest one xx

[MummyMel in reply to Sisi14]

Sorry you had to go through that last year, and congrats on your rainbow baby!!!! That's awesome, I wish you all the best. And thanks again xx

[Sisi14 in reply to MummyMel]

Your very welcome and I wish you the very best with your decision and future xx

[Zoepatterson]

I understand your dilemma as it’s so close to Just having a baby but I believe a baby is never a mistake. It’s def personal choice but I wouldn’t be able to live with the what ifs and what would they have been like. Etc.

I hope you manage to come to an agreement together. Xxx

[Hidden]

This might be a bit blunt but I honestly mean no offence. Picture your life in a year's time, with a 13 month old, who is probably teething, not yet walking and still largely dependant on you, and now add a new born into that too. Its going to be really hard work.

But now imagine your life 5 or 6 years from now, your children will be 13, 11, 6 and 5, children will be perfect ages to be able to pair up and play together, no one will get left out, a few years later the eldest could watch the younger ones so you and your partner can go out together.

I guess you need to figure out if you can get through the early years ready for the easier times, or whether the financial, emotional and physical strain it will be to your current family is just too much to risk right now.

[Queenie15]

Put God first. And He will supply all your needs. A child ALWAYS a Blessings. I know it sounds scary. But with God all things are possible. Blessings.