desparate for baby

[Bluelady-sing]

Same old feeling

[Georgina_D]

Try to stay positive hun, if it happens then it does, if not just enjoy life with your partner and family x

[roxannacar]

Did you work things out with your partner?

[Bluelady-sing in reply to roxannacar]

trying to

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Bluelady-sing]

No

[Bluelady-sing]

Getting more desperate guys what should I do, should I go for a donor how would I know what the baby would look like?

[Kate91 in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Well your never really gonna know what the baby will look like even with a partner it's a genetic lottery of your that desperate for a baby and your not in a relationship then going for a donor would be safest as at least they are medical history checked for anything hereditary

[roxannacar in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Much more important to be healthy than how they'll look. I dont know if sperm banks offer a profile of donors... you could check.... but as kate says you never know what they'll look like... my children are mixed race ... before I had them I worried that they would look nothing like me ... in retrospect that was a silly thing to do ... I love them no matter what they look like, and I think in mums eyes your baby is the most beautiful anyways

[Bluelady-sing]

I am trying to sort things out with my partner, I hope he wants the same as me this baby might be good for both of us

[Major2116 in reply to Bluelady-sing]

If you and your partner aren't in a good place then a baby most definitely won't fix it hun. If anything it pushing you both to breaking point. When you're at that point, you either go your separate ways or fight it out together.

Me and my fiancé were really good, had our son and argued a lot because we were both sleep deprived and exhausted. We battled through and now planning our wedding.

I know you want a baby but bringing in a baby to a bad situation isnt fair on you 2 or your baby. You can always use sperm donor or adopt. I know it won't be the same as carrying your own child but it's still a baby to love! X

[Bluelady-sing]

me and my partner get on fine - its just he does not tell me how he feels