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My wife now hates sex

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Hi. My wife is 9weeks pregnant and im so excited. I try not show it. Lol.. Its will be our first, she had some miscarriages before and now she doesn't want to have sex coz she feels it could cause complications. . But i think she just hates sex now. What should i do. Now I'm so honny

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Kate91

Without being harsh you need to deal with it. Your wife's body is going through some major changes for some pregnancy proper ups sex drive for others it destroys it. The amount of hormones raging through her body as she grows an entire human being. If she's had miscarriages it is normal shed be anxious. When you guys have your first scan ask about it with your wife. Ask if its safe to have sex it usually is unless there are complications but asking might put your wife's mind at ease.

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Hubbyisalsoexcited in reply toKate91

Thanx a lot

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jenna01

Is this a joke? No offence but at 9 weeks she is probably full of nerves and feeling pretty crappy! Cut her some slack And look after her until she feels like it! Until then you’ll have to sort yourself out 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Sisi14

It’s good to be excited as you’ve experienced miscarriages together but as a woman and a mother to be carrying your precious baby you want to protect it and nurture it especially losing babies in the past , so what I’m trying to say to you is she’s not going to want any sex at the moment as she’s scared and anxious so until you’ve had that 12 week scan your wife may not relax ! You can still be there for her and snuggle together, just be patient and listen and communicate with each other! Congratulations to you both !

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Hubbyisalsoexcited in reply toSisi14

Thanks. You have saved a soul

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Sisi14 in reply toHubbyisalsoexcited

Glad to help x

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Lyndsaytw79

Is this a piss take? If it’s not, you’ve come to the wrong place for sympathy. How disrespectful to talk about this behind your wife’s back, and saying you’re horny. Stop being so selfish and sort it out!

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Hubbyisalsoexcited in reply toLyndsaytw79

Hi. Sorry if you were offended. I didn't do this behind my wife's back and if i did it would be out of love for her. I jokingly did it when we were together and discussing about it, i told her that I'm going to ask women who probably have been or are in similar situations and get to hear what they have to say.

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sjskittle

Go have a tug and sort yourself out so you can concentrate on supporting your wife emotionally.

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Hubbyisalsoexcited in reply tosjskittle

Sorry but what is a tug😐

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sjskittle in reply toHubbyisalsoexcited

You know what it means!! 🤐

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Hubbyisalsoexcited in reply tosjskittle

No i dont. Sorry

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roxannacar in reply toHubbyisalsoexcited

It means masturbate ...

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Claire2225

I find this so funny I’m expecting my 2nd in such a short period of time my son is 8mnth old now and I’m 6.5months pregnant again I wouldn’t have sex with my husband when carrying my first and in this pregnancy too 😂 so good luck with that one 😂😂

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Hubbyisalsoexcited in reply toClaire2225

Hahaha. I guess it could be considered normal then.. 😂😂😂

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Claire2225 in reply toHubbyisalsoexcited

It’s hard for the woman as I know it sounds crazy but when you have had things go wrong by either trying to conceive of result in loss of pregnancy you blame yourself for those things happening so you do everything in your power to protect the pregnancy, my husband has been brill through both pregnancy’s just look forward to your bundle of joy there’s plenty of time for sex and to make up for it after baby arrives if your wife isn’t comfortable in having sex through pregnancy, also there’s other ways yous can have fun without sex 😊

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Hubbyisalsoexcited in reply toClaire2225

Thanx Claire

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Claire2225 in reply toHubbyisalsoexcited

No problem best thing is to be there for each other 😊 I’m blessed with our 2nd on the way we never thought we’d have children good luck 😊

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kroberts9

On a different note, if a pregnant woman has orgasms at least once a week it decreases her % chance of miscarriage and helps her maintain a healthy pregnancy. (So you could help out there.)

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roxannacar in reply tokroberts9

Any where is the evidence for this? Not sure how an orgasm would achieve this...

in reply tokroberts9

Usually mc happens if fetus is not developing properly. Nothing can help you prevent early mc, not even having orgasms every day. His partner have the right to say no to sex. She might be having morning sickness, tiredness, aches and pains... pregnancy takes a toll on our bodies. OP should get used to not getting everything he wants whenever he wants it. Once the baby is born, it will be sleepless nights, feeds and hills of laundry. I gave birth to my 2nd in January and the truth is, we have done the deed only 3 times since. You guys will be too busy and tired to even think about it. There are so many different ways to show each other your love. Just cuddle her and make sure you are as supportive as you can be.

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