Can arguing cause stress to my baby?

[Supermummy]

Hi Ladies, I am 28weeks pregnant and my husband and I keep fighting lately. I am worried as it causes more palpitations I go bright red..maybe my blood pressure goes up and I feel my tummy really tight. I also feel alot of movement from the baby in general I don't know what this stress is doing to me or the baby. My husband doesnt seem to understand. He never cuddles me also I am in tears many days and he tends to ignore me. I really don't know what to do and I am worried what effect this may have to our baby?

[Mum-of-three-to-be]

Hi, I'm sorry about your experience with your husband. Please check out the facts on emotional abuse and domestic violence.

I had a husband that sounds like yours. I didn't know he was emotional abusing me although felt that something is wrong and that thus can't be what marriage is about.

I felt like a pest. An unwanted ugly woman...which I never was...but he made me feel like that. No cuddles and no smiles towards me. It was awful. Not talking to bumb or touched it. As if he was goung to do ME a big favour that I didn't deserve.

They act the worst at oyr pregnancies as we are most vulnerable and don't have anywhere to run to...or so they think.

I am free from his shouting and grumpiness. Horrible looks and only looked into my eyes when he accused me of something. He was so sure he is the best, most clever, most capable and a "real" man there's, out there.

Praising your self is no recommendation.

Let me know how you get on. You aren't alone and it is great you found the courage to speak up here.

[Georgina_D in reply to Mum-of-three-to-be]

Tell him how you feel. Tell him baby kicks a lot when you are stressed (I have the opposite effect-my baby shows reduced movements when I am stressed).

Husband may be stressed too, but it's no excuse to shout at you. Consider couples counselling if you think your relationship can be saved. If it's an abusive relationship, you must seek help immediately for your sake and your baby's x

[MilkMan]

He may be stressed and unable to explain it properly which could come out as anger. Maybe try doing some written communication about feelings that you and he may be having, there must be something deeper going on that causes the arguing. Having a baby can strain any relationship and doesn't make things easier, so communication is vital to help things run better. People can be flexible when explained to and learn to change and adapt...