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[mummytobe98]

Hi, I'm 16 and pregnant me and the dad have been together for over 2 years now and although we are young we don't like the thought of aborting our baby so we've decided to keep it. The only problem is im scared to go to the doctors like what do I say to them and all that. I've also just recently lost my mum and I'm scared that when my dad finds out he'll end up abadoning me and I don't want to loose him. So does anyone know what I can say when I phone up the doctors?

[charleybeaar]

You need to go see your GP and let them know. So ring them and make an appointment. They may ask you to do a pregnancy test and someone should talk to you about what next about an ultrasound and midwife appointment.

I was a mum at 16 and although it wasnt easy for my parents they love my daughter and thats all that matters!x

[Hopeful15]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!! Time to grow into a mother very quickly You may be scared but now you have to put baby first. The GP is not there to judge you but to make sure you're healthy and that your baby has the best chance of survival. Your body is young and still growing so it is essential you get the right vitamins and nutrients to support both you and baby. The GP will help you and put you in contact with your midwife going forward who will also help you. There are many forms of help for young pregnant girls, so no need to feel alone. Check out NHS website for more info and also ask your GP. There is help for continuing studying to enable you to get a job to support you and your baby too. Ask lots of questions and surf the net, it's a great resource. You'll naturally be scared of telling your Dad, but the decision you've made means that you are no longer Daddy's little girl but a woman taking on the greatest female role and challenge there is. Take strength from this and step into your new shoes. Good luck and if you need anything just shout. It's not easy, no matter what your age (I'm 40 with my first, my mum passed away when I was 21 and my Dad still has issues!!) but there are a lot of mother hens on here who will be more than happy to listen and cheer you on xxx

[Josey78]

I too was a mum at 16, fell pregnant on my 16th birthday. It was hard to tell anyone and didn't find out till I was four month. I was supported by my mum (I'd put myself in foster care shortly before getting pregnant) but my step dad was not happy. Anyway that was over 19 years ago and currently due my seventh any day now. But as the others have said you will need to get on the midwives books so they can give you and your unborn child the best care possible. You have every one on here if you want any advice. And finally congratulations, welcome to pending motherhood xxx

[tazmania]

You just need to make sure you get your first appointment with the midwife and they will take it from there. Just phone GP surgery and say you need to set-up antenatal care - it will probably be straight to the midwife as these days you don't usually need to have the pregnancy confirmed by the doctor if you have had a positive result at home. When you see the midwife she will try to get an idea of how far gone you are - i.e. date of last period, not dates you had intercourse or anything like that - and ask about the health and living situations of you and the dad. This is to establish if there is any medical risk to the pregnancy etc - e.g. if your ethnicity puts baby at risk of certain illnesses that should be tested for, whether you have any health conditions like diabetes that need managing in order to protect you and baby. All these things. Being 16 you may later be handed over to a midwife that specialises in teen pregnancies - if you want one, that is. Don't forget you have just as much right to be a mum as any other woman in that clinic, regardless of age. The midwife will also arrange your first ultrasound scan to have the exact due date confirmed, the appointment will usually arrive in the post but if this is a concern in terms of your dad seeing it before you have had a chance to tell him, speak to your midwife about having it sent elsewhere. Hope this helps. It may seem bleak and scary right now, but with the right support you will both be fine. Sounds like you have the support of your partner which is really good and I am sure you will both be amazing parents. xxx

[mummy15]

Hey hunnie!

First of all Congratulations!!.. I am 16 and pregnant too, it is a scary situation I understand .. Call your GP try and make an appointment to see him or her. Explain to them that you found out you are pregnant, they will then ask you questions like ;; When was your last period.. how do you feel about being pregnant.. ect...

The doctor will possibly ask you to then do a pregnancy test at the doctors surgery, just to confirm your pregnancy.. They will then ask if your parent knows, if you have support also if you require extra support.. they will then advise you to call a midwife, to make an appointment to see one, the midwife will then come to your home and have a chat to you about baby, and your feelings ect..

Apologies for the long comment chick, just wanted to give you some advice, good luck! xxx