Much needed rant....

So, where do I start?? Husband has been working away Mon-Fri for last 5 weeks training for a new job which has left me caring for our 4 month old so who is an absolute star.

However, over the 5 weeks I feel more and more frustrated and trapped. I have a car and we got to various clubs but the one thing I want to do is get back to the gym. I'm totally ready but no-one to watch the baby. So vicious circle, I feel fat and want to get to the gym and can't so just feel more fat. We go for walks etc.., but it's not the same.

On top if this I have lost one of my favourite earrings bought for me when our son was born - I'm devastated and have cried several times which is crazy.

Then...husband comes home for good last night and Facetimes his mother who declares that she

hadn't seen her grandson for 5 weeks when not once did she ring or tx me when my husband has been away to see how we were. AND then has the cheek to declare my son as a 'Mummy's Boy'!!!!! How the hell would he be anything else when his Daddy is 250 miles away!!!! Furious!

Anyway...Daddy is back now so agreed he will get stuck in with child care routines etc and give me time to myself.

So, baby is asleep, husband is asleep so what the hell am I doing awake and crying over a lost earring???!!!!

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Mil are great aren't they oh I'm like that I wild be really upset and it would take me a while to get over losing an earring I would have to keep looking! ... now is the time to take a bit of time for u now oh its home and its Christmas tis the season to be jolly hope u feel better soon x

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Totally get u..I lost my bracelet tht my boyfriend got me 5 yrs ago...so gutted. Some mil r pains. ..I am lucky I get on with mine and she is close enough to look after him for me as my own mum is disabled. Hopefully now u can hav some u time which is liberating in itself and get too the gym. X

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Ah hun! It's hard isn't it! You are bound to be really upset over that earing! It's very important and holds special memories. I know it's not the same but could you look for a replacement?

I get that my son is a mummy boy all the time from my MIL. Well what else is he going to be? I carried him fir 39 weeks and have birth to him!!

I'm not a gym person myself! I'd rather stick pins in my eyes but I'm a lazy bigger and always cause myself an injury when I exercise! (That's ny main excuse any way!!) Must be hard though really wanting to get back into it and being stuck!! At you "attached" to your gym? Some have a craiche where you can leave them for an hour or so while you work out.

At least hubby is back now! Just make sure he does as he said he will and get stuck in!!! Men sometimes forget gettin stuck in is more than a feed and a bum change!! lol

Xx

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Hey rachgibson, I re-read your reply as it def rang true.

Hubby has been great since he's been back (hope it lasts) but it did make me laugh when I heard him tell him Mum 'well I've fed him 3 times today so that should help'!!!! Try everyday and night for 5 weeks and you might come close - bless him!!

All of this before promptly going out on a work Christmas party!!!

If you didn't laugh you'd have to cry - men really are something else!xx

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Sorry to read that u are feeling so down, but now OH is back, things can only get better!

Even though I havent been much of a gym bunny, I know I will want to try and get back into some kind of pre-baby shape (if not improved). However, I will be in the same boat as you with majority of childcare falling on my shoulders, I wont have time to go to gym. I plan on getting a few workout dvds to do while baby has a sleep in the moses basket nearby. Could this maybe help you when you find yourself without a chance to get to the gym?

I really hope OH keeps to his promise and u get a break. Try to ignore the mam-in-law, she needs to make an effort just as much as you guys, after all we all need meeting halfway in life. She does sound like a right ninnymuggins and OH needs to help fight ur corner, especially at this early stage to establish boundaries and expectations. In the meantime, we are always here to listen/read your much needed rants feel free to fill ur boots (as they say back in my hometown) xx

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Loving the word ninnymuggins! Am now going to try to get it into a conversation today. :o)

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Ahh thanks ladies!!! Still haven't the earring but hubby has promised we can look for some new ones which isn't the same but there we go.

Can't believe the MIL drives me so crazy, thankfully she lives in N.Wales are we're near Bristol so she can't just pop round!!

Had a lovely day so far with LO and hubby - Christmas Play this morning followed by lovely lunch.

Feeling a little more rational now!!

Thanks for listening xx